Im separated from my husband only a few months and the person he cheated on and now that person his with is being unfaithful. anyway I got a phone call from one of my best friend that they say my husbands girlfriend holding hands with someone else and they was smooching. This is not the only person who saw her with someone else so I really don't know what to say when I see my husband. If he only knew the bad side of her which I know he won't. Should I tell him even though he won't understand him. R maybe I should let him see for himself and then he'll know what kind of person she is. Im so confused.
2006-09-14 20:35:54 · 25 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not! You are in a position to watch him get right back what he dished out. Sit back and watch it all happen. And if he ever has the balls to come crying on your shoulder you have the extra bonus of being able to say " Thanks to you, I know exactly how you feel."
2006-09-14 21:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was within the identical concern with you earlier than. But I simply took the excessive road and made up our minds to let things play out on their possess. You could have a variety of different disorders to worry about and your possess lifestyles to are living. You continue to have a variety of anger from what happened. You just must gain knowledge of to let go and transfer on with your lifestyles. There are issues that you may have that prompted the relationship to fail. I do know I did and had to face all that. Get a therapist concerned so which you can start re-constructing your lifestyles and putting the pieces again collectively. It's a giant and daunting undertaking. However you will come out forward in case you do it right. You now have control again of your lifestyles. Take your freedom and run with it....Just right good fortune.
2016-08-09 14:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can tell him but chances r he won't believe u unless u have solid proof of her cheating. i tried for 2 1/2 yrs to tell my ex that his renewed relationship w/ the woman he lost his virginity to was a joke (mostly b/c she claimed to love him so much yet she was the reason him & our son began drifting apart-she stayed w/ him every weekend our son was there & the weekend became about her not our son). he didn't see things as i & others did. she finally came around less often (she lives 2 hrs away) & on christmas night she told him she was leaving b/c her dog was dying. she broke up w/ him about 3 wks later claiming she was never & would never be comfortable staying at his house (this is after 2 1/2 yrs on staying at his house 2 weekends of every month). well about 3 months ago he went to his camp (she lives 2 doors from it) to learn that she was w/ someone else & had been for a while (she had been cheating on him). his heart was broke again but he now sees the situation & her for what it & she really were & are.
2006-09-14 21:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh No ...Don't say a word . Just set back and watch him go down . You remember the feeling you had when you found out about the other women ? How hurt and betrayed . How he didn't care how you felt . How happy he seemed to be while you were heart broken . Now you can set back and take satisfaction in knowing he knows how you felt . It hurts . You come out smelling like a rose and he has nothing .
2006-09-14 20:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, u should ask yourself why you're even considering doing this. Are u doing this for his own good or are u doing it to be vindictive?
If I were u, I would NOT say anything to him based on "hearsay" because if these stories turned out to be untrue, u will end up looking like the bad person here and u will be no better than him.
Besides, if these stories were really true, he will find out for himself anyway...sooner or later.
2006-09-14 21:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, It's better to not say anything. If you did say something the chances of him believing you is next to zero due to the jealously factor. Let him learn by his mistakes. He will learn by his own mistake. What goes around comes around. Don't worry about him. He didn't care about you. Go on with your life and take care of yourself.
2006-09-14 20:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although he deserves what he's got for cheating on you yet if you tell him then he'll think that you're a sore loser trying to spoil his new relation. Let someone neutral tell him and he'd better have evidence on him in case he disbelieves him/her.
2006-09-14 20:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he's a grown man now, let him make his own mistakes. It sounds to me as if you want him to know so you can let him know how *you* felt when he did it to *you*... Leave him alone and get on with your life. You deserve more happiness than worrying about what happened between two people who obviously don't care about *you*!
2006-09-14 21:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by coorissee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let him find out himself, If he walked out of your life to be with her and didn't know what she was about then that is totally on him. So don't say nothing at all! And that is real!!!
2006-09-14 20:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't believe you anyway. He will think you are just trying to get him back.
Are you? Are you hoping he will dump her and return to you?
search your soul before answering.
Let someone else tell him what's up.
2006-09-14 20:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋