Should a father who says he didnt want the baby have visitation?

Question

My ex boyfriend told me not to have an abortion three times.I didnt want the baby because we had just met and he didnt seem like a stable person. Each time I made an appointment to have the abortion he talked me out of going through with it because he said he wanted another child and called me a baby killer. After emotional abuse and once physical abuse towards our baby and myself I began to realize the idea to have another child was a revenge against his ex wife. Then a friend of my boyfriend told me that he told him he never wanted Terrence and I was the one who insisted on have the baby. Now in a custody-visitation battle I want supervised visitation and full custody. I dont believe that this ex boyfriend of mine is mentally stable and would be a bad father. Do you agree that I should keep our son away from this person who only wants to hurt people. He also has had to take Anger Managment classes twice and is on probation for living with me after he physically hurt my son and I.

Answer 1

Good question. When I called my ex and told him I was pregnant he said "How much is this going to cost me?" I told him "Nothing, it's not yours." and haven't talked to him since. Doesn't seem fair that they can come and go as they please in the kids lives but, they can. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Have you asked for a drug test? That should put off the court for a few weeks and you never know, he may test dirty and be required by law to have supervised visitation!

Answer 2

Yes,I believe this man should be allowed visitation because in today's society a child badly needs both parents. However, any visitation should be supervised by "The Powers That Be" due to your boyfriend's track record, and for the safety of you and your child. Keep in mind that people do change. Even if your boyfriend does not change for the better, your child at least deserves to have both parents in his life. In time , when your child grows older, your child may decide that he does not want this character in his life, but at least give the child the opportunity to make that decision. You won't regret it.

Answer 3

I would want to keep my child as far away from someone like that as possible but if the judge say he has the right to see his child then I would ask for supervised visitation. I don't think he will even show for those from the way you describe him.

Answer 4

Very thoughtful question. I think that if you feel he is a danger to your child, do what you can to keep him away, but dear, if he is just a jerk and an ******, I know it sucks to give him anything, but I think your child will benefit from the presence of a second parent, even if that second parent has nothing to offer other than his presence.

Answer 5

No, he's not stable, and shouldn't get custody. You're lucky he already has his abuse on record, because that'll definitely help your case in court. Stress the fact that he's abused you and your child before, as well as his anger management problems.
Good luck!

Answer 6

All of this will come in to play when you go to court. Have faith that the judge will do the right thing.

Answer 7

You are the most despicable person in the world. You not only wanted to sacrifice and kill your baby after you messed up, but having another baby to punish someone else? What are you made out of? May God have mercy on you. Please don't use babies to satisfy your evil desires.

Answer 8

with a rap sheet like that the courts shouldnt give him visitation.

Answer 9

I would keep him away from him.

Answer 10

Hell naw......screw him.....