He is shy in opening up with me ,i feel hurt,
If i ask for sex all the time i feel low and bad , its hurting my soul and heart.
only sensible answers and advise please!!
2006-09-14 22:56:15 · 16 answers · asked by nisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way to sort this is to get into his mind hun! He needs to open up to you! Find ways of earning his trust so that he can feel he can trust you! Maybe he is just really shy or worried about not satisfying you? Or maybe he just doesnt like sex? That could be hard to deal with if you love him so much! I hope you find a solution to this problem.. but just be patient with him and try not to push him too much.. he'll open up to you eventually! Best of luck hun x
2006-09-14 23:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by charlie_baby1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Natasha,
I used to think that I was a soulless person because I would only go out with a girl if she was willing to have sex with me before we were married. But I have now come to realize that everyone is different and we all have different needs in order to feel full filled and happy. I am not saying that sex is all that counts, but for some people (i am one of those) it is an essential part of the relationship. I find it a great one to get closer to my partner - I feel that a relationship without intimacy might as well just be a friendship.
If your partner is different to you on this level, then perhaps you need to look at the option of becoming just friends, maybe it would make you both feel better, as I am sure that you asking for it all the time makes him feel uncomfortable too.
Hope this works out for you!
2006-09-15 06:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by masteroflisa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now this is the time , you must take the lead , feed him well all the three meals , create sensuous atmosphere in the evening by keeping your bedroom colorful with dim light and soft music . Make it a point , before going to bed take a shower and wear , really seducing nightly and as suggested take a lead to seduce him very very slowly by hugging / kissing or make him lie down on the bed and start pressing his body starting from the legs, its including caressing also . After few months , scene may be reverse , I can bet .
2006-09-15 06:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one he shouldn't be shy with. Ask him if there is something you are doing that makes him feel self conscious. If he says no, then he really may have a low drive. If he doesn't want to see a doctor (urologist) to make sure it's not physical, then you have to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. Is it something that you can spend the next 40 years + being frustrated about?
2006-09-15 06:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by mustlovefur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling.. If you love them and love them more than anything, you wait and are understanding. If you don't love them with all of your heart and don't feel like you are meant to be with each other, then leave. Tell him how you are feeling, tell him that it is depressing you. Have him go to the dr, there are plenty of things that can be done, it could be anything from low levels of testostrone to something really serious.
2006-09-15 06:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be fraustrated....dont feel u become mean..so cheap...as u r wife ..lover so u have right enought to get full sexual satisfaction from him...so try to get it with full of love....make her hot and romantic with your attitude,hot stuffs,movement,dress,,...sometimes bit of naughtyness...sometimes by touching...let touch your body slightly from his back or ur back to his front...sometimes just kiss him...and do it for whole day...both of you will be very excited once...and take the advantage of that...be more naughty and make him naughty by saying some hot words, nasty with loveable words...make him shameless...touch her pennis...take his hand and let him touch his hand to your pussy, breast...and different parts...and do the most hot stuffs...may be after whole of the day and may be even after midnight...but somehow do it...for at least once...after making him too much hot by slowly movement of porcessing of final sexual mission....
let me know..if my suggestion works..if you need it more clearly,describely and effectively..let me know...as a friend i will help you honestly regarding this matter...i beleive you will be the gainer
2006-09-15 06:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Russel Mehedi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow the tips;
1; first talk to him before sex and discuss sex
2' watch TV or sexy film
3; try to massage him (all the parts)
4; undress your body slowly
5; kiss him hard
hope he will initiate sex but if not he is impotent
2006-09-15 06:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by naeemwazir68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Endorphin and male hormone enhancing mental exercises.
2006-09-15 06:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by nomedicationman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-15 06:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs counseling and perhaps you do too. If he doesn't want to be with you then find someone else. It's not your fault.
2006-09-15 06:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋