I was very sick for a long time. I ended up having surgery in hope of staying alive. well here I am. While being sick my house work was left undone. My daughter who was 11 was going to school and trying to take care of me. I was bed ridden. Anyways while I was in the hospital the first time around one week. My friends said they would clean my house so i could come home to a clean house. This was mid Jan. still had up x mas tree daughter put up. Well they used my good exspensive cloth napkins for rags to clean. they were white. i told them the cleaning rags were under the sink. now they are stained and will not come clean. then they stole from under my xmas tree. My daughter was given a huge box or poney tail holders from a friend of her grandmas. There were three in a pack and she had like 50 packs. they were on clearance. Well they each took a bunch. I saw them have them at thier homes. should i be upset about the good napkins ruined and pony tail holders. or just forget about it.
2006-09-14 19:51:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my daughter questioned the one and she admitted to taking the poney tail holders and the other one lied and said she got them at wal mart. but the first person said yes they both took some.
2006-09-14 19:52:59 · update #1
well we are no longer friends. but they did clean my house for me from top to bottom.
after i had surgery out of town they told me i was not worth the price of gas to come visit. they were upset at me for questioning them about the poney tails. and also one of my daughters rock braclets I got her for christmas she saw one of the daughters wearing it, and it was no wear to be found in our house. so my daughter questioned here and said her grandma bough it for her. she finally said oh i feel bad you lost yours so you can have mine. well it was my daughters to begin with. my daughter was staying wth family while i was in the hosptial so was not at the house. i am more pissed about my cloth knapkins so things were not cheap.
2006-09-14 20:29:07 · update #2
my answer is:
YES. you should be mad. they damaged the expensive napkins and stole the ponytail holders. and they did it whilst you're bed ridden and recuperating post surgery.
NO. you shouldn't be. they cleaned and helped to tidy up your house. maybe they didn't hear about the cleaning rags (as some people just don't know how to listen to instructions properly).
my suggestion is this - forget about it. let bygones be bygones. you've got a lot more better things to worry about than small, mediocre things - items you can buy later on. what is important now is you should focus on getting better and about your sweet 11 year old daughter.
in addition, now that you know about your friends attitude, let it be a reminder and lesson for your future - don't let them help you again, but try to remain friends (they still helped, right?)
I wish you well and hope you will make a speedy recovery. take care and say hi to your daughter for me.
2006-09-14 21:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by skylinezan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...I don't really know. How is your relationship with these friends of yours? Did they keep their promise and get the house clean for you? Do you think that maybe they mis-understood about the rags and didn't mean to clean with your good white cloth napkins?
If they did everything with good intentions...then friends are more important than dinner napkins. I just can't think that someone would clean your house for you and do something purposefully mean at the same time.
As for the pony tail holders.....well I'm not sure about this one either. Do you think that your daughter gave them some of them? Either way, I wouldn't bring it up because it could open a whole new can of worms, I'd just watch my stuff when they're around for a while.
2006-09-14 19:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to make excuses for your friends, but maybe they left the tree up because they didn't know if you wanted it taken down. As for the napkins, maybe they thought they were dust rags. While the napkins are replaceable, the fact still remains that they stole from you. I would be a upset about that. Especially since you were lying sick in the hospital. I would try and get over it and move on. And I would also like to commend your daughter for staying by your side and taking care of you.
2006-09-14 20:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES you do have a right to be upset about it. Sounds to me like you don't have very good "friends". They didn't do as you asked them to do & STOLE your daughter's gift !!! Maybe you need to find new friends... :( Friends don't do this to friends. Did they know that they were expensive ? Even if they didn't know that they were expensive they should have used the cloths that you told them to use. Confront them. Let them know that you're not a happy camper. I hope all goes well... & I hope that your surgery went well. I can't believe they stole fr an 11 yr old !!! Esp a CHRISTMAS gift !!! :(
2006-09-14 19:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur friends had a good intension cleaning ur house while u were sick.....but stealing thing from other people is not a good example especially with kids....u better aske them to return the ponytail and forget everything, only if u still love ur friend or to save the friendship...tell them that u daughter is so upset and want that ponytail since it was a gift...now if ur friends still deny or dont want to give it back...lady u better stay away from them and find another friend... good luck!
2006-09-14 20:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by manycmint 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be upset about the rags, they were used in good intentions. The ponytail holders are no big deal you can always, easily, get more. Don't worry about the small stuff, if they took your stereo or T.V. then you should be upset.
2006-09-14 19:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by rswdew 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dood, I would be pissed. Next time you see any of these hair band thingies laying around your "friends" places, take them in front of the friend and say:
Oh, theres the pony tail holders I was missing, I could have sworn I left this under the christmas tree. How silly of me to misplace it in YOUR house *GLARE GLARE*
2006-09-14 19:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by kerozene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
would be upset if I were you, yes they cleaned your house for you but they also stole from you.
These people are not good friends, and you can do much better.
Forget about them and move on, you should worry more about getting better.
Good Luck
2006-09-14 21:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably just blow them off for a while if they bother to contact you. Maybe they will realize they were rude to you and end up apologizing if they ever valued your friendship.
Kudos to your daughter for helping out. Hope you are getting well.
2006-09-15 13:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by eddweeness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have the right to be upset. You completely trusted your friends and they just took advantage of you. When you think about it, they're not "friends" at all.
2006-09-14 20:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Meeya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋