I went through the Lucinda Basset 15 week program and it has helped me alot but I'm still struggling with it. I'm in a year old relationship with someone I love deeply and anxiety has gotten in the way. We get into situations where I will overreact because I don't know how to communicate my feelings. For example we may misinterperate each other and in the process of trying to explain myself I may become withdrawn. He gets mad because I'm not saying anything then tries to get an answer from me. That's when I'll overreact and scream out something like "leave me alone". He's not perfect either and he knows. Anyone with anxieties have advice? Does anyone living in New York city know of a place where I can get affordable therapy or "good" therapy for this?
2006-09-14 18:22:33 · 9 answers · asked by babylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im not in NYC but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out you both need couples therapy. While he has needs, and is not perfect as you say, I think he could be more perfect. You deserve love and respect. Caring and nurturing. If you find you can not meet the demands of a relationship at this time then you may have to let go, or distance yourselves.
My mother-in-law went through this but her husband totally understood. You need a man like that. That's what you deserve.
2006-09-14 18:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 14:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on Lexepro...I heard it works really well. Less side effects too.
I tend to the same thing you do, you clam up. And you won't talk to him, cause
you don't know how to express your emotions. Sit down and have a heart to heart talk, and hopefully he will try to understand. It's hard to describe to
someone what being anxious does to you, because they don't know how it
feels....It is a very intense feeling. Just talk to him and explain that this is how
you are reacting. Come to an agreement with him, that you will open up more
and for him to be more supportive. But do go get something....some people
have traumatic stress disorder, and have bad panic attacks. You can't help it.
Lucinda means well,...but if it isn't working for you...get on some meds...it will
really help calm you. Buspar, is another, I've heard good things about. Don't
go on Paxil. Trust me when I tell u that. Try the Lexepro. And look in the
phone book for mental health services, alot of them have a sliding scale fee,
meaning they go by what you earn $. Some may be free..Good Luck with it.
2006-09-14 18:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to get some converntional health care. Try applying for medicaid and getting to a psyciatist who can direct your care. You may qualitfy for counseling or medication. You really need conventional care. They can help you. Try reading a book called Feeling Good It is old they probably have it at the library or a used book store. They have it used on amazon.
New York is a big city. I am sure some of the teaching hospitals have progams that you can afford or there are progams for people who do not have money. You are in a good place full of social programs.
Good luck. I think you can find your way.
Contact your local office of Nami
http://www.nami.org
2006-09-14 21:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait till you are in a calm, comfortable situation, and tell him you want to talk about how you both deal with some conversations. It seems like you have a good understanding of how you act, so you need to explain it to him. Tell him what you need from him when you act certain ways. If you need time to calm down before you can approach a situation (like me) then explain that to him. Then if you say "I need a minute to calm down" in the moment, he should understand that you need to take as much time as you feel necessary, and he should give you that space. But make sure that you still go back to the subject instead of leaving it unresolved. Otherwise he won't want to give you the time, because he wants it to be resolved.
2006-09-14 18:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-10 20:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the shrink and wasting a lot of money, they have more problems than you do, look up transcendental meditation on the wed, they have exercises that will really help, I use to have the patience of a maniac before so I know what your going through, also Yogi classes help and good exercise too.
2006-09-14 18:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as far as the therapy a good one and reasonable i would ask your family doctor i am surprised the program you were in didn't help you with that. ask them maybe they can. i also have anxiety and i don't withdrawal from him but i do act out and scream and yell. but i am also bipolar and now take a mood stabilizer. maybe try writing down your feelings to him even when there is no argument have like a diary and if he says something hurtful or bothersome to you write it down and then share it with him. all you can do is keep trying to share your feelings as often as you can so they don't get bottled up like i said if you have a hard time saying them write them it helped me. good luck to you i am sure it will all work out.
2006-09-14 18:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone needs a little paxel
2006-09-14 18:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dr_Phil_is_dead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋