my girlfriend lied and i am in the military.... so i have not seen her in one year... she kept sending me pics of her as i remembered her... then it turns out it was of a friend that looked like her...i have been gone a year..... then today she sends me a pic....she is 100 lbs heavier than what i remember....... what do i do
2006-09-14 20:27:24 · 21 answers · asked by Ray L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SHE WAS WRONG!!! If you don't think you could be physically attracted to her now that you know the truth, you need to be honest and if she has anything to say about your honesty, you can always tell her if she hadn't lied to you in the 1st place then the whole problem wouldn't even exist. I am not saying looks are everything, but damn, there has to be something there. At one time you thought there was, right?
Again, she was wrong!
2006-09-14 20:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - I agree - no need to be worried about her faithfulness. Bulimia is a disease and I have had it periodically for the last 10 years. I have not seeked help for it and have been hiding it from those I love and would probably deny it if I was confronted directly. It is probably best for you to do some research on it online so that you arm yourself with the best information you can. Now that you have confronted her about it though, I can almost guarantee that she is going to be more careful about leaving signs about it for you to find. There may not be another opportunity to approach her directly. Just try to stand by her and know that it is not easy. It is a control thing and very hard for people who dont know how it effects someone to understand. Maybe it is nothing, but it doesnt sound like that is the case. She needs to get help. Can you talk to any of her friends or family? Maybe they can be of some help.
2016-03-27 02:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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well...does physical appearance really matter that much to you? if it does you shouldnt really continue the relationship with her. it may hurt her a lot but then she'll be able to find someone who would love her for her. if it doesnt then well you should support her and help her to lose some weight. if you love her it wouldnt really matter that much, but talk to her, she may have lied but, still...
2006-09-14 20:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by § Moonlight Shadow § 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did she send so many wrong pics and only now sends the fat pic?
How do you know its not the fat one that isnt her?
Maybe shes testing you?
2006-09-14 20:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously embarrassed about the way she looks which is why she sent the photos.
However, she is still the same girl inside, the same one you remember.
2006-09-14 20:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress the weight dude, If you love her that should not be an issue. What should be the issue is the dishonesty, gotta get that squared away.
2006-09-14 20:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by rswdew 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're that shallow, then yeah, dump her. If you care about her then, more cushion for the pushin'. And with love and support, anyone can lose weight.
2006-09-14 20:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by matt45lc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you, but @ 100 lbs/yr in a few years you'll need a truck to haul her around.....
2006-09-14 20:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You get over it!She needs your support, she OBVIOUSLY feels bad thats she's bigger! She needs to be able to trust you!Give her a chance to lose the weight before you do anything. But for now just cherish her, and she'll want to be thin again for you!Cherish a woman, i mean really cherish her, and you'll be surprised at what she'll do!
2006-09-14 20:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by HumbleOpinion 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dump her - NOT because she is heavier than you thought but because she can manipulate you and lie to you like that.
Don't trust her as far as you can throw her - and that's obviously not as far as you thought.
2006-09-14 20:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Henry 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋