My close friend, who happens to be gay, has decided to get married. I have no problem with the fact that he is gay or that he is with his partner, but I am against his marriage for religious reasons.
Do I have choice of not attending the wedding, even though he has been a close friend for a long time? He has just never gotten married before--so this is a new one for me!
What should I do?
2006-09-14 20:20:07 · 11 answers · asked by retorik75 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I am posing similar/reversed hypothetical scenarios..about marriage...to see how people respond. In case anyone is wondering...
2006-09-14 20:26:46 · update #1
Yeah it is not polite. You should support the love of your friend. People are busy however and do not support other people all the time. There is no sense of community in this world, so I am sure that this would be expected in this world. You will probably just not have as many friends if you do this. It is your choice. How much is this going to hurt you by going? How much more is this going to hurt your friend by your not going? Think about it.
2006-09-14 20:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your religion is against gay marriage, but not gay people in general??? That doesnt make any sense... wouldnt being gay in itself be against your religion?
You have accepted your gay friend - that means you need to be there for him not just when it suits you. Hes not robbing a bank!
So you should definitely attend the wedding. Hes a good friend of yours, think of it as supporting your friend when he needs you.
I really feel that you will regret it if you dont go, and your friend may never forgive you, but your God will.
2006-09-15 03:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him your views and why you wont come. Tell him that you are his friend but you don't belief in marriage between same sexes so you cant attend. Tell him you will always be his friend but you just cant bring yourself to be there because of your religious beliefs.
If he is your friend he will understand. You could send him a small gift with a note stating you wish him the best.
2006-09-15 03:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the same right to avoid his wedding as you do for any straight person. If you don't approve, don't go.
Are you too chicken to tell him that?
Maybe you are afraid he will stop being your friend if he learns the truth.
I have a gay cousin and I would not go to his wedding for the same reason. He knows I care about him as a person while disapproving of his lifestyle.
2006-09-15 03:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U don't have to do anything u feel uncomfortable doing. However, u have to decide what your priority is here. How much does your presence mean to your friend? Will he understand your reasons for not going and accept it? It's all up to u as this is a hard question to answer but in this matter, u have to decide where your priorities lie and stick with it.
2006-09-15 03:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to decline. Simply schedule a work shift and something significant for that day and tell them you will send some flowers. If they press for an answer, tell them that you and your family are obligated not to attend for religious reasons and that the Reverend or Rabbi told you so.
2006-09-15 03:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by cotterall&elaineadams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how a religious person has a close gay friend?
2006-09-15 03:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pick a side and stay on it. I thought you didn't go to your straight friends wedding because you're gay?
2006-09-15 03:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rare Indigo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly feel happy for your friend and you wish him well...then you shouldn't turn down his invitation. you've been friends for a while, don't let religion ruin years of friendship. my close friend is a lesbian, she's about to get married soon as well...heck i'm definitely going, she's been my friend for 6 years...the least I can do is show my support for her.
2006-09-15 03:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Armando Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you just pose a real question that has SOMETHING related to your real life. Stop being fake. Are you gay straight, bi or what.
2006-09-15 08:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by jeniel17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋