My sisters getting married tommorow and I don't want to go. The reason is that she didn't invite me to her engagement and I barley knew recently because of pictures I found. She invited me but nobody told me about her engagement and I live with her. My dad wants me to go because he dosn't want to me embarresed I didn't go. I feel like I was excluded and everyones excuse for not tellin me is that they were affraid I might tell everyone because they didn't want certain people to know. I mean they(my family) were being sneaky about the whole thing and I feel like I shouldn't go. What should I do?
2006-09-14 18:58:45 · 24 answers · asked by rony d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The thing is that my Mom's side of the family dosn't talk to my family now because nobody informed them about the whole engagment thing either. The man's family my sister's marring into dosn't get along with my Mom's brother Mike because of a devorce and everyone in my Mom's family is siding with my uncle Mike.
2006-09-14 19:19:43 · update #1
how the devil do you live with her and not know!!!??
I would say in that case , if there is a reception show up late.
If there is not then go to the wedding, but leave right after if you feel like.
and watch out for this person...this sounds fishy.
2006-09-14 19:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did the family neglect tell you because you are a blabber mouth who can't keep a secret?
Are they just paranoid people?
I can understand there might be some people who could ruin a wedding and you wouldn't want them there.
But, they should not have to worry about people coming to a wedding uninvited, the ushers are supposed to check for those at the door and turn away anyone who doesn't have an invitation.
The truth will get out eventually and the undesireables will end up knowing they were excluded.
What do they intend to do then?
Go to your sisters wedding, have a good time and show her that you are have character.
2006-09-14 19:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny B Goode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK her if she wants you there.
I went thru something similiar when my older sister got married. It was during the summer when I was "visiting my dad"...I wasn't going to go...because I didn't get an invitation !
I went, only because I found out at the last minute; but I didn't feel right, I was hurt, and I STILL remember that she didn't think enough of me to send an invitation. And other then 2 weeks a year at my dads'...we lived in the same house ! If I had it to do over again; I wouldn't go.
2006-09-14 19:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by madamspinner2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer. Was it a life and death situation? Like if certain people knew- she would have been killed or something? If not...wow...it's quite something. Only you know your sis, though....we don't...do you guys normally have a good relationship? A wedding is such a major event in her life. Bite your tongue for now and tell her later- much later that it really hurt you that you weren't part of her engagement party...and I mean later....like before she breathes her last breath (before she dies...like years and years from now)...You do love your sis- no matter what, right? It's called unconditional love. Attend her wedding....- let go of the resentment- but use it when you need something to hit her when she doesn't expect it---that's what siblings do, right? Forgive her for now, because she didn't know what she was doing to you. Have fun tomorrow!!!
2006-09-14 19:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - first of off - they were wrong for not inviting you - that is a definete - no matter what their reasoning is. You are family and should have been included. With that same thinking -- You should also go to your sister wedding.
She is your sister and no matter what mistakes she has made, she is your family, forgive her and go share her special day with her. Just the fact you are there, will make it even more special.
Good Luck
2006-09-14 19:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by mama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was a surprise engagement party and the family planned it, not your sister, then you should go to the wedding. IF she lives with you I think it would hurt her that you weren't there to share her day. That was your parent's fault, not hers. I'd be pretty ticked at your parents. I'd also be concerned about why they felt you couldn't be trusted to keep the secret. Your parents probably made your sister feel bad about them not inviting you and so she didn't tell you about the earlier party because she did not want to hurt your feelings.
2006-09-14 19:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might regret later if you didn't attend the wedding so Put all bad feelings aside for now and attend the wedding. Maybe you can have a talk with your family and fine out what the big secrets are all about?
2006-09-14 19:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by nicknacpattymac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you miss your sister's wedding, this will be the mistake you'll regret the most in your life. so attend. Perhaps your sister had a reason. She'll come out with the reason if you talk to her or once the wedding gets over.
My wedding day greetings to your sister and your brother in law.
2006-09-14 19:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by zeus_christ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and sit for the ceremony and not the reception....tell her to have a nice life and when you get married, she'll do the same. we don't always get along with family, but they are family and we should at least try. as a gift, get her an organizer and tell her you picked that since she obviously forgot to include you and you thought having an organizer might help to avoid hurting people's feelings in the future!
2006-09-14 19:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love her then be there for her...if u feel uncomfortable at being there for whatever reason...don't go...weigh out the differences...see which one tips the scales for u...go with it my child...be brave...let no one bully u especially your family..u do things for a reason so u must find what is right in your own head....u will live with the choices u make in this world...your time has come to make that choice.go wisely grasshopper!! and don't get steppped on in the process either......smile..it's YOUR life
2006-09-14 19:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋