easy 'choice' to make....So here's the deal--but only because it's such an easy choice...why don't some of you straight guys go out and change yourselves into gays for a month, two months..whatever..have sex with men....remember it's a snap to turn around and choose to be straight again. Then maybe you can get on this site and genuinely discuss if homosexuality is a choice or not. I will tell you this...that 95% of the gay people on here have at least tried heterosexuality and it didn't work for them..If it's such an easy choice to be straight...why do you suppose that it didn't work...why do you suppose they chose to live a life where they risk losing their families, their jobs , their self-esteem..why did they choose to be bad mouthed and bashed by straights and choose a god that considers them an abomination..THey chose this...get a grip..just use 10% of youre logic and you'll see what a ridiculous question it is...How many gay people do you know who would say 'Gee I chose it?
2006-09-14 20:49:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
gabe and yee haw exactly what century are you living in,,??
2006-09-14 21:02:21 · update #1
Homosexuality is a choice?
It has been established for some time that one's sexual orientation is part of the basic personality structure and formed before the age of two. The most recent studies, however, both behavioral and biological, indicate one's sexual orientation is genetic—something determined at conception. Whether it happens before birth or it happens by age two, the determination of sexual orientation can hardly be considered a choice. One can, of course, choose not to follow one's natural orientation, but this is not the sort of choice the proponents of this myth mean. They mean that gay people choose to be gay in the same way that they might sit down and choose which program to watch on television, which team to bet on in the Super Bowl, or whether or not they want pepperoni on their pizza.
The idea behind this myth is: a perfectly normal, well-adjusted heterosexual is sitting around one day and just decides to go gay, as one might decide to move to Antarctica or try to flush hockey pucks down the toilet. It is truly aberrant behavior, but it is his or her choice. Implied in this choice, of course, is a certain hostility to God, parents, society, and the American way. It's as though being gay is a pathological act of rebellion.
Gays don't choose to be gay; they discover they're gay. Like heterosexuals, they find themselves increasingly attracted (romantically as well as sexually) to a particular gender. The bisexuals find themselves attracted to both. (Even though, as Woody Allen says, "Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night," discovering one's bisexuality must be more confusing than discovering one is primarily gay or straight.)
2006-09-14 23:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bearable 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
In a time of accessibility to the Internet, credible information and logic, philosophy, history, science - I am always dumbfounded by how illogical and small-minded people are. All the education in the world and people are ruled by a mythical book that preaches fear.
I wonder if this fear precludes the obvious answer to your question?
Oft days humanity really sucks. Other days not so bad.
2006-09-15 14:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can attest to the hetero thing. I was a practicing "hetero" for years and years but could never seem to bond to a man. I met a man, married him, but six months into it and already pregnant....I knew I'd made a big mistake. Not about the baby, though! She's my world. Anyway....after almost a decade in a miserable marriage (that's a whole 'nother story in itself) and never being able to forget the girl I fell for "back in the day"....I walked away. Haven't looked back. I am with my soul mate and the love of my life. I'm happy and I've found my place.
2006-09-15 05:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey hey hey well what do you know Im not gay after all I mean by your logic thats ok I never thought I really was friends told me I was to straight to be gay yet to gay to be straight or something like that.
but for me it was a choice and from the time a friend introduced it to me I enjoyed some aspects of it for 20 years from the time I was 8 till I was 28,and likewise I have chosen not to be involved in it for obvious common sense reasons in 24 years.
now there may be some so into it they feel they donot have a choice but I dont believe that.
Further youve spoken bad about the g0ys Im closer to that than what youre talking about anyway.
2006-09-14 22:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if it was a choice it would still be a subconscious one. Maybe, for example, someone is not born being afraid of heights but it doesnt mean that he/she has any control over it or chose it. And also it doesnt mean that one day in his/her life he/she fell from a great height to have this phobia. It was just there.
But I still personally think that we are born with it. I can remember myself since I was very young, and I can still remember thinking like gay back then. Not sex wise of course but logic and choice wise.
2006-09-15 04:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* Has each person easily studied the history of language and the Bible...even as Paul and others communicate about "homosexuality" they are conversing about pedophilia between boys and adult men practiced contained in the Roman Empire and pagan sexual orgies..... NOWHERE contained in the bible does it say same AGE same sex relationships are undesirable....homosexuality isn't a decision, and that i'm instantly in case you wanted to entice close, why do a touch christians hate everybody that would not believe them?
2016-11-27 00:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not. Tell the incredulous to check with the APA. They're the relevant authorities. They've been telling us for over 3 decades that homosexuality is normal, healthy and just as unchangable as heterosexuality. They've been telling us that it's not a mental illness, that it's not a disorder, disease, dysfunction, maladjustment, psychosis, perversion, etc.... Looks like some people missed the memo. That, or they're wearing extra strength anti-reality goggles.
Oh, and as for NARTH and their "reparative therapy":
Theories of therapeutic methods for changing sexual bias are no longer endorsed by professional mental health organizations, such as the American Psychiatric Association, American Psychological Association, American Counseling Association, National Association of School Psychologists, and the National Association of Social Workers. Other health care associations have also condemned reparative therapy including the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American School Health Association. Professional organizations of educators have also added their voice opposing this therapy, such as the American Association of School Administrators, American Federation of Teachers, and the National Education Association.
The Human Rights Campaign, a gay rights group, issued a press release that in 1999 NARTH President, Charles Socarides, had
"run into trouble with the American Psychoanalytic Association (APsaA), of which he is a member. According to a letter from Dr. Ralph Roughton of the APsaA, Socarides misrepresented the position of the APsaA in a published paper and a court affidavit. Socarides attempted to make it appear that the APsaA agrees with his positions on homosexuality. He did this by quoting an APsaA document written in 1968, which supported his views and which he called the "official position" of the APsaA, while ignoring a 1990 revised statement that drastically contradicted his views. The Executive Committee of the APsaA instructed the organization's attorney to write a letter to Socarides asking him to cease this misrepresentation and threatening legal action if he continued. Additionally, the APsaA newsletter decided to stop printing advertisements for NARTH meetings because the organization does not adhere to APsaA's policy of non-discrimination and because their activities are demeaning to our members who are gay and lesbian, according to Roughton."
2006-09-14 20:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
they've never walked in our shoes, so they'll never know...and they'll never accept that we just don't make a "choice." and yet, they don't claim to have ever made a choice about being straight, and they feel they were born the way "God intended." so, how is if they didn't make a choice and they were born straight, we can't claim being born the way we are? sounds like a matter of double-standards to me. they refuse to accept something different as something natural.
2006-09-15 04:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality only responds to treatment if you can call consensual torture, treatment (and in the case of minors non-consensual torture.) If you've ever been to one of these "clinics" there methods would make Torquemada squirm. (For those of you who don't know he was the devout Christian who tortured non-believers into converting during the inquisition.)
Also, I have to make one thing clear. Being gay is not only about SEX! Saying that being gay is selfish because it only has to do with sex, is like saying that MARRIAGE is selfish because it only has to do with sex. Gay people aren't mentally deficient. We know the difference between love and lust. My relationship with my boyfriend has absolutely nothing, I repeat, NOTHING to do with lust. We have sex just like a married straight couple has sex. The only difference, aside from us both being males, is we can't get pregnant, accidentally or on purpose. In some ways that's a blessing, in some ways it's a curse, but hey, you play the hand you're dealt in life.
2006-09-14 21:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I think it is illogical for a straight person to have an opinion on this issue. How do they know how we felt from birth?
Did they choose to be straight or did they always feel straight?
2006-09-15 07:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋