Is there a tendency for gay people to deny bisexuality? Do bisexuals think everyone is really bisexual? Do straight people tend to think non-straights are actually straight but just misguided?How fluid is human sexuality anyway?
2006-09-14 20:34:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it's very fluid...I don't think that you can change much after a certain point in your life..by fluid I mean that everyone is on a different place on the scale...I have no reason to disbelieve anyone if they tell me that they're bisexual or that they only get it off when they're eating blue cheese...why would they lie to me? I think a lot of straights think that we are just misguided...but that seems to be changing.
2006-09-14 20:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is there a tendency for gay people to deny bisexuality? To an extent, yes. Bisexuals catch flack from both sides. Straight people often think they're just as "bad" as homosexuals and homosexuals think they're "chicken" and unwilling to "go one way or the other" when, in fact, there IS middle ground and bisexuals AREN'T simply "wimpy" gays.
Do bisexuals think everyone is really bisexual? I'm sure some do and some don't. I for one lend a lot of credence to the Kinsey scale. Zero to six. Some are all straight, some are all gay, lots are swimming around in between.
Do straight people tend to think non-straights are actually straight but just misguided? Yes. Very very much yes. In fact, most people (even gay and bisexual people) tend to think others are straight until informed or shown otherwise. It's called Heteronormativity. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heteronormativity
How fluid is human sexuality anyway? Quite. It's quite fluid. That doesn't mean our BASIC ORIENTATION is fluid, it just means that the way we self-identify and our preferences can change from moment to moment and situation to situation.
2006-09-15 04:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being bisexual I see both sides of this issue I can understand the misunderstanding on both sides. Gays think we weaken their position and need to just come out Gay straights use us to say see it is a choice. And we, some of us, wish we could choose one side and stay there. I personally have tried the straight life the desire for men never goes away. The more you deny it the stronger it becomes. Straights do think we choose this but why would I choose this tortured existence. With me personally I am able to deeply love two different genders. My love for my wife was so strong I was fooled into thinking I could deny my other half and follow that one. My love for my g0yfriend is so strong that I know that I cannot do that. Fluidity in sexual orientation is prevalent but not in the fact that we are wired to be a certain way and we can deny or natures (hold back the water ) for a while but eventually our true natures like water seeps through.
2006-09-15 09:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think many people do. Being Gay myself, and knowing that I didn't choose to be attracted to guys, I try to stay open minded to all forms of sexuality. At times I do feel that allot of bisexual people are just fooling themselves in a sort of half denial. But I do believe that there is true bisexuality. Most of the friends that I've had that were what I would consider "true" bisexuals, believe that everyone is bisexual, but most people choose to be straight, and a few choose to be gay (why they believe we would choose this prejudice, I have no idea.) Anyway, I think that yes, most people tend to believe that their sexuality is the only valid one, and can't perceive other people's sexualities other than a choice. But there are allot of us that know that this isn't the case.
2006-09-15 04:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We only know what we know. I'm gay and I don't deny bisexuality. If I can be gay which some straight people think is impossible, then I don't find it hard to believe that there's people who are bisexual and are attracted to both genders. I think GOD used sexual attraction as many mixed ways as GOD could with men and women. Gay, Bisexual and Straight and even Asexual; having no sexual attraction.
2006-09-15 04:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation does not have anything to do with a person's intelligence or open-mindedness. Bigotry and prejudice are learned traits, not genetic. Interpretation of another person's sexual orientation is based on life experience and/or uneducated judgments.
My answers to your questions are:
No, I do not think there is a tendency...some do, but very few.
No, but I am sure some do.
Yes, I am sure many do think this (misguided...mentally diseased)
Human sexuality is very fluid...human sexual orientation is not.
2006-09-15 04:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Fritz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight and I think people are just different. Different personalities, different opinions, different preferences, different feelings. I think it is normal that some people prefer their own gender, some prefer the opposite gender, some are attracted to both genders and some are asexual. It seems normal to me. We're different in many aspects and sexuality is just one of them.
I'm sure some people interpret other's sexual orientation through rose-colored glasses of their own orientation, but far from everyone is like that.
2006-09-15 09:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Less well informed gays say stupid things to deny the existence of bisexuality. I don't believe everyone is Bisexual? Less well informed Straights do misunderstand non-straightdom as a chosen aberration. It can fluctuate mildly - but in essence you are what you are and are stuck with it.
2006-09-15 05:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi, and I think if "everyone was really bisexual," the world would be a very different place. So I don't think that at all. I tend to let people follow their own definitions. If they're hurting me--lesbians who've slept with men who insult me as an out bi woman, ex-gays who try to roll back our civil rights gains--I challenge *that*.
2006-09-15 08:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very deep and thought provoking question. So much so that I'm not even sure how to answer this! It's a really good point and made me think. Still don't have a solid answer but can't wait to see what others have to say.
2006-09-15 12:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋