I went for my first scan yesterday to be told my baby had died 2 weeks ago, i was in shock and very emotional so just wanted to go home. However i have had no bleeding or pain and have been told the baby is still in there and it has to be taken out is there any chance that they could be wrong and my baby is just smaller than i thought?
I was told the baby is at 8 weeks old but the sac that holds the baby is at 11 weeks.
I continue to have pregnancy symptoms etc and a swollen baby bump belly.
I was told this is very rare to carry on carrying the baby for this long is there any chance they could be wrong?
2006-09-14 20:43:41 · 30 answers · asked by ♥Pink Princess♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks to everyone, i think i am just trying to grab some hope i have a wonderful supporting partner and we both have great families and friends we wanted this aby so much but we will be trying again, we are going away on holiday to get over this and clear our heads
thanks to everyone
2006-09-14 20:53:42 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear your news and feel for you. I have had a similar experience.
What you describe can happen. Sadly it is unlikely they are wrong as they are looking for a heartbeat on the scan which would have been visible at this stage, not just the size of the baby.
Your body will think you are still pregnant and will produce the relevant hormones so you will still pregnant.
I hope that the operation is not too stressful and that you recover well.
Very best wishes for the future
2006-09-14 20:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lynne W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. The same thing happened to me. I had a bleed at 6 weeks and went for a scan and they said everything was ok at the scan. Carried on for a few more weeks and still a bleed (but it was old blood not new). Went for another scan and it showed up that I did in fact have twins and the first one had died first but because it was showing up as one baby on the first scan they said the second one must have been behind it and they couldnt see it. The second one died a couple of weeks later and you could see on the scan the two babies but both different sizes as the second one died later. I asked for a copy of the scan and still have it.
I had to have and ERPC which is the same as a D&C to clear the womb to a) stop me cramping and having a proper miscarriage and all the misery that would entail and b) to ensure nothing is left inside which could cause infection and infertility.
It was a quick procedure in the day hospital and I was out and at home in a few hours. They were extremely sympathetic and lovely and explained everything.
If you still have the symptoms I would recommend another scan to ensure there isn't another baby hiding behind the first one? They actually gave me an internal scan which shows up a lot more.
It was hard afterwards coming to terms with it but I have had two healthy kiddies since. So try and be positive. It is extremely common and in the old days women didn't even know they were pregnant as they had to wait for 2 missed periods before they were tested by their GP. These days we know after one and sometimes I think maybe the old way was better as you never knew you'd lost your baby and assumed you were just having a heavy period.
Chin up and just look forward to your next pregnancy.
2006-09-14 21:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anna G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. However, monitoring the foetus should clear up this issue.
Not to scare you, but a friend of mine in Greece had an abortion because her doctor said the foetus was dead, and it turned out that that doctor was wrong. By that time, however, it was already too late.
You were told the baby is 8 weeks old. but 1 scan cannot give any details on growth - more scans are needed, and maybe they can take a sample, with modern medicine that should be no problem. Be 100% sure before acting, losing a baby is bad enough already without it being for the wrong reasons.
2006-09-14 20:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Walter W. Krijthe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also lost a baby at 11 weeks in the same way, and in the same way I wanted to think that the doctors were wrong, sadly they were right. I had a small op the day after the scan. My husband and I tried to support each other but it is a sad time, I really do feel for you. There is light at the end of the tunnel though, we went on to have a very happy healthy baby girl.
Good luck and take care.
2006-09-14 23:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by becky h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. Having a miscarriage is such a terrible thing for anyone to go through. Especially as you have done where your little angel has already crossed over but without any signs for you. Your baby now has angel wings and has gone on to do good for other as an angel.
The symptoms are because your body still feels pregnant and it may take a little while for the hormones to go. Did they find a heartbeat? If they didn't then sorry to say they are probably not wrong. I did have a simular thing when I was pregnant with our daughter. My dates didn't add up to what the scan was saying and was sent home for 10 days, luckily for us our daughter was fine, but I was very early on in the pregnancy. I am sure that they would have looked for a heartbeat.
Good luck with your next hospital appointment, and if god has chosen your baby to be one of his angels then I am sure he/she will look over his/her future brothers and sisters
God bless you and your family.
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2006-09-14 20:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by pinkbabi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me. The first time I fell pregnant. I went for my 12 week scan only to find out I had miscarried sometime ago. I hadnt bled or anything wither. You will continue to have pregnancy symtoms because your body is still producing the pregnancy hormone as it still thinks your pregnant (as you havent evacuated the retained products of comception). Even if the baby was only 8 weeks they would have still been able to detect a heart beat (in very early pregnancy it looks like the whole thing pulses), so I'm very sorry but you have miscarried.
You must have an ERPC (evacuation of retained products of conception), basically a D&C, it can cause problems in the future if you dont although your body will eventually clear itself out.
I hope that helps a little!
2006-09-14 20:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Claire O 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh lovey I am so sorry. I went through this at 20 weeks. The baby had died at 15 weeks. My belly continues growing (abnormal placenta was growing) and had some blood, which was in fact my period (after 40 days since baby had died) and they had to remove it surgically. I was told that I was lucky I didn't suffer septicaemia and die. That did not make me feel any happier at time. I know how you feel, but believe me times will heal and you will get pregnant again and have a lovely baby. Sometimes nature knows best and it is the right way.
Try to be positive about the future and I hope that you have a very loving and comforting partner and family to help you though this sad time.
God Bless You lovey.
2006-09-14 20:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by London Girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your and your partners loss. If you have been told after a scan that your baby is no longer with you, then you should try to believe them. However, when you go into have the baby taken away ask them for another scan just to be sure - insist if you have to , just for your own piece of mind.
I had a miscarrage at 14 wks and ended up having to go into forced labour and give birth which was the worst day of my life. You have all my thoughts and sympathies.
Take care of yourself and your partner
2006-09-17 04:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by jaynie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for what happened? I understand perfectly how you feel... It is rare but the same thing happened to me in my second pregnancy I think I was about 13 weeks pregnant and the baby was about at 8 weeks.. One day I started spotting and so I went to the E.R. and the doctors told that the baby stopped developing around 8 weeks. I hope everything turns out good for you.
2006-09-14 21:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby is still inside you you haven't had a miscarriage. What kink of scan did you have? Were you allowed to view the pictures while it was being done? Was there a heartbeat visible? Something does not add up here. I would get a second opinion and do some further research. If you are carrying a non viable human being you are at risk for a serious infection. What country are you in?
2006-09-14 21:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by lydia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋