why is my husband an a** hole?

Question

He told me that our six year old daughter is better than me. He said she is genuine and not caddy. I said then you should go f*%k her then. Why is he like that I am a woman she is a girl how can he even compare us like that?

catty oops

Answer 1

Well, that fact that you asked your husband to go and F*%k your six year old daughter (regardless of your reasoning and logic) - I am thinking your husband is NOT the ONLY A**hole in this relationship.

Answer 2

what r U looking for? i noticed your outfit...just sayin'

and maybe u misinterpretted his response while U were incoherent. your question is phrased pretty "out there!" would u feel okay about letting a social worker hear that u actually told an adult male to f your child? maybe u will GROW out of this state, but do u ever feel embarrassed by your own behavior? do u ever say," if they don't like the real me, then f them"? do u feel upset when the father spends time with his own child? why would u feel upset? do u feel let down because your man isn't the close honey that got u pregnant so young? this sounds like a heated situation best left w/u both alone to think about your actions. this is a 6 yr old's life u are both responsible for. the child is the ONLY one in this sich who should be acting childish.

s-t-a-g-e...oops. i cannot believe u were worried about your grammar at that point! AT LEAST u are asking for help. THANK, GOD!

Answer 3

There are two problems:

1) You have put yourself in a mindset where you are competing with your daughter. That is bad for the equlibrium fof the family. It also sets dangerous precedents for your daughter.

2) Saying to your husband you should go F*** her then did NOT diffuse the situation. Saying things like that creates a perception that may not reflect who you really are. It makes you look like a 16 year old suburban spoiled girl.


My suggestion is to sit down with your husband and discuss your problems. Communication is the biggest part of marriage and most of the time overlooked. Be patient and don't lose your temper.

Answer 4

OK well i am the one who answered your other question about your other daughter. i hope when your husband said that and you replied your daughter wasn't in the room! yes he may be a ***.... and what he said was wrong but your response was even worse and i hope to god she didn't hear it. your arguing and fighting are only going to make your children act up and not listen. now i think i can see why your son doesn't respect you it sounds like his father doesn't as well. kids pick up on everything they see and hear. soon all your children will be acting up throwing fits and yelling they will do that to cover up your guys arguing and bad things being said. that's how they will get your attention act up so the two of you will stop arguing.as far as the genuine and caddy of course she is genuine the child she knows no better she is innocent in this and she probably picks up on the resentment he has caused between you and your daughter now. maybe counseling will help. something i hope will be done. kids don't ask to be brought in this world. we as parents are suppose to protect our children from this sort of abuse not encourage it. hope you will both seek help and i hope i was a help some how.

Answer 5

Well, we can see WHY he said that.

Any MOTHER that would tell a man to go F*** ANY CHILD-- MUCH LESS THEIR OWN--deserves to have that child taken away.

What is wrong WITH YOU ????

The 6 yr old IS genuine because she's an innocent....YOU, on the other hand; SHOULD KNOW the difference between right & wrong. And what you said about your own child
IS DEAD WRONG !

Answer 6

Some men are assholes and have to put others down to make them feel better about themselves. My brother is like that, he calls me fat, ugly, stupid, and says I have no friends over a dozen times a day. My dad is mean and once my mom ignores him for a few days, he stops and apologizes. Give him the silent treatment. What did your husband mean by better than you? But, that is kind of odd to say that to your husband about your daughter.

Answer 7

Hello, How can you talk like that about your own daughter!!! Your mad at your husband not your daughter.It sounds like your husband has a serious problem.If i was you,i would watch out for your daughter around your husband.Also,if your that unhappy with your marriage,leave that A S S HOLE.The whole thing is just to weird for me.

Clowmy

Answer 8

Sounds like you have issues if you would tell your husband 'why don't you go f*ck' his own daughter. Sounds like you are catty and that you are very immature and need to grow up. Get into counseling.

Answer 9

wow..u both have marital discord...first of all ..i am surprised that u would even say such a thing ..to go and F*&k yr own daughter is soooo crude it's beyond imagining !! R u that unhappy and seemingly jealous of his relationship with her..it makes u come off as immature and yes..jealous! grow up...as for him saying what he did to u...he is trying to get u to see something in u that u refuse to see....he says u are caddy...r u self absorbed??think only of u ?/is that why he said such a thing to u ? i have no idea ..but what I do know is that u guys are young and u need some help...so get it post haste darling!! yr daughter is not the problem here ...she is caught in the middle...leave her out of it! grow up...get help....TODAY.......for all of your sakes...

Answer 10

Um you told him to **** your six year old daughter? Who has the biggest issue here, really? He's a jerk for making such a ridiculous statement, but you're insane for even saying something like that. I think you cut your losses now.