Me and my Hubby have been together for 6 years and we are very much in love and happy together. But I've always been curios about being with another female. Not in a relationship but I've always fantisized about having sex with a female and lately I've been thinking about it alot. I told him about it once but I don't know if he took me seriously or not. He told me once that if I ever cheated on him with another female that it would'nt be cheating because it was with a girl. I still want to be with him ofcourse but I want to experience this sooooo bad! And I want him to know about it. I don't want to sneak behind his back. I guess you could say I want my cake and I want to eat it too. Should I go on with this or should I leave it alone,push my feelings aside and only be with the one I love?
2006-09-14 19:28:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Me and my Hubby have been together for 6 years and we are very much in love and happy together"
I think you already answered your own question.
2006-09-14 19:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no. Once you let anyone in your marriage, be it another woman or man -- you are letting someone into you most personal, intimate space and you will ruin your marriage.
Even if he is onboard with it -- you are going to be really testing your marriage and the whole trust issue -- even if you only do it once, he will always think you are doing it - whenever you are late, or out with friends, minds work that way ---
If you love your husband like you say -- maybe just have him dress up like a woman ;-) and have a little fantasy role playing !
2006-09-15 02:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were always curious about being with another female, you should have tried it BEFORE you got married.
If somebody is gay or bi-sexual, I can respect them and their choice. But it doesn't seem that you are either of these(?). In my opinion, lots of women are trying the lesbian thing because it seems to be kind of "in style" and considered "hot". Do you want to risk your marriage just to stay up with the times? On the other hand, if you do feel that you are truly bisexual, just try to resist the urge anyway. Lots of married women might want other men/women but they still resist the urge because they love their husband and momentary physical gratification isn't worth risking a good, loving relationship.
2006-09-15 03:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by SaraG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be sacred between a man and a woman, not between a man and 2 women. How would you feel if he wanted to be with another guy? What are u gonna do if like most men he wants to watch, and possibly even have intercourse with this other woman? the bottom line is this is between you and God and your husband.
2006-09-15 02:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by missouriaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, u shud push ur feelings aside and be with the one u love.. u said it right and thats what u shud do, alright.
do not fan your curiousity to set a flame that would burn all over your being and eaten the whole of your life. instead seek more ways on how you and your husband can find more exciting ways to kindle your sexlife together.... not doing the same and same old tricks on bed but try other ways, and positions too, alright .......love is the main thing!
2006-09-15 02:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by candee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should personally. I wanted my wife to do the same after being married 15 yrs. Finally she worked up the nerve and left me for this other woman. It is ok to want this I personally think it's hott as well. But you maybe dangering your marriage and not even know it. But good luck w/ what ever ya decide.
2006-09-15 02:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Been 2 I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm your husbands said it is OK and you say your happy....Sweaty your bi...seriously bi sexual your husband would love to watch every man loves the idea but he'd wanna join in ...over time he might get really pissed by the event or jealous just be careful.
Me I'd forget it because the consequences could be worse than the pleasure.
2006-09-15 02:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perversion. Evil thoughts you need to take off of your mind. A marriage is sacred, do it and kiss good bye your happiness. Even if you don't break that marriage, you will never be the same. Remember, one thing leads to another. And that could be your punishment.
2006-09-15 02:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Satisfy your curiosity!! only if your hubby is okay with it! However you should be ready to anticipate that your husband will also be turned on by it! If this doesn't agree with you, then don't do it! Leave the fantasy where it belongs!
2006-09-15 02:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by river 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own Question. and if you have sex with a female, That is what you call Cheating. no matter how you look at it, if you are going to sex with a female, then why are you still merried?????
2006-09-15 02:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋