I did everything for my wife when we were dating, I even bought her a new car a while back, supported her through college and law school. She had a high paying job she just got quit that she got right before got married. She was made triple my salary and saved up money and quit her job. Now when I need help, she insists we have seperate accounts, and won't even help me out now that it is me who needs a new car, she dosn't even pay a lot of the bills, she doesn't even help out for the mortgage on the house and insists that I am the " bread" winner, while she goes out and gets her nails done, buys expensive clothing, and purses.
2006-09-14 18:50:10 · 16 answers · asked by Brian P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is mucked up!!! I got three words for this....
Selfish, Selfish and Selfish!!!
2006-09-14 18:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, so you married one of those women? I'm sorry! No, really, this is a "should have seen it coming" matter. I understand that in the beginning of a relationship like when you were dating it is customary to help the other person out...obviously in this case it kind of screwed you. It should have been painfully obvious if her gratitude for the things that you did do for her while you were dating was kind of few and far between. Basically, hunny, not all women are "so entitled," as you call it. There are some women that have no problem sharing everything with the one that they love, but I believe that you have created yourself a monster. Although, in some instances, as far as her going out and buying the things that she wants you can not really blame her...she earned the money to do it...I do agree, however, that she should help...so here is what you do. Those bills that she doesn't pay that much of...find a way to get her to pay them...if you dont have kids let those bills go delinquent. Let them shut off the power once I am sure that she will wake up from lala land after that.
2006-09-15 02:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there are more issues here than money. But to offer a little help.........make out a budget........if she wants to live like roommates financially then so be it..........split all the common bills 50-50 and give her the responsibility of her car, ins and personal care items. That will take some of the burden off of you and even things up a bit. Let her know that the "Bread Winner" went out the door in the 70's just like the one income household. Two jobs equals both pay their share.
2006-09-15 02:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the question would be is why are some relationships are out of ballance? I have seen that happen the other way around. I do not know, but I think that means you are with the wrong person. I know a woman that happened to and her husband had to send her to school when he divorced her after she supported him through law school and then he divorced her because he had outgrown her after she paid for his school. She went to law school too on his expense and he paid her bills. She is happy remarried and has 2 wonderful children.
She should make it up to you and it should be your turn now.
2006-09-15 04:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is spoiled because of you and you need to put your foot down...You can't be mad at her for doing this if she never asked you for any of the stuff you chose to do for her. But she needs to also understand that a marriage is about 2 people working together to build something and that it's not all about her.
By the way, your original question is stereotypical because it is classifying all women this way and it sounds like just your wife. Not all women.
2006-09-15 02:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea but I do know how hard it is to make ends meet paycheck to paycheck and I have to agree she should do her share before she asks for seperate accounts and she should go back to work she likes to buy expensive stuff but thats my opionion
2006-09-15 01:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks that she would be that way. Marriage is a partnership after all. I just don't understand how some women or men could be like that.
2006-09-15 01:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a conversation you should of had before you said I do.
2006-09-15 01:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should help u..as you have helped all the while...Talk her out of it...there must be give and take equally..and shes being unfair and selfish!
2006-09-15 01:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Smokie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered you last question, and by reading this question, it's YOUR ATTITUDE towards your wife. You need to back off. If I was your wife and you talked to me that way, I'd do the same thing. You deserve it.
2006-09-15 01:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Becca 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋