how do i get over a loved one death after five years
2006-09-15 00:39:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
My Mom has been gone for over 20 years now the hurt and pain still brings tears to my eyes even now.
I talk about her to my grand kids now it helps so much.
My grand daughter is 8 and we will be talking about her as if she was borne and grown up with her in her life!
After five years it was still to raw for me too, but find someone that really like him too and sit and talk about him as if he was in the other room.
I am so sick lately that I am slowly preparing my grand kids for my death by talking about ""When Oma is in heaven"" and what I plan to be doing.... and I hope they will talk and laugh at some of the things we are saying now.
Your words "get over" are hard... Do you really want to "get over" this person or just the pain? I never want to get over Mom she was just to great a person to ever forget.
Love and Honor the memory
Good Luck
2006-09-15 00:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by omapat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over it. Death is hard. Only time can ease the pain. Still, you will never get over it. My brother died in a hospital almost three years ago. After his death I had serious depression the year that followed. The year after that I was just depressed. The depression has gone away and I love life even more now because I've been through hell and now I appreciate the little things. I feel like before my brothers death I wasn't fully living life. Now I am at a very highpoint in my life and I feel like I am living life to the fullest, but I still remember my little brother.
2006-09-15 00:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont really get over it. You learn to live with it. Each person grieves in a different way and at a different time. If after 5 years, you aren't where others are, that is not the endo f the world. However, if you are not able to do the activities of daily living, there is a problem. If you feel that you have issues that need to be dealt with, then contact your county health department and see if there is someone there who can help you along the grieving path.
2006-09-15 03:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever get over losing a loved one.I know how you feel.I lost my mother suddenly 3 years ago when I was 9 months pregnant.I go to grief counseling just to cope with the loss.It took me 3 years to get counseling.I find that talking about it with another you love maybe a family member can help a little.It's hard you would think as the years pass it gets easier but sometimes I know it's rough.Sorry for your loss.
2006-09-15 00:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time grieving and just keep loving them. My dad has been gone over a year and I will never get over this. I am still grieving over my uncle who has been gone for over 10 years. It gets a little better each year, but that person will always be a part of your life and will always be loved. Everyone grieves differently, dont try to rush it.
2006-09-15 00:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by cfoxwell99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never get over it but you do come to terms with it. Try thinking of it as he/she has gone on a long trip and one day you will both meet up again. I do know that this person would want you to be happy so be sure you are doing things that you enjoy in life. Remember your loved one with a smile.
2006-09-15 00:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to get over the death of a loved one. you will never forget but it gets easier as time goes by. try to only remember the happy times you had with him.
2006-09-15 00:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DON'T....my Dad died 16 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I 'bout stroked out myself when he passed away, but I think about the good times we had and every day it gets a little easier, but you never ever get over it....you just have to find a hobby or maybe go out sometime---they wouldn't want you being alone.
PS) You may need counseling...
2006-09-15 00:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamcatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would desire to be extremely stressful fairly around this time of twelve months whilst families are meant to be mutually. Have some faith and have confidence that they are in an more advantageous place and sometime you will see them back. one ingredient that I even have chanced on via the years is that speaking approximately those human beings and remembering the sturdy cases continually enables contained in the mourning technique. Do you celebrate Christmas? in case you have a Christmas tree you could place an ornament in honor of each and every individual. that would help you "see" them there with you. Sorry on your loss sweetie, i desire this enables some.
2016-09-30 23:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by haslinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never get over it ,as time goes on you learn to live with that hole in your heart,the thing is not to hold yourself back by wallowing in past memories but to go forward with your life and cherishing the good memories.Remember they are happy and free and you are a self imposed victim of the greiving process..free yourself...the loved would not want you to endure endless melancholy days...htey would want you to be happy and move forward but also cherishing their memories
2006-09-15 00:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋