I have lost interest in life? any solution for this?

Question

i have lost my 4-5 near and dear ones in a period of 2years, i have a kid of 8yrs. i am an educator by profession, my family life is good . some occasional financial ups and downs, i hv no complaints about that. my present pro is i hv lost all those ambition, curiocity and enthusiasm of being successful in career and in personal life. when i sit alone, i watch TV, internet, still i am depressed. in a 24hr period, sometime, i will cry for 3-5min, then i will be ok. i do housework slowly with my shoulder pain. i struggle alot before each lecture as i m unable to concentrate. somehow i manage myself , by deep breathe etc., i dont want my condition affect my students and affect their performance. but i m quite worried about my girl. she observes everything and i personally feel that i m failing to give her a good quality childhood. when i think of either present or future, i see absolutely nothing ahead. to my good luck or badluck, i hv been exposed to all negative and sad things sofar.

Answer 1

Please contact your doctor and get on some prescription medication and into therapy. You don't have to feel this way. There is so much help out there for you. You just have to reach out and ask for it. Please do this right away. You will wish you had done it yeaterday!

By the way, Cymbalta medication treats depression and the associated muscle aches that can go along with it. Check it out!

Answer 2

Have you had recent blood work to determine if you have an imbalance in your system? If you have and everything came back normal I am not suprised. You haven't given any medical information. If you are healthy by medical doctor standards you may have depression which is caused by many things. What makes you happy? Nothing? then it could be depression. Crying is a symptom of grief, sadness, depression, a loss, chemical imbalance, infection, mental issues and what doctors don't diagnose very well. The aging process takes a toll on the body. Your hormones are probably out of wack. Have you had your thyroid checked? Are you menapausal? Do you have a life threatening disease you haven't told anyone about? Is what you teach dragging you down? Where you abused as a child and have suppressed the memories? Do you like raising a daughter? Did you want a son? The list goes on and on. Do you take medicines? You have to explore all of this. Do you have a good support system? Are you a drama queen and seeking attention from family? Do you have a belief system? What hope do you have? Get down to what is making feel this way! Then find the cure! You have to do it because no one else will and it is up to you to decide what the next day, week year or decade will bring. What you feel is being projected unless you are a good actor/actress. You need to have some goals, interventions for this period until you find the cause or causes. Write down what you want to accomplish tomorrow that will make your daughter smile and make your students laugh. Plan a short vacation for you and your daughter. Something simple and easy. Change of pace and change of scenery. What did you do as a child that always made you happy and do that with your daughter or do what makes her happy. Play in the rain and mudpuddles or go to the beach and build sandcastles. Color a picture plan a board game. Turn off the TV the phones eliminate all the noise of the present madness and breathe. The world presents a negative angle on everything but what you believe and feel is affecting you and bringing you down. Don't continue the pitty party get out of the muck and mir and get some light back into your life. If you pray pray louder longer and then let go and trust and believe. Turn your worry into something productive and put a new spin on the way you teach bring color into your life. What color are your walls. Get rid of browns they will depress you! Bring in the blues and greens they are happy colors and calming colors. Red is a passionate color but also brings forth anger and impatience but a splash here and there is good. Redecorate! You have got a lot to do now get busy with the living of life.

Answer 3

You are still grieving and that is okay as 2 years is a short time and losing loved ones takes a lot of grieving. I think that you are judging yourself too harshly and should work on the bit of positivity that does exist in your life and build on that. Your little girl can then observe that persistence and strength and that most of all a positive outlook can get a person through very hard times. It is very imortant that you let yourself cry as this is an important part of the grieving process and by 'letting it out' you can begin to move on. Even if you have no will at present try to do something - even if it is a brand new fresh hobby or anything so that you do not dwell on everything that you need to move on from. Maybe a new hobby or activity with your daughter would bring you both meaningful pleasure.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You are most likely suffering from reactive depression as a result of loss. You have described most of the symptoms of depression.
I strongly suggest you make an appointment to dee your Family Doctor as soon as possible, It is very treatable and you do not have to live this way.
I would also consider grief counselling.
My first wife died when we were young leaving one son and I had no idea about dealing with loss and grieving. As a result of bad advice I carried on as best I could, remarried, had three more boys. My new wife wanted to come to Canada. More loss. I started to have severe bouts of depression every year and did not connect the unresolved grief till much later. Depressions got much worse as time went by and new marriage did not go very well. I eventually after 16 years walked into a funeral home off the street and was allowed to join their grief counselling sessions. I highly recommend it.
In my case, I was almost at a nervous breaksown and ebded up in a psychiatric hospital for five months where I completed my grief work.
I had been medicating the pain with alcohol all this time so I was blessed to find AA and am sober almost 12 years. My wife left with the younger boys but the boys came to live ith me as I got better
I have dysthymia and at least one major depression a year because it was not tackled in the beginning.

Do not make my mistakes and seek help now. Your daughter will benefit too, It is a horrible condition but there's lots of help and you will be glad you did.
God Bless

Answer 6

My doctor said I had moderatte depression and it seems to me like you have similar symptons.

I typed out somthing similar and handed it to my doctor because I knew if I went into detail speaking about it I probably would have cried too. Ironically I was nice polite and cheerful at the docs because I didnt want to blubber all over him.

My doctor has referd me to a pshycologist and I do beleive that this person will maybe get me thinking about things differantly.

Its not you going mental lots of people get depressed, but if you are feeling sucidal get to the doctors straight away!!!

Its much better telling someone in person how you are feeling or even with a note. My parents seem to not acknowlege I have depression and think I can snap out of it. As my doctor said its not something you can just snap out of it will take time. But your Doctor will be 100% supportive with you.

I'd reccomend going to the doctors good luck.

Answer 7

Go back in time to the day that 8yr old came into your life. you mention that you feel the future is without joy. Think of the dreams you've had for your girl and instead of diminish your hopes reestablish new ones. For a time live vicariously through the eyes of your child, she is gods gift that life does go on. Plan for a future, bring fairy tales to light, There is a child in each of us still as we grow, too often the child is forgotten. Remember one think and ask yourself in moments of dis-pare "am I going to remember this in ten year', probably not! Let it go... Go back each day to the first time you saw her face, counted her little fingers and toes, Her laugh and the touch of her hand in yours. Physical pain can be debilitating, try the mind over matter, it can be done! It might take some time to understand the measures involved but it is possible. Be patient, and remember to treat yourself everyday with some good memories, they cost nothing but a happy moment.

Answer 8

i know exactly how you feel i lost a friend, my gran, my father in law and then my mum all in the space of 3 months, i felt like i was in a black hole and couldn't see a way out it was even too much effort to make a cup of coffee, in the end i went to the doctor and had a 6 month's course of antidepressants, and after about 3 weeks of taking them i woke up one morning and it was the first morning in a long time that i didn't feel like just sitting down and crying. I've been ok ever since, in fact i embrace life and thank god for every day that i am alive, so my advice to you is go to your doctor tell him/her exactly how you are feeling, and don't worry if you break down in tears whilst doing so, i did and she was very sympathetic, hope all goes well for you good luck

Answer 9

It's difficult at first to do this, but you should focus on the living. As you state, your family life is good, so find happiness and support there. Spend as much free time with your child, teaching her about your experiences and learning to deal with them at the same time.

As said, this won't be easy at first, but it will get easier in time.

As for the lost loved ones, remember their lives and talk about them, with your friends and family. Relive the happy and sad moments you've had with them this way.

That's the best advice I can give you. Hope it helps some... I wish you strength and happiness.

Sincerely, Walter

Answer 10

[(energyunit{a physical object}) = ((relative)watermolecule) / C^2)]

where 'C^2' = "Absolute", and any proportion greater is what the mind perceives as negative...


"Uniti" is "1 energy" as in one baseball or like,
and congresses to yield gravity and the graviton; as well as indites magnetism and electric force... that is energy the phenomenom as an object in 3D space fer a base unit -- in the actual physical moreover the meausuremental.
Uniti forms Photon and Photon is mutated in stars to achieve all particles of Quanta, through Quark - as it be for the select which are in truth to which.
If you can understand that uniti is the object which is derive your very thought you may be able to append your depression.
The mind can control the color of uniti within it which controls the deffinition in 3D space of the uniti surrounding, God has the same power at large which is how creation incurred. The color of uniti -- energetic base / and IT'S 3D position simultaeneously define as a language Thought in communal with God.
So if you can understand this and further explore (uniti takes its color apartively (default) by Divine Judge of surrounding FORCE-UPON) how uniti behaves in Universe such as conceiving the uniti within electron when crashing into an metal... and the process of the energetic base being "reorganized" into Photon, and such, it could help your mental state.
Imagine: the electron's uniti is manipulated violently therefor new color is defined (through divinity) to the units...; and the whole science as you may make mental experiment. may help you.

Sincerely, Dest