hi i'm sort of confused here. there's this guy in our class whom i had the hots for a while ago. but then it was just a passing crush and i moved on to the other hotties! my best friend in class also has a liking for this guy (she actually wears her heart on her sleeve). i think they make a really good pair together and i've actually created opportunities for them to talk and stuff. i even think that he's interested in her somewhat. but now my friend's acting queer. we had a fight today and she accused me of something i don't even think is true. she said that whenever the two of them spoke he'd have an eye towards me. she actually said that i was being a temptress. i find that absolutely nonsensical. but the thing is that even other people have come up to me and said the same thing - that he looks at me in class. i'm really in a muddle. what do u make out of the situation. my frnd broke up with me over this guy! plz help me out.
2006-09-14 21:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, It is a tough question to answer, but I'll give it a shot. Do you still think that you might have feelings for this boy? If so, you might want to think back to see if maybe you've subconsciously flirted with him. It's not your fault if so, the subconscious has more power of us than we realize. If you haven't, then your friend may just be a little bit threatened by the fact that you liked the boy and is worried you might try to steal him away. Reassure her that you aren't interested in him and that your friendship with her is more important than having a relationship with him. It sounds to me that your friend is just insecure about herself and trying to talk herself out of dating him out of fear of rejection by him. She might just be convincing herself that he likes you more than her. IF the boy is interested in you and you are not still interested in him then tell him that but be sure that she see's you turning him down but do it in a nice way. then put in a good word for your friend. Give it a couple of days and try to talk to her and apologize for anything that may have taken place that you weren't aware of and explain that you weren't intentionally doing anything. I am sorry for this poor response, but this is the best I can come up with without knowing everything that took place up to the point of your frined arguing with you. I wish you the best of luck. BTW here is a link to a past question that might help you with apologizing...http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060914012332AAfDdzC
2006-09-14 22:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should temporarily show her ur liking for some1 else to her to divert her mind... for the time being when things sre not going good she will have to believe that u were the 1 trynna fix her up with tht guy NOT hook up... go for a coffee or write a card to her sayin u are sorry n tht she has a misunderstandin... she will definitely believe u if she is yr good frnd
best of luck :) dont let her go away cuz of him:)
2006-09-15 19:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by so sick of love songs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have real love for that guy then go ahead.It doesn't matter who looks good in pair but it's the love for each other which really matters.Listen to your heart & act accordingly.Moreover, it's a friend who should stand beside you but she doesn't deserve that,so it's clear that true friends lasts............!
2006-09-15 06:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by hots! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lady, Men stare at anything moving and female. besides, you admit you two had a liking initially. stick to your way and let him sort that out. As for your best friend, let her go for a while. If she comes back means she loved you too. If she doesnt, thank your stars.
2006-09-15 05:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by fleur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey it's not your fault if the guys likes you instead of her. but you have to be extra careful about how you act now, especially now that your friend is accusing you of being a tease. remember to carry yourself with dignity. don't give others reason to believe that you are really a tease. unless they are confirmed to be an 'item' then you have no reason to be afraid of trying to steal anybody's BF.
2006-09-15 05:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Meg, Sounds like she wasn't your friend after all.With friends like that,who need enemy.Move on and find a true friend.Sounds like she is jealous off you anyway.
Clowmy
2006-09-15 05:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave both of them & that group & find another for some period. Aftersome days your friend will realise & come back to you
2006-09-15 05:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by narendra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in urself just.
2006-09-15 08:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Gaurav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont beleive em.. just forget about this and she will come back, if she was a true friend of yours.
2006-09-15 06:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by ramana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be satisfied with what u have and in the meanwhile keep looking for better ones.
2006-09-15 05:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋