Am I bad for duct taping my sons hands to the high chair so he wouldn't throw food?

Question

Incidently, he didn't seem to mind and ate like a champ. Prior to helping him he would smack away the food and throw it around. Totally innocent and felt ingenious.

Answer 1

Yes

Answer 2

Take the time to teach the child not to throw food. Some food will end up on floor, because that is part of raising children. If the child is old enough smash up food and let him feed it to himself with his fingers (unless he is learning to use utensils now) You did not mention age.
Do not leave room when children are learning to eat on their own, also being in high chair.
Please DO NOT duct tape their hands down, that is seriously wrong.

When the child won't stay in bed at night what are you going to do then, duct tape him in bed?

When the child is sick and vomiting would you put duct tape on his mouth?

When the child is older and goes outside without asking permission or waiting for a parent to go with would you duct tape him to the door?

When the child is older and forgets to use the potty chair, would you duct tape the child to the potty chair?

THINK FIRST

Answer 3

Your a bad parent. Don't care what anybody says!! YOUR HORRIBLE. How would you feel if someone duct taped your hands to a chair? Wow, you can't dicipline your kids at all? If he throws food remove the food....WOW that was a hard one to figure out. If for some reason you can't remove the food, remove the child. Put him in a playpen or a crib or in time out. But duct taping him. Maybe you should stop having kids if this is the way you parent. There are worse things then throwing food. Whats going to happen when he does something REALLY bad?? Go get parenting classes. Oh and maybe call the police station in your city and see what they say....

Answer 4

I don't know anything more about you, so I may be a loving, caring person, but you certainly have a bad idea!!!!!!

Give him a cracker or something not too messy to hold, and move the other food off the high chair since he is clearly young enough to be still be fed.

One thing that worked for me, when my children (and grandchildren) started to bat at the food, I used my free arm to block them from batting the food in the spoon, and they ate fine. If he is too young to give a cracker, give him a soft, washable toy to keep his hands busy.

Babies are learning all the time. Work with it instead of fighting it.

Answer 5

Ok this is how I see it, not everyone can be the perfect little dream parent, we all lose our temper and make bad choices. What you did was a bit extreme I would say and I wouldn't do it again, but geez people come on and lighten up havn't you ever lost your temper and thrown that bottle at the wall at 3 am? Had to count to 10? I think that they understand what they did was not right or they would not be questioning their actions. Just because we make mistakes doesn't mean we are terrible parents and deserve to be flamed. Remember we still learn from our mistakes as well. The child was not harmed .

Answer 6

you are a very mixed up mother, how do you expect you child to eat if you duct tape is hands to the high chair? maybe some one should tape your hands to the table. you child is not an animal! maybe if you hold the plate of food and spoon feed your child you might get alot more acomplished. (like making sure your child gets fed) a child does not know right from wrong. you better not ask questions like that on here because you will eventually get reported for child abuse . you are not very smart. i feel sorry for your child.you need parenting advise.how old are you?

Answer 7

excuse me ma'm im 34 and i have 4 kids ages 12,8,5 and 2 the oldest three are boys the youngest is a girl duct tape is painful you know dont do this i dont say that ur a bad mom i am just saying dont use duct tape or ropes just let him throw food around but tell him its bad kids that age throw food alot

Answer 8

How old is your son? Yes you didn't make the best choice how to control his actions when eating.....if you are not patient with your son they sense it and turn inside out with bad behavior...sit with him and talk calmly and feed him using that old " here comes the airplane" trick...(spoon/ airplane).....I know it drives you crazy trying to feed him but Pl don't do anything extreme....it's not a good idea....you could have hurt him without meaning to .....and also if he is on a good schedule like napping, sleeping, playing etc.....he might be easier to take care of..sometimes babies are fed when they are so tired they can't even sit up straight....so it's important to do things for them on time...I hope this helps....from an ole Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 9

I don't like it and I'll tell you why.Throwing, squishing and doing things with the food other than eat it are ways that babies learn and explore. It's perfectly normal, although it's a bit inconvenient for us. When he eats the food, you know he's hungry. When he stops eating and starts playing, you know he is either not hungry or doesn't want that particular food. It's a way of him expressing himself. The whole message of the restraints seems so negative to me. But that's just my opinion. If he didn't seem to mind, perhaps there was no harm done. I surely would never mean to suggest that you are "bad" for doing it. We all just do whatever we can think of to make it work. I do applaud your creative thinking.

Answer 10

i am sure there is a better way of dealing with your child's bad habits than physically restraining. Really, that is what i call child abuse, sorry but every1 has there own opinions

Answer 11

Yes, that is cruel and he will never learn not to throw it if you tape it. How would you like it if someone did that to you?