So, im 29, i feel 22. Lifes going nowhere. Im just waiting to die. Sure im married, ive had fast cars, pets, i can cook.. Ive traveled throughout most of the western world, and a bit of the east.
I dont want kids, yet.
I have maybe 60 years left, if im lucky, i dont want to just wait to die, and no this isnt a birthday aboration, its how i normally feel.
I guess once i left schooling, i lost direction, I dont want more stuff, i have all the stuff i could want. Ive done loads of stupid terrifying things, i dont want to go sky diving etc..
Im just not happy doing nothing, and existing, but i cant figure out, how to spend all the spare hours.
I read, i dont watch tv, i do walk places, i do explore, but non of it is fullfilling
So what do i do now? How do i get out of the rut(or is it just life)?
Im not asking so much what you do for fun, more what do you do to stay alive, what makes days worth while.
Please nonthing like, oh see a doctor.. your depressed, or find god answers!
2006-09-15 00:23:28 · 21 answers · asked by yeah well 5 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I have talked to the wife, she has no ideas, and all my m8's, no ideas there.. I have voulenteered, i dont get anything from it..
2006-09-15 00:31:01 · update #1
Thank God.
At least I now know I am not the only one who feels that way.
I'm 36 now and yes, the years pass so quick.
I'm not sure we have much to look forward to.
I find it helps to have friends or college's to advise on any subject.
Seems to give meaning.
Or look to the past, as I often do, and try to emulate your parents.
They are mostly from a time that had purpose, though not maybe fulfilment.
Life is life. It's all we have. Try to leave something, other than just feel sorry for yourself.
We all feel that way
Good luck, and God bless.
2006-09-15 00:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"So, im 29, i feel 22. Lifes going nowhere. Im just waiting to die. Sure im married, ive had fast cars, pets, i can cook.. Ive traveled throughout most of the western world, and a bit of the east.
I dont want kids, yet."
why dont you want kids yet? you're about to turn 30. i think for any man that is the perfect time to have kids. you wouldnt want kids when ur turning 40 coz by at least 50, you want to spend some time with ur wife and ur wife only and your kids by then are 20 years old and they should be off to college getting their own life started. also you have said that you've done everything already from sky diving...travelling the world etc. and like you said what else is there left to do.. and i think you're only missing one thing.... CHILDREN..maybe having children will make you appreciate life more and the most important thing is to feel CONTENT with what you have finally....
2006-09-15 00:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gosh, I am 58 and feel like you.
The difference is that you have years in front of you and all I can look toward is getting very old..............you are so young.
Be grateful that you are not afflicted with old people's disease like arthritis. I have gone through breast cancer too.
Though you do not want to hear it, check in your family history. Is there a history of depression? You could have (probably have) a brain chemical imbalance, an imbalance that is causing you to feel this way in light of your positive surroundings.
Go to a good internist. He would probably suggest talk therapy with a good therapist and possibly a good medication.
Do not look back, years from now, and regret that you did not take full advantage of your youth. With an uplifted mood, you will start to have more enthusiasm for life, and will will realize what you need to do to bring you more joy in life. Only you can know that.
The very best of luck and success to you.
There is an old saying that youth is wasted on the young............don't waste yours.
There is an old song that says "Life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone". It is a common condition. Cannot recall the singer right now, but he was a young man when he wrote it. Sounds like he was in some pain related to yours.
2006-09-15 00:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have what most people would work a life time for and still not get it. My guess is that perhaps this came too easy and life has become humdrum and lacks challenge. Try something new - something that has nothing to do with you and will not get you any material rewards. Go to the nearest homeless shelter and volunteer to serve food. Call the local Big Brothers and volunteer to change the life of a young boy. Or choose something else that appeals to you. Your life will take on a different direction. Good luck!
2006-09-15 00:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost forgot about you... like I said on email... pull yourself together and stop bloody moaning.... take a look in Darfur to see what real suffering is! You are 29 not 89.... 60 years left? If you were my husband... you would have about 2 minutes left before I put you out of your bloody misery....
Why don't you try watching TV... may I suggest Jeremy Kyle... you will soon start to feel better about your own life.....
2006-09-16 08:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie29uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to break out of this negative mindset syndrome that you have going on here! There is more meaning to life then you realize but each one of us are individuals and what works for me might not work for you!
I would like to give you an answer here but I honestly don't know what to say! You have said it all! So I guess since that is the case then the ball is in your court and you just have to run with it and solve this dilemma your own self.
2006-09-15 05:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh if you feel old, what on earth should I feel about my self at 50!!!!! You have made me quite depressed, at least you have done alot of things which I have never done or had. I must say though I have got children and they are a wonderful - in fact the best thing in my life.
Maybe this is the answer for you???
Think about it.
2006-09-15 00:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur married,then talk about this with ur partner.Life has ups and downs but u can't think of ending ur life just bcos it's a rut 4 u.Talk 2 ur spouse.
2006-09-15 00:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by aditi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to identify a sense of pourpose...a sense of pourpose is what drives people on a daily baisis ..examine your life and identify what it is that gives you a sesne of being...for some it is a hobby they are passionate about...for others its nurturing/ providing for the family...everyone is a little differenr in what drives them...i will not give specifics as the /your sense of pourpose can only be identified by you..the suggestion i offer is by the way you sound you are self reflecting on the negative...try some positive self reflection and you will probably discover your inner sense of pourpose...and judging from your question i bet it wont be anything material.
2006-09-15 00:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to hear the truth, So I'm left with telling you that you are burned out. For starters my guess is that you are not in love with your wife, and probably need to be free of her. Could probably use some real friends as well.
2006-09-15 00:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋