We're together already six yrs. We married because of baby. My husband is a man of boring and no surprise.
When we fall in love aft 5yrs, i already love another guy who younger than me 3 yrs, i know that guy and me are Imposibble cuz he also have a long-term relationship already, but we love each other.
Then, i'm initiative of give up to contact him, because i was tired for the ralationship like this. On the moment, i thinking about break up with my bf (my husband now), but i didn't because i hadn't chance to mention that... after few months, i'm pregnant.
So we married, he married with me for our baby, for me, for our future. but i just for my baby.
During we married i'm very unhappy, my husband treats me very well, but... i really dun know what to do... because before married i dun love him anymore...
And now that guy break up with his gf and look for me, asked me together with him...
Who can guide me...
2006-09-14 19:23:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GR8, may be karan johar's got the idea for producing KANK from u. But must say u have guts. First u became pregnant then got married with the same guy and then fall in love with other guy.
Leave ur present husband marry the new guy of ur life then one day u will get bored of this new guy and u will look for some other who can satisfy u in ur life.
I agree u dont love ur husband but dont u love ur baby. One day the baby will ask u y u left his father what will u reply him coz ur dad was got bored after marriage. Life has so many things to do. Ur husband has not changed in fact he becomes more responsible for u n ur baby. Support him n try to love him more, he married u whn u got pregnant he helped u, may be that time he can ditch u but he hasn't done like this. Dont break ur relationship just coz of a time being attraction. Try to do something exciting with ur husband.
Road side romeo u can find anywhere but true loves comes only once in life. Respect ur relationship coz this relationship has given a new birth to ur baby.
2006-09-14 19:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really looking for guidance or ae you hoping to have the best of both worlds? You are married. You should stick with your husband. You should not look elsewhere no matter how much you love anyone else. If you do not listen to this advise you are asking for unimaginable sorrow. Many already walk this miserable road. You will be destroying the lives of your husband child and of course your own. The best thing you can do for everybody is to honour your commitment to stay with one man - your husband. If there is less love there, you must build on it. You cannot marry one man, then start feeling special for another. Is the other man a good man if he knows he will wreck your family if he comes for you? Still you allow this? What does that say about the type of person you are?
The good news is that it is not too late. What you must do is to totally exclude the other guy. Have no connections whatsoever with him if you want to save your marriage. If you cannot do this, then you are already deciding to break up your family. If this is what you want to do, go ahead. There will come a time when you will not be able to turn back the clock to have your family again.
Don't take marriage lighty. The damage you can cause will go a very long way. Accept that your family is the best thing that has ever happened to you. Look at the bright side of you decision to marry and have a family. Things are not better on the other side.
If you are unhappy with this advise then you a already on a dangerous road. If you come to your senses and understand what you must do, then totally exclude the other man and all the stories of him, and demonstrate your commitment to honour your decision to love only one man. You will not regret it.
There is no happier place outside your good marriage. Don't treat your hudband as no.2. He deserves more if he has been good to you. Your life is in your hands. Think wisely.
2006-09-15 23:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you still leave your husband if this other guy wasnt available? Are you prepared to be a single mother? If you dont love your husband and never will it may be best to end it, especially if you have strong feelings for someone else.
Have you tried marriage counselling? Your husband must love you, but he probably has no idea how youre feeling! Im sure that given the chance hed do his best to win you back.
You only get one life, you should do whatever makes you happy, but remember you will probably be breaking your husbands heart if you leave him. He doesnt need to know youre leaving him for another man. And dont cheat on him with this new guy - you dont know for sure it would work out with him anyway!
2006-09-15 02:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a very sad mess your in and everyone else who is involved. i think you need to get into some counseling and see if you can resolve this one way or the other you have a child now who needs to be considered he/she is the one who is going hurt out of all of this. does your husband know about the other guy you are going to need some real honest open communication!!!
2006-09-15 02:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth fact of life, not always the loving couple will marry. Many couple married for 10 to 30 years, then discover the person they truely love is not their partner....sad!
2006-09-15 04:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to try work things out , stop looking outside. any way , you agree to marry him. he is not boring , but you are bored to him since you ahve no interest on him but through him , you fantasied the othr men, once he apperred , you got shock. because you were thinking the other guy. Good relationship and falling in love it is when you are trying. to work things out.
2006-09-15 02:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by tangind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u really need to choose, if not u are going to run yourself crazy. u need to decide what is more important to u, your love for the other guy or your love for your husband. you do have a family. pray on it and let God help u
2006-09-15 02:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok b4 u get married why didn't he ask u b with him.Wasay!Who's this guy?B4 he break up with his gf he only want your free milk.lf u really want 2 give it 2 him better u give it 2 me.U better stay where u r u know?Don't b trapped by him.Take care sweetheart madam.
2006-09-15 11:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i told you before seems like your husband is the better one in this marrage let the past be this other one knew you before am i not right in time you will see how wrong you are on this matter toward this other one. my opion?
2006-09-15 02:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Blur Blur, The only thing to do is listen to your heart,what is your heart telling you to do.Only you know what to do.Good Luck,and be happy.A friend.
Clowmy
2006-09-15 02:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋