This pregnancy wasn't really planned, and I'm not so old fashioned that I need to be a married mother. But I'd hate it if my baby would get bullied because it's parents aren't married.
Oh - I do know who the father is: he's a robot just like me, isn't it wonderful?
2006-09-15 01:10:06 · 34 answers · asked by Not Your Friend 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do you realise that if you marry that gorgeous hunk-a-junk, he will leave a trail of a thousand broken hearts behind him! All of them despairing that they are not 'the one', all of them sobbing in anguish because he didn't chose them - ALL of them out to get YOU for stealing their ONE...TRUE...LOVE!
2006-09-15 02:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes- It is the proper thing to do. But from experience.....let me say that I became pregnant with my son about 5 months into a dating relationship with his father. I don't think that was long enough to make a "lifelong" decision. We married and divorced five years later. The baby will have a mother and father regardless of if you share the same last name. The real test will be to see how you go through the pregnancy together and the birth. That will say alot about your relationship and it's longevity. A child would rather come from a broken home than to live through the trauma of being in a home with two parents that hate eachother.
2006-09-15 01:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. My partner and I had been together for over 7 years. We'd discussed marriage a number of times and both knew it was something we wanted to do once we had finished spending our money on nights out / holidays / gadgets. Like yourself I had an unplanned pregnancy (to those of you who have commented that there is no such thing as an unplanned pregnancy, beware.....I had fibroids, an ovarian cyst and had been on the pill for 10 years and still managed to get pregnant !).
We faced the same dilemma as yourself, should we get married before the baby was born. In the end we decided to go ahead with it. We married in August and had a fantastic day. Everyone who was there was happy for us. There was no shame attached, people knew that we would have done it eventually anyway. Neither of us regret the decision, it's brought us even closer together and we're now just really excited about the imminent arrival of our first child.
In short, marriage during a pregnancy is nothing to be ashamed of as long as love is the main factor.
Godd luck with everything, i'm sure you'll make the decision that's right for you.
2006-09-15 06:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gail H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get married just for the child. The baby will be better off in a non-marital home that is full of love, than a married home strained by the fact that it is "the right thing to do". If you really love each other and we engaged BEFORE the pregnancy then go for it, if not wait until the baby comes because there is another level of stress that is added, just wait and see what happens. The baby could bring you closer or farther apart and it is horrible going through a divorce! Good luck with your baby and your relationship.
2006-09-15 01:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by what 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm on my husband's screen name. But, Don't get married just because you are pregnant. My husband did that and found out it was a huge mistake with his first marriage. We didn't get married until our daughter was 2 1/2 years old. We made sure that we had a house first. We now have custody of his 2 from his first marriage and just recently his 12 year old daughter asked why we get along so well and he never got along with her mother. He was totally honest with her and explained that he thought he was doing the right thing for his daughter because he loved her so much. Thank God he has a very mature daughter so he could be honest with her. She understood completely and is happy that her Dad is happy.
2006-09-15 01:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by riggledj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! PLEASE DONT!!!!!
Its SO wrong to get married just cos ur pregnant. People should marry because they are in LOVE- not cos a little pleasure (sex) went wrong!
If u do, by the time the child is a todler problems will start creeping up in ur marrige because u guys never loved each other in the first place! That will mess the child up mentally even more!!
And as for u dont want ur child 2 be bullied- WAKE UP!!!!
we live in the 21st century!!! no1 will bully ur child cos of that!! not when 48% of parents are divorced themselves!!!
2006-09-15 04:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by crystalxuk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boy's father and I were never married. Our boys do not get picked on because of that. Think of it this way, would you want to get married right now if you were not preganant? That is the best way to answer your question. You do not have to get married just because you are pregnant. That is one sure way to know that divorce will most likely be in your future. Get married because it is what you want, not because of a baby. Your child can have two loving parents either way!!!
2006-09-15 01:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by dienna c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is not a reason to get married. I think the days of kids being bullied are long gone, the schools are full of single mothers, so what it's not a stigma. Marriage is a piece of paper, you shouldnt get married because of other people's ignorant attitudes, you should bet married because you want to.
2006-09-15 01:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you get married it should because you love each other and want to spend the rest of your life together..
You and the babys father can live together without getting married, and still provide for you child the same as if you were married.
2006-09-15 01:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Hazza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to parents and consellors about whether it is right in your case. I know more about people than robots. Most people find that it is the right thing to do. Mental instability and other issues may make a person not a fit mate. One lady admitted to me that she doesn't understand why or how she gets pregnant. She has at least 6 kids.
2006-09-15 03:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get the whole robot thing but,whatever.I did'nt get married the first time I got pregnant,we were'nt right 4 eachother,marriage would only make it worse.The second time,I got married when I was 4 mnths pregnant.we wanted a child and wanted 2 b married.It did'nt matter in what order.the point is,don't get married cause u think u have 2,it could only make things more difficult.
2006-09-15 01:26:10 · answer #11 · answered by bootyfuldisaster83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋