Would you 1 not say anything?
Two, confront her?
Three ask, for a divorce?
Or ask what you can do to fix the problem?
2006-09-14 19:10:42 · 23 answers · asked by Steve R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thankyou very much for your answers as I neglected to mention. I did ask her for a divorce we have two very wonderful children together who she left with me in my care she sees them every other weekend. She took her two oldest children and dropped them off at their fathers. To go with a man who is HIV positive.
2006-09-15 15:06:37 · update #1
Arrange your finances the way you would like and then divorce her.
2006-09-14 19:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by michinoku2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 then 3
2006-09-14 19:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. If it were a current boyfriend I actually think I would loose it. I also think that my response to a situation like this is not what would be the best way to deal with something like this, but honestly I really can't think of any other way that I would be able to deal with it. I would probably do 2 of the 3 things you listed. Confront and then ask for a divorce. Again, the boyfriend must be a current boyfriend, not someone from the past. That is a different situation.
2006-09-14 19:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have calmed down enough to feel you are capable of making a serious decision, ask yourself (as Ann Landers used to suggest) if you will be better off with her or without her.
When you are able to answer that truthfully, then you can choose between asking for a divorce or going to her and telling her you want to work with her to improve whatever is wrong. Not saying anything isn't a realistic option (or fair to you.) Confronting her (without a plan for either divorce or fixing things) is useless and can be hurtful to both of you. Take positive steps toward putting yourself in a better place about this, whether it's with her or alone.
2006-09-14 19:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-15 00:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depends if it was an ex boyfriend because my husband found all my old letters he plunders alot i was there and he read them he did not care. If it is a current boy friend i would confront her about it and ask her why she went to him and ask her how you can fix the problem and let her know that she is able to come to you when you guys have problems that she does not need to run off to anyone else. then if there is no way of fixing the problem then seek a divorce.
2006-09-14 19:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punch the boyfriend...
OK, that may not be a good idea.
First, find out if the letter is current -- is this from before you were married or last week - that will make a difference.
Confront your wife. Be prepared for the outcome. If she's not willing to give your marriage a try, and you don't have kids, you may be better off without her.
2006-09-14 19:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Skiingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get facts right first, theres nothing like blowing up a marriage when someones accidently got wrong end of the stick.
Be careful. My mum has latters from a boyfriend she had when she was really young, it doesnt mean shes cheating its just cos she doesnt want to throw the memories away.
2006-09-14 19:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by englishkeymaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to take a little time out to think how you feel about the issue and then if you want to make it work ask her what you can both do to fix the problem
you have a right to know whats going on but be sure first what you want out of this situaiton
2006-09-14 19:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to change the locks and put all her stuff in neat piles in the front yard. Call her and tell her they are all there ready to pick up and file for divorce.
2006-09-14 21:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him back saying that the doctor recently diagnosed you with HIV and that he might want to have that checked out since he likes your sloppy seconds.
2006-09-14 19:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋