My current girlfriend told me of an affair she had over a decade ago. She had been with her then-bofriend about 10 years. We were talking about the situation and she seemed to be very angry thinking about it. When I referred to the affair guy as a "friend", she corrected me and said "he was a co-worker", that he "influenced me" because " I was vulnerable" and "if I wasn't having a crisis, it never would have happened".
2006-09-14 23:51:33 · 18 answers · asked by phil5775 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say this;
Some men and women are very good at detecting any venerability in a relationship and they swoop in and take advantage of the situation. They usually begin as a "friend" to the individual and they listen to the individual as he/she opens up to them about their intimate relationship problems. Their "friendship" becomes almost like an addiction as the "friend" offers validation, understanding and a shoulder on which to cry. They offer advice and say things that the vulnerable individual needs and wants to hear because they have the insider information. ( you are so beautiful....I would never treat you like that...you and I are "soulmates" I can be everything that you need.......etc) Their intention is to divide and to conquer. Slowly the "friend" begins to become a third party in what was a party of two and takes advantage of the weakness.
Often, when this third party has completely destroyed a relationship, they become different people. They take off their mask of compassion and reveal their true characters. I think many people, both men and women are deceived by "friends" and once the initial excitement is over, they realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the pasture and I think they do regret their affair.
Hind sight is always 20/20!
2006-09-15 00:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Free Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize for your girlfriend. I also had an affair which I regret to this day. My marriage was in trouble (I was married to a workaholic -80 to 90 hours a week - who was also messing around with co-workers) and instead of dealing with it, I ignored the problems which left me lonely, depressed, and much in need for attention (I wasn't getting it at home). Well, my then-husband's great friend was there for me. But before long, he turned on the charm. I was stupid enough to fall for it. He knew what I wanted and needed to hear. Of course, I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't help it. To this day (and from day one) it was my biggest mistake and will regret it till the day I die. My marriage didn't end when I confessed to my husband, but it did make matters worse. But at least he understood why it happened. After that, I've learned how to be stronger (as a person) and not let people take advantage of me when I'm down. So does that help your question or did I just ramble on for my own benefit? :)
2006-09-15 00:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do some dont regret it because some affairs becomes a good source of lifetime experience but those who regrets it are those who just enjoy the temporary joy that they've
shared illegally without thinking about the after effect of the for bidden relationship
2006-09-14 23:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes to that for the simple reason is you might be pushed into getting someone back for hurting you in the way that you hurt them but I could not go all the way but I still felt the regret for doing what I did
2006-09-15 00:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I also regret having an affair. But I can't change the past. So I just let it be and don't wanna recall it.
2006-09-14 23:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships or affairs that a person has been involved in and feels like they've been duped, played, lied to or guilty would more then likely become regretful in ones life's experiences. One that you would be more then happy to forget it completely.
2006-09-15 00:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regret only if they are caught and their partner doesn't love them anymore. Otherwise they would still carry on. They feel they are having their cake and eating it too.
2006-09-15 05:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so! They regret it when it doesn't work out the way that they want to, most of the time...
2006-09-14 23:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Natanja v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes at times
2006-09-14 23:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never had one, but if I did and had a partner I'm sure I would have trouble looking her in the eye.
2006-09-14 23:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by oooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋