Well basically we were engaged and together for two years we were really happy, then one weekend i catch him with another girl, when i catch him he says he doesnt love me, etc. so later that night he says he still does love me and its his sister, he doesnt have a sister, then he tells me its his mate so i told him i could never trust him again. so we still chat and i say to him ill give him another chance, but he says hes had a breakdown and needs time to recover. so i go round his house to get some answers and he gets an ercetion just from talking to me and says that if i move anycloser he might have to shag me. so another time i go to his house and he has a love bite and when i asked him about it he just said him and his mate were fighting. he alwyays turns his phone off at weekends, ive recently pretended to be someone else and its affirmative hes cheating on her. he still wears my tshirts and has my photos, does he still love me or am i just imagining this? thier is other things 2
2006-09-14 23:40:23 · 34 answers · asked by vicky s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im not with him now, i actually seeing someone else, but when he wqas with me he did treat me right,
2006-09-14 23:48:35 · update #1
Im not with him, i havent even spoke to him properly for about 4 weeks, apart from the other day when he rang me to ask why i emailed his girlfriend, shes admitted to me but he wont, and he still emails me and such. i think he loves me. but the thing is she was only a bit on the side as he was spose to me moving in with me. but coz i caught him , i fucked up his plan , the thing is i dont want him to come running back to me when im in a happy relationship, i dont mind being his friend, he dont even love her coz he told someone he dont even know i know and he told me and my mate that his friend has one boob bigger than the other. now u dont do that if you love someone. the thing is we didnt use protection and im worried he might pass something on to her. although i have nothing i have already been checked
2006-09-14 23:55:12 · update #2
for fifth time i have moved on, im not with him now, ive got a new bf. its just fraustrating as i dont want him to interfere. its hard aswell as we went through a lot trogether and done alot of stuff. he told my workmates , my manger and his family and my family he loved me.
2006-09-15 00:15:01 · update #3
He's a serial flirt, liar & cheater.
It's so much better you found out before you married him!
He may care for you in his own twisted way but he loves no one.
Try to stay away from him & count this as a learning experience under your belt.
If you go back to him he will continue to do this, then you will feel worse then you do now.
Be safe & Good Luck hun :-)
CT
2006-09-14 23:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have all been there and all these muppets saying kick him in the nuts or he is using you are talking balls and they know it. It took me and an ex years to get over each other, we went back and for she even went abroad for a year and it continued when she came back, you should maybe try one more time but address the issues with the love bites, phone turned off, and lies first. If he cant keep things normal you then know, get the closure you want so you can move on but you never know things may be perfect and you could live happy ever after. I got my closure and moved on and am now happier then ever with two kids and an impending wedding with the woman of my dreams.
2006-09-15 00:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear I'll say he is only in love with you when he has a hard on and as far as i am concerned he will be in love with anyone when he has a hard on.All that he wants is the satisfaction of being intimate.Stop worrying about him all that he has done for you is avoiding you and I suggest that you do the same.Where there is a disappointment there is an opportunity.What he is doing to you is a disappointment and acknowledging the fact that he is a great disadvantage for you and by him disappointing you ,you will find an opportunity to love some one and someone to love you again
2006-09-14 23:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most likely does have feelings for you, but he is getting the best of both worlds at the moment he gets to shag around and you are still there for him, you will not feel this at the moment but you need to get rid and find somebody better. Do not contact him, do not go see him, do not answer his calls, keep away from him, if he really really wants you and loves you he will realise he has made a mistake and come back and beg forgiveness, but then you would not be able to trust him and leopards do not always change their spots. Go live your life and enjoy it without him, take care.
2006-09-14 23:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no wonder he's confused and messed up. Your question makes no sense at all. Why are you bothered if he still loves you or not? he's obviousely not going to be faithfull to you so he doesn't love you. If he gets an erection it's because he is lusting for you, because he probably thinks you are a bit naeive and easy to persuade. And why are you bothered about him passing something onto his friend who just happens to have one boob bigger than the other? It sounds like you both deserve each other to me
2006-09-15 00:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this guy has anything about him that would make him a good catch for you... he lies, he cheats, he lies some more and you never know where you are with him. Seems to me the only thing he loves is himself and the idea of 'having his cake and eating it'. For your own sake walk away and forget about this guy, you deserve better than this and one day he'll wake up to himself but by then you'll be happy with another guy who does deserve you.
2006-09-14 23:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey do't be fooled this guy just wants to use you.
it also happened to me i was introduced as a friend and his ex as his love but mine was different he came back and stopped playing games but if yoz is still play games yo not very old to fail to get someone who can sweep yo feet of the ground.
first weight yo feeling how much do u love him look at the positive and the negatives be4 u act.
play yo cards right also you can get a man friend and u see his reactions if he becomes jealosy then u will know he still loves u.
Don't tie yoself on one man when there mant waiting to have u.
2006-09-15 00:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by Halicate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagining it-- He doesn't love you if he did he wouldn't be doing whay he is, getting up to no good. He never did love and respect you.
Somewhere along the line he got fed up but didnt have the balls to say so and decided to cheat on you. Never mind him getting over it you need to just leave well alone. you got the answer you were expecting from a cheat..
2006-09-14 23:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest by the sounds of it you are hoping you will get back together - you say you are over him. you are so not over him. Leave hime well alone and move on with your life. Hanging onto the past causes more trouble in the long run.
2006-09-15 01:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said your with some one else! So leave this loser in the past where he belongs as by now he will have a huge reputation as a womaniser! And can NEVER EVER be trusted!
2006-09-14 23:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋