My husband has relationships with other women via the internet with at least on of them saying that he is "...i couldnt ask for a more devoted and understanding friend, a more seductive, enticing, alluring lover". Does anyone agree with me that this is cheating.
2006-09-14 22:11:27 · 20 answers · asked by Born a Fox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if the chatting goes on when you can see what he puts,i would say no however if the screen is suddenly closed when you come into a room i would think there was something to hide,,not good,people doing wrong cover it up.given there are only two sexes it has to be male or female at the end of the day and he may just enjoy the friendship without the effort of having to meet up ,go for drinks,share problems and such,,only worry if he gives you cause to.
2006-09-14 23:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya,
If I were you I would ask him if he's really serious when he's chatting online or just for fun and then see what's the answer and look into his eyes you would know the truth if he's really serious with the person online or not and see how often he's chatting online to in each day, if it's more than 4 times a day,then you'd stop and think if he's really get into deep relationship to that online friends. Then ask him to spend more times with you, just talk nice to him about how you feel you know, then you will feel better and not worried too much. Anyway, I don't think he's cheating if he doesn't go out with that person in real life and do anything wrong.
All the best.
2006-09-14 23:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by Oww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT IS EMOTIONAL CHEATING : read here --> The reason people have emotional affairs is they are looking for emotional nourishment on some level that they are not getting in their main relationship, added Ann Langley, a marriage and family therapist at the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Centre.
A 49-year-old mother of two teenagers fell into an emotional affair with a man who flirted with her online a few years ago. He was romantic and a great communicator, everything her then-husband was not. The woman has no intention of trying to woo the man away from his wife and daughter, she said, and they have met about four times. "It is safe," said the woman. "He knows I wouldn't interfere with his marriage and that I wouldn't put him through that emotional trauma."
"We are like best friends," she said, adding that her marriage was over before the cyber affair. "There is a kind of desperate romantic thing to it that is appealing. The last couple of years, I have had more romance with him than I had in 25 years of marriage."
Unzipping the heart with someone outside a primary relationship can be motivated by fear that revealing oneself to a spouse or primary partner will invite humiliation, rejection and pain. "Maybe your partner is a prude and you can't explore your sexual fantasies or express parts of yourself with him," said Pepper Schwartz, a University of Washington sociologist and author of many relationship books. "So as not to deny parts of yourself, and so as not to try to make your partner into something he is not, you go outside your main relationship to explore."
One woman in her 50s exchanges sexual fantasies online with men anonymously and secretly, telling the men that she is married and doesn't want to pursue anything. The woman argued in a message board posting on the Web site that her fantasy swapping has benefited her marriage by reinvigorating her sex life with her husband.
For people determined not to leave their existing relationships, Schwartz said, an emotional affair is an attempt to reconcile conflicting needs. But some people engage in emotional affairs for the extra zing. "Some people have these emotional affairs, and they are doing the same kind of flirtation and seduction as in a physical affair, and are taking themselves out of the primary relationship," Schwartz said. "It might as well be sex."
2006-09-15 01:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by krm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is cheating in the eyes of a woman thats my experience . I don't think its cheating but she says it is , I told her chatting with her co-worker who is a guy that i have never met is the same as chatting on the net . I think the rules are made up as she goes along .
2006-09-14 22:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by wassupwithu2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was his take on this? Alluring lover? Hmmm... You sure he doesn't know her in person? What would happen if that little wire on the back of the computer just somehow melted away?
2006-09-14 22:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well theres no difference between in person or on the net if you ask me so id have to say is this a friendship he has or is it something more.if its more than a friendship then you need to treat it just as u would if he was doing the same right in your own neighborhood
2006-09-14 22:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by wiz of ia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not. If you can't have fun in a relationship then your partner is "cheating" you out of fufillment. Get over yourself and let him have some fun for crying out loud.
2006-09-14 23:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its ok to have online friends but if he is chating with other woman like he talks to you, then yes it would be cheating.
2006-09-14 22:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Iron_man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We could genaralise, people and objectivesof using the internet are different.
2006-09-14 22:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Devaraj A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you consider it cheating, then it probably is. If he is seeking the comfort of another person over yours, then it is cheating. If he is merely confiding in another person, then maybe not.
2006-09-14 22:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by James R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋