I usually assume most people I meet are straight. However, when a friendship starts to develop, and I am around that person long enough, I begin to wonder. Is there a point (despite never asking the person) where you "just know"?
2006-09-14 21:30:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Excellent answers so far, folks. SKG, what does my age have to do with it? I'm just inquiring about something that I was curious about. I have found these LGBT folks most helpful in not only understanding others but in understanding myself.
2006-09-15 01:58:12 · update #1
well, with all of the metrosexual stuff happening, you never know. Gaydar isn't about some psychic thing, it's about picking up on small nonverbal cues as well as verbal ones. For sure tho, never assume anything. NEVER. Besides, if you become a friend, would'nt someone be open with you, unless they are afraid of a homophobic reaction.
2006-09-14 21:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by manuel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably harder to tell these days. Many people are more comfortable just being themselves, and don't feel the need to fit a certain look, or act a certain way in order to be part of the LGBT community. Even if you eventually develop better "gaydar" there will ALWAYS be people that turn up as false positives, or that just "slip under the gaydar".
2006-09-15 04:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Krista D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hank32,
Most of the time try to keep that thing turned off. I don't want to know somtimes. I prefer women, and when the Gaydar comes on I know that I'm sending Gaydar signal. Their own signal might come on and next thing I know I'm being approached by a dude.
I've had too many bad encounters with dudes. I'd rather not go that way. They are too loud. Always trying to let everyone know what we are doing. To me, they give themselves a bad name.
2006-09-15 04:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the 11 or 12 years that I was gay. I never had gaydar.
The only way I could tell if a stranger was gay. It had to be IN my face. Like a flaming sissy.
2006-09-15 01:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter if your friend is straight, gay, or bi? A developing friendship between two people is wonderful. I don't think you need 'gaydar'...they will probably tell you if their sexual orientation is an issue in the friendship.
2006-09-14 21:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Fritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people "just know" and a lot of women ingnore the signs. A person doesn't need to be in drag to set off the gaydar.
2006-09-14 21:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by timex846 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how comfortable the guy is with his sexuality. I had two very perceptive gay coworkers who where shocked as **** when I came out after 14 months of knowing me
2006-09-14 23:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, yes and certainly within a couple of weeks of getting to know them.
Which is not to say I haven't been caught out, though!
2006-09-14 22:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone has gaydar,and never can tell if a guy or girl is bi,or gay unles told so
2006-09-15 15:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can have my mind on nothing but shopping,and suddenly it hits me,thus I look around and there is one looking,and smiling,and then the vibes get stronger then I know.
2006-09-14 22:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋