Going to get mixed reviews from this one...
Ive been told by many that if you say your bi- well- your gay and just in the closet or in denial.... Ive been in a straight realionship for 2 years. We are happy, sex life is good... I've experienced both- and happy either way......
2006-09-14 18:25:17 · 18 answers · asked by mikey 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Congrats on your relationship. Best of luck that it continues.
I believe that people are born with their sexual orientation, some are totally straight, some totally gay, most somewhere in between. Kinda like hair color, height, coordination, etc. Pretty much seems like a no brainer to me. Of course, you have to actually be honest with yourself and appreciate that everybody else is not exactly like you. Apparently, that's a challenge for many. So sad, their problem.
2006-09-14 18:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Alex62 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Kinsey defined a 0-7 scale where 0 ment physically incapable of responding to sexual stimuli from the same sex and 7 ment physically incapable of responding to the opposite sex. In his findings he reported that 0s and 7s are extremely rare and that most people who considered themselves heterosexual were, in fact a 1-2, while most who considered themselves homosexual were 5-6. That left a middle ground, 3-4, which he catagorized as bisexual. For reasons I've never understood, most straight and gay people reject the concept of bi-sexuality. Masters and Johnson went so far as to include in their deffinition of bi-sexuality a lack of desire for any commited relationship. The argument is that since a commited monagomous relationship must be either homosexual or heterosexual, if someone settles down in one then that is their true preference and they can't have been bi. I had a very good friend in San Diego who chose to live in a commited relationship with a man and a woman. She refers to them, in all seriousness, as her wife and husband. I myself have had long term relationships with both men and women, and I would argue that bi-sexual people are simply more drawn to personality and character than to gender/body types. There will always be those who attack and condemn those different from themselves, that is human nature. Sad, but a fact of life. I can only fall back on a French philosopher, "I did not choose to be who or what I am, but, since it is me, I will neither deny nor apologize for it".
2006-09-15 02:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is hard to understand middle-ground sexuality for most people. For the life of me, bisexuality is perplexing. Not that I don't respect that persausion.
It has been my experience most bi's that I have ever met ended up full-on gay. It has been a term of sexual transition for coming-out for many. Most were never bi in the first place.
Its like being a vegetarian and eating steak for dinner everynight .. makes no sense to me.
2006-09-15 15:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, like you said you're happy either way. If you like both you are bi and if you're telling people, you are not in the closet. Get ready for alot of ignorant people that are going to answer your question. Don't let them discourage you, either. It's your life and all you have to be is honest with yourself and your intimate partners.
2006-09-15 01:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any issues with it personally. I'm a lesbian all the way and I guess it's hard for me to understand from a sexual point of view the desire to sleep with a man. I've been there and done that and it's not my cup of tea. I've closed that chapter in my history. But I have nothing against anyone who is bi. Whatever floats your boat is what I say!
2006-09-15 13:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinions on bisexual are they are humans and need to be respected and supported. I hate it when some gay people accused bisexual to be in denial. We don't know that. If they are happy with a woman or with a man. Hell, good for them.
2006-09-15 01:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Beckham613 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Few years ago. I met a guy, said he was gay. He cheated on me wit a chik a cuple of times. Wen i confronted him, he said hes bi. Dey fell inlove an r probs married. I have a feeling dis wer it started, da hole da want a dude an a chik at da same time. eventually turning into a stereotype, few months ago he told me he knows hes gay, but was scared of his parents. den never spoke 2 me again. Last i checked dey were stil an item. so i belive der r gays an str8s an da hole spectrum (i mean sumtines i get dis feeling 2 do a chik). but im happier in a gay relationship an feel more pleased wit gay sex. so im gay. many peeps r bi cause it falls all along. I feel sum of us r hurt an spread bad tings, dat happens, u know. Also dont care wat other peeps tink. u r wat u r. noting can change dat!!!! ur happy, an das all wat matters!
2006-09-15 08:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Imanobody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm same as you, bi, AND happily married, and very attracted to women. I am just comfortable in admitting I know what gets me going!!!
2006-09-15 20:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by TonerLow69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi im a bisexual male i have been married for 25 years i like it both ways al ways have i know im not gay
2006-09-15 05:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by blazer89man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That always pisses me off. I love my wife and have loved men. What else do I call myself?
I'd be in denial if I called myself lesbian, when I've loved men and boys and still get crushes on racecar drivers and UPS guys.
2006-09-15 01:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋