weekend custody by ex husband?

Question

My lying ex (if you've read my prev posts) is taking advantage of his new status as married (yes, he married the woman he just met, saved him from homelessness and possible deportation), and gave notice that he will now exercise his right to take our almost 4 yr old daughter (who is forced to call his new bride mama)for his weekend visitation. my stomach hurts and she will be away from me for the first time since she was born, in a strange house (he moved into her big home), with no contact to me from 6pm fri to 6pm sunday. Stupid Texas laws, i feel like I have no rights, he doesn't deserve her, the unemployed alcoholic used to ignore her before, now he's playing father of the year. How am i going to handle this weekend w/o her? You can only do so much housework and stuff to keep busy. I don't feel like going out with my lady friends and you can totally forget a male friend for a long long ltime after this guy. I just want to curl up and tranquilize myself to sleep until she's back--

according to texas law, i am not allowed to move out of the county; and yes, he has the right according to Texas laws, they revised them to favor fathers more years back (i didn't know this, didn't need to know this back then).

Answer 1

You left out how often your ex has had or seen your daughter.

Please listen to my side of this. What I am saying is not to hurt you but to show you another side.

I was separated from my first wife and had contact with my daughter almost everyday for a year. I would pick her up for day care from her Moms. She was with me over night 3 out of 4 week ends and I loved every minute. Then the divorce was finalized and my ex made visitation changes that the court upheld. Not for any reason other than Moms get their way. I was almost emotionally destroyed because my contact with my daughter went for 365 days a year to every other weekend.

My point is Dads do love their children and no matter how much you hurt he could have been hurting as much. Your daughter should have contact with Dad and you should act very happy about it in front of her. It hurts so much but you will survive.

Keep busy. Make your daughter something special. Make something that will take two days to make. Go out. Visit friends. Fake your having a good time no matter what. It will get easier but dam it never stops hurting when you are apart

Answer 2

I feel for you -- this is really hard, especially the first weekend. I can tell you how I spent my first weekend -- not much sleep, I read, I watched TV, I paced the floor. It was the loneliness weekend ever, but you will get through it.

My husband or let me say ex husband, played the perfect dad thing for a while, bought my kids all kinds of things, movies, disneyland, the beach - every weekend -- but kids are smart.

They would say things like - Gosh dad is being so nice, what is wrong with him ;-) Eventually, they figure it out, or the dad gets tired of trying to hard and eventually goes back to their normal self. Your daughter is only 4 years old, so let her enjoy the time she has with him, try to relax and eventually you will cherish these times alone --- your own space to do what ever you want.

I love my weekend now - I can date, go out, and not worry about when I have to be home -- and better yet -- I can bring my new boyfriend home to spend the night when they are away --- so the ex is good for something now ! ;-)

Answer 3

Somehow I doubt this but hopeffully he has turned over a new leaf and wants to actually be a Dad. I hope for his sake he does.
As you know being a parent is very rewarding.

I know what you are saying about the baby being away. It is hard.
I work nights so Grandma and Grandpa take our baby so I can sleep. I miss her pretty bad even though its only a couple hours.

Try to be happy that she will know her father (bad or good) some kids parents never want to have anything to do with them.

Answer 4

I'm sorry I don't really have any advice I've not had this experience before, but even if you don't feel like going out maybe have a friend come over and keep you company.

You can also be clear with your daughter that she doesn't have to call this women mama if she doesn't want to and to tell them so.

Answer 5

hey i know how you feel about your baby girl..i know its going to be hard not having her around on weekends...well with me.. is me and my bf are together but we barely even talk or see eachother unless it has to do with the baby...yeah we are both 17..still in highschool this year is my last year im just geting homeschool until october then i go back anyways this weekend he wants our daughter to go over his house for the weekend...and i feel alone if shes not around b.c. ever since i was pregnant i stoped hangingout with my friends and i lost a few guy friends because of him...and plus its hard not having anyone to talk to b.c. no ones rarely home and i cant go no wheres cuz i cant drive yet...and he's always busy..so i know how you feel like you dont want to be bothered ..and you feel empty b.c she isnt around...and you cant wait until shes back..and plus she keeps you occu[ied since its just you and her...well just dont worry things will be fine and better..well good luck..and i hope you feel better....and i hope my little story help you feel like your not alone ..GOd Bless..

Answer 6

yeah, are you allowed to move away? and does he really have the right? is it spelled out in your divorce papers? he cannot simply assume he has the right, it should be granted or revoked by the court.

other than that, having been there with a similar situation, i say pray..... and hold your breath....

Answer 7

check out jobs far away...move