ive never thought of myself being homosexual. until i met someone who was. Me being the guy who does not shun people out for who they are, soon befriended this guy and now im in love! i went with the flow, and all i can think about is him! The sex was different and very pleasureable. However when im in the act, im enjoying but once im done, i regret it alot! What is wrong with me?
2006-09-14 23:53:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You don't mention your age, I'm assuming mid to late teens. This may even apply if you aren't a teenager any more, I'm not sure.
Curiosity, maybe brought you "out of the closet" and confusion sets in when the act is done.
I wish I could offer you sound advise on this subject, but I can't. I can only offer this; Take a moment and take a deep breath.
Are you sure it's Love? Could it infatuation? Could it be 'a walk on the wild side' for you?
If your heart and your brain are giving you two different stories, then you need to sit down and logic it out.
Are you happy with this guy? Does he do for you, emotionally, what girls do most other guys? Are you letting society dictate how you should feel about this?
And there's probably a hundred other questions you're asking yourself, but take a moment to understand why you like this guy and why you should be feeling quilt afterward.
I'm sure you can figure it out on your own should you sit down and think about it seriously and without a lot of outside interference.
Good Luck to you.
2006-09-15 00:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might talk to a counselor, but...from what limited information you gave, it might just be that you've still got all the societal baggage about how awful homosexuality is. I used to have a similar issue just from fantasies; you're taught all your life that this is wrong, disgusting, blah blah blah. And on an intellectual level, you probably know that that's inaccurate, but on another level, it takes awhile to get rid of that stuff. I would recommend talking to someone else, because it may just as well be some other issues going on: maybe there's some reason you feel guilty or somesuch.
Sidenote: glad to hear you're not too hung up on labels. Best of luck.
2006-09-16 04:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may be considered a radical once you, or anyone else hear what I have to say, but I think you should go to God and ask him to help you. I care... I'm not just trying to make you feel any particualar way, but I deal with bad depression and the Lord Jesus is always there for me whether I think he's there, or not.
2006-09-15 06:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkleberrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look..the gay life is just one time pleasure..it take u no where..get away from the homo..get urself a gal and think about family life..remember..a happy family consists of man and woman and their children if they may have..not man and another man..its fake..god made us to be couples (man and woman)..
one more thing..u must not think that having a good sex will make u happy..there are other things to considered...wake up man..make ur decision now before its too late..
2006-09-15 07:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by atokboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you regret it if youre in love? look, there is NOTHING wrong with you. the only reason you "regret" it is because youre afraid someone will find out. but you cant be afraid of the public society, that won't help you one bit. just be yourself, people will praise you for it.
2006-09-15 08:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla-Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Many people have sex and wish they hadnt afterward. You are no different. The fact that your partner was the same sex has nothing to do with it.
2006-09-15 06:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the problem is that all your life you have been told that it is wrong. but if you really love this guy and it is not sexual then go for it . i feel that there is nothing wrong with being gay. i feel you only live one so be happy. good luck with your feelings
2006-09-15 07:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You know how you feel, trust yourself. you may well be bisexual. Woody Allen i think it was said bisexuals have a 50 percent chance more of getting a date.
2006-09-15 07:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either come completly out of the closet of stay the hell in there.
2006-09-15 06:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you feeling guilty which is crime else not.
2006-09-15 07:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by pratap n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋