I have been married for 14months now,my husband and i have been trying to 6months and no luck, ive been charting my ovulations, been taking folic acid, prenatal vitamins (pregnacare) for the past 7 months, lifting my legs in the air for 30mins every time after we finish, basically trying everything and NOTHING! I dont know what more i can do....im mentally stressed and physically tired, ive just booked myself a holiday for a few weeks just to get away and relax, to get my mind off things. Everyone keeps telling me to relax and not stress and not think about it but how can i not?? I dont smoke, dont drink, eat healthily...Can anybody else help me i need advice......
2006-09-15 01:15:25 · 15 answers · asked by missy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My husband and i both just turned 26 yrs old
2006-09-15 01:30:42 · update #1
Yeah sweets you need to relax. I've been reading up on all this stuff alot lately because I as well have been trying too also, but my husband has low sperm so I'm going crazy! He won't take the pills I've been giving him so I'm trying to do everything to make myself overly fertile to see what will happen. My cousin yells at me all the time telling me what your family tells you. IF YOU STOP THINKING ABOUT IT, IT WOULD HAPPEN!!!!! I feel the same way you do how can you! Maybe your husband needs to go get himself a check-up. It sounds like your doing everything you need to do, so maybe it's him. Talk to him an see if he'll cooperate. (You know men don't be to keen on all this baby-makin stuff), but just see what he says then maybe go from there. Other then that just try an relax an chill out go ahead and take that much needed vacation. "GOOD LUCK!"
2006-09-15 01:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by mzjaydawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about some yoga and meditation? They say really when people relax and just have sex for fun the baby will come. I know some people who had so much trouble. The were looking into adoption and boom she got pregnant. Other people adopt a baby and then get pregnant. It really is stress sometimes. Really putting your legs up and ovulation is not fun or romantic. Holiday is a good idea. Get some hobies. Go volunteer and do some nurturing. Just enjoy your husband. Try to get away from this crazy stress. Just realize you have a nice man. Keep taking the vitamins because anyone who is not protected from pregnancy should. Do not drink or smoke either. Keep healthy, but take the pressure off yourself and let what happens happens. Enjoy your husband and the love you share. Do not do gross stuff to do with fertility just be romantic and celebrate the love of being a newly wed. Celebrate your life and the wonder of your life. I am sick right now. I would love to be just healthy. I still enjoy my life what I have of it. Just try to enjoy your health. I wish I had a husband like you. I just enjoy what I have. I cannot get out of the house much, but I enjoy what I can. How about you enjoying your husband and your health and doing some volunteer work for people less fortunate or some animals that are abanodoned. How about just giving some love to that husband? I know it is hard and eveyones pain is their own, but please enjoy what you have.
2006-09-15 08:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when people tell you to relax and not stress. Easy for them to say. I can sympathize w/ you. I know how hard it is every month you think you just might be and then your period comes. My husband got to the point he didn't want to try anymore because of the emotional roller coaster I was on. I'd cry like a baby when I'd start.How are you charting your ovulation? I did mine and thought we were catching it during my peak time. We tried for 9 months. At 8 months I went to the doctor and asked how long was too long before I worry. He said to give it a year. But, he told me to get ovulation predictor kits. I did and used them right away. Come to find out I wasn't ovulating when I thought. I got my surge line caught the egg!! The next month I was pregnant. Went back to the doctor and thanked him. Those kits were a God send. So if you haven't tried them buy some. When you get your surge line lock the door turn off the phone and get together at all cost. Good luck & keep your chin up it will happen for you. Just have fun trying & don't let it turn into a chore.
2006-09-15 08:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband's sperm count checked. If you know you are ovulating, then that would be the next step. If his count is okay, then make an appointment with your OB. You could have something as simple as a hormone imbalance. That isn't something you can control with diet.
Take the holiday - it will be good for you to relax. However, I don't agree with all those people that say "just stop trying and it will happen". For some, that works. But for many, like me, that doesn't work because I don't ovulate regularly and need medication to help me ovulate. We have a healthy baby girl after 13 months ttc and we are in our 5th month ttc again.
Best of luck to you!
2006-09-15 09:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may do you some good if the two of you went to a fertility doctor. Your husband may have a low sperm count, you could have endometriosis, who knows? You won't know until you see a specialist. They will run a series of tests to pinpoint the problem- if there is one. From there, you can decide on how to go about getting over the hurdle. You didn't state how old you are... If you're younger than 30, there would be more cause for concern. If not, I would wait a year before seeing a doctor; fertility naturally decreases with age.
2006-09-15 08:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Suz E. Home BAKER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP TRYING!!
The more you fixate on it (and I know you've been asking Q regarding this for a while), the more stressed you'll become. Babies are concieved when you least expect it. Has sex become a means to an end?? Get back to enjoying it. My sis in law was told they had fertility problems and they'ld need IVF (after 2 yrs trying). This meant she resigned herself to not having a baby naturally - and 4months later she was pregnant. 2 years on and she has 2 gorgeous boys! I know it's frustrating trying to concieve. Take a break - stop trying for 3 or 4 months, keep up the good lifestyle - it'll definitely help. If nothing happens after a year or 2 of trying - then see a doctor to rule out fertility probs - but these things do take time (3years of unprotected sex and we finally got our son).
Good luck.
2006-09-15 08:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say that it will happen when you're not thinking about it. Try not to stress too much. The most fertile time for a woman is actually 2-3 days BEFORE ovulation, so charting might not necessarily give you the best times. You might want to try the "baby dance" every other day during the week that you know you'll be ovulating, that'll increase your chances.
Once you've been trying for over a year with no results it's time to see a fertility specialist.
2006-09-15 08:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come on people....she is being serious.....give her some good answers!
I had the same problem about a year ago, we did everything and could not get pregnant! We went to make sure we were both ok (fertile) and when we found out we were both fine then we knew it was only time and everything would happen! And of course it did.....we are five months pregnant with a little boy!
Just relax and let nature take its course!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-15 08:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by melhnly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax...6 months comapred to the normal 1-2 or even three years is nothing. Pregnancy doesn't just happen right away...it takes time. Enjoy having the "practice" instead of making it like a job! Have fun, relax, and it will come sooner than you think. If it is meant to be then it will be - maybe you are not "meant" to have one right now. Maybe in another 6 months you will ! :)
Happy practicing! ;-)
2006-09-15 09:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the parents center web site and they have a ovulation calander chart ~ you have to fill out some infor about yourself and your periods..and it will give you *I THINK a years worth of days that you should be ovulating.
I know you want a baby really bad...BUT maybe the stress of NOT getting pregnant...is causing this! It will happen when you're NOT planning it...I know this is how I had my last son...Yeah..the same one that has kept me up for 3 solid nights in a row...and he won't nap...Be a parent...it's fun!!...>? LOL
2006-09-15 08:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋