2006-09-15 01:26:40 · 17 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm married--I have a baby. I got married before I was pregnant--I'm just asking.
2006-09-15 01:34:13 · update #1
I don't believe it is, I think some people look down on it because its obvious you were having sex before marriage - but give me a break! It's year 2006 and the people staying celibate are now the minority. Another bad view of it is people think about how terrible you'll supposedly look in your dress - but i think pregnancy is beautiful no matter if your in jeans and a tee or a wedding gown. It shows that you are taking to appropriate steps towards making a better life for your baby by getting married and making the family bond official. You're on the right track if this is what you're doing. Rock on!
2006-09-15 01:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by yello_flower 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your own personal values. I personnally felt it was best for my husband and I to start a family after we were married and were financially secure. Marriage is a big adjustment. For us, all the problems that came up and had to be dealt with were encountered during the first two years after we were married. I couldn't imagine having to do this while also adjusting to a baby at the same time. Many do and it works and others don't work out so well. My sister had to do it - not marriage but she got pregnant just months after moving in with her boyfriend and the whole process was complicated by sleepless nights and the feeling of being stuck with it because of the baby. They got through it - married now and have two kids. So getting married while pregnant isn't necessarily a bad thing, just more difficult.
And then there are those who marry only because of the baby. I don't see this as helpful either because these people might not really belong together. - they marry, become unhappy, then end up resenting each other or the child for their unhappiness. These also sometimes work out - but you asked why is it bad and I focused on that.
2006-09-15 01:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a bad thing if they're getting married ONLY because the girl is pregnant. Such arrangements usually end in divorce.
2006-09-15 01:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is. I got married when I was 5 months pregnant. I looked at it as, at least we were trying to do the right thing, even if we did do it a little out of order. :) (Moved in together, became pregnant, bought a house, got married)
2006-09-15 03:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From an old world perspective the problem is that the baby is either not yours in which case there is a man out their with claims on your wife or it is yours and youhave just been lax in your responsibilities. Either way people will look down on you fro getting married to a pregnant woman.
2006-09-15 21:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with getting married while you're pregnant, however getting married just because you're pregnant is wrong.
No one should be expected to get married just because they ****** up. They should both take responsibility for their child, but they shouldn't be forced to marry if they dont' love each other, it will only results in damage to the child.
2006-09-15 04:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by E's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it .... had a wedding date set up for August ... found out in January we were pregnant & moved the wedding date to April (seeing as I was due in September - in 5 days to be precise!).
Whatever works!
I know people say "a baby isn't a reason to get married"
but if you love one another than can you think of a better reason?????
2006-09-15 03:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by princess4castle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married while I was pregnant but not because I was pregnant. He asked me to marry him before I was pregnant and the date was set... I didnt feel the need to change it just because I had a life in me!!
2006-09-15 01:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is always that questions in the back of peoples minds whether their mate married them "just" because of the baby... similar to .. Would he or she have married me if there wasn't a pregnancy involved...? Does he or she "really" love me...? It's not a bad thing to get married during a pregnancy, it just leaves a lot of questions and uncertainties open...
2006-09-15 03:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most people think there just getting married because there having a baby
2006-09-15 01:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by RoseAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋