married and cheating?

Question

i am married,but my marriage is so bored.I was having this affair with this guy and i ended it recently,because i knew i wasn't going to leave my husband,but i really like this guy and can't stop thinking of him.It was really hard to end it with him,didn't seems like it was going anywhere,but bsides the sex.He says he loves me and wants me to leave my husband for him.Di i make the right decision by ending this affair?

Answer 1

l will not say you made the right or wrong decision only you know that. But if you are not happy at home and are looking for someone outside of your mar rage then maybe that should be your answer. I have been in the same position. I decide to leave my spouse because that was right for me. I did not do it because that is what the guy I was cheating with wanted. I did it for me. The man I cheated with is still married and is considering leaving his wife but only time will tell... I wish you the best in what ever decision you choose but follow your heart -- you deserve to be happy--regardless..

Answer 2

People who cheat almost never end up with the person they cheat with. The thrill of that relationship is the cheating. Lover boy can say anything because he has nothing to lose. Since when does cheating ever fix a broken marriage?

You, like many cheating spouses, are giving off mixed signals. First you say that you are "bored" in the marriage, then you say that you are not going to leave your husband. I smell character failure. You did the right thing to thing to end your little affair but don't stop there. You need to work on you!

Do you really want the marriage? Can it be saved? Are you willing to do everything in your power to save it? What have YOU done to make the marriage "boring"? Are you just the cheating kind who can never be married without having a lover on the side? Who else gets hurt with all of this?

All marriages have their problems but cheating never solves a thing...it makes matters worst. You decide!

Answer 3

It's an illicit affair. You have to ask??? It sounds to me as if you should have done your soul-searching *before* you got married; *not* after the affair... Why would you ask if you made the right decision ending the affair when you should have asked yourself before you started it, if it was the right decision to have the affair to begin with? I am truly not trying to sound as if I'm admonishing or judging you, but honestly, some situations are just no-brainers... As a married woman in a committed relationship, you should have never placed yourself in that position in the first place. If you were that unhappy in your marriage with your husband, you should have ended the marriage first and *then* had a boyfriend. As it is now, should your husband ever find out, you'll have three unhappy people on your hands: you, your husband and the man you cheated on him with. Is having an affair really worth all that aggravation?

Answer 4

Yes, you should have definitely ended the affair. Look at it this way, every long lasting marriage has its peaks and valleys. Just because your marriage might have been in a "valley" doesn't mean you throw in the towel and cheat. The same energy and effort put into cultivating an affair could be utilized toward rekindling the feelings that you had at the time you first married your husband. He at least deserves that much! Good luck.

Answer 5

You screwed up totally. If you loved your husband and yourself you would not make a mockery of your marriage. Whether your bored or tired of the partner your with you need to live with the reality that you cheated on this person. How can you look in your husband's face and pretend that you are the sweet and innocent person that he married. If your bored you should join a group entertain yourself. Maybe your husband got bored of you and is doing the same thing to you. You deserve what you get for making poor judgment. Hopefully, you don't spread any diseases in the process. Have you thought about all the people that your partner has slept with? Well, you just inherited all the germs from all his/her former partners. Take care.

Answer 6

So are u looking for some kind of justification here? Well I can only tell u that cheating on your husband because your marriage is boring is a lame excuse and if your marriage was that bad, u should've known that the solution is inside, not outside of it.

Did u make the right decision? Of course. If u believe in your marriage vows u would KNOW it was the right decision. U also should've known that cheating is wrong in the first place.

Answer 7

Yes. But now you need to be honest with your husband, and seek counseling. Cheating is not right, fair, nor good for either party involved. You need to figure out if he is really the one for you. Should have been done before commiting, but cant turn back time. Move from here in a positive direction. As long as you learn from your mistakes and do not make them twice.... this marriage can be saved providing he is willing. Ive been there we BOTH have. Now we are going on 12 years and are happy as ever. But dont beat yourself up (as long as you learned) because I would take back any negative thing that has happened in our marriage. Altho it hurt, it has made us who we are today. If those experiences hadnt have happened, we might not be together today, or something worse may have. Lifes lessons arent always easy, but they are all positive if you can see through to the other side. Best of luck to you hun. Not easy to fix, but you have to try.

Answer 8

Well, in a marriage you have to think of other people and not only yourself. You are saying your marriage is boring but how does your husband feel? Is it fair for you to cheat on him? Do you have kids? If you do are you thinking about them when you are talking about leaving your husband for your new boyfriend? Perhaps, you can approach your husband and hear his take on the marriage and if he feels like it is getting dull as well and together you can work on solutions to the problem but don't continue to cheat on him. Either leave him and go to your new guy or keep that relationship broken off.

Answer 9

Don't you feel guilty? When you got married, you promised to be faithful to your husband. Would you like it if he thought you were boring and sought sex elsewhere? Instead of affairs, think of ways to make your marriage more exciting. And forget about the other guy and hope gossip about the affair doesn't reach your husband's ears.

Answer 10

You say that your marriage is boring........."WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MAKE IT SPICY" or don't you think that far. You finally got some sort of a conscious about stoping your affair, well big whoopdeedoo........your husband is probably too good for you anyway, hope he finds out and leaves you and gets a loving wife that is honest, faithful and always ready for abit of spice beetween husband and wife........your disgusting.