i love someone so much i can do anything for him but my parents say i shouldnt love him coz his family background is not good that is his from a broken family and his friends are not good like respect for others and his father is a drunkard.also that he is not very trustworthy.his says he loves me but i am sitting on the fence whether to believe parents or the guy coz i love both and dont know who shd i trust to handle my future
2006-09-14 18:07:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust your parents coz they're more experienced. Don't be blinded by love. Analyze facts. If you become objective, you may realize that your parents are right. They care for you coz they love you, more than others can.
2006-09-14 18:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Muffin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only person who should be handling your future is YOU. Not your parents, not him, YOU.
Having said that, It's ultimately a decision, a choice, that you are going to have to make. As the saying goes, "the son should not have to pay for the sins of the father". If you have no reason to believe that he's a "drunkard" like his dad (side note: Who the hell says "drunkard" anymore?!), then his family can all be a bunch of pimps and hookers... you aren't with *them*, you're with him. It sounds like your parents are ashamed of your choice in men. Perhaps he's not up to their cultural standards? No matter. Your parents aren't dating him, you are.
In the end, you have to watch out for yourself. Your parents will always love you, even if they don't agree with your choices (and if they don't, then they weren't very good to begin with). Go with what you feel is the right thing, but always remember to keep one eye open, no matter which way you go.
2006-09-14 18:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Everybody tells me that boyfriend is bad news. His dad is know as crazy chris because he has a gun on side and a knife on the other. I told my family and friends just how much I did love him and just how much I wanted to be with him. I told them that if they did like that I was sorry. Thing is that if the family and the friends really love you they will be there no matter what. Your family will always be there to pick up the pieces if things don't work out.
2006-09-14 18:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by melissa84652 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents gave birth to you, but after you hit a certain maturity, they cannot decide your future for you.
You have the option of going with a risky life by moving out, and seeing if this guy is legit or BSing you at the risk of losing your parents (most cases, your parents will still be there, but there are some cases they won't, in which I wouldn't really be too upset because at least then you know you can't count on them)
If you go with your parents, you have shown that they control your life, or that you respect their judgement
However, I live by the rule that no one decides my friends/family but me, but thats me
2006-09-14 18:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by HL2k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is quite a question you have there. First of all you need to trust your parents as they have been around and know a few things. Your boyfriend likes to hang out with trouble makers. This is my advice, listen to your mom and dad. If he is hanging with other people who show no respect then he obviously is in agreement with them. If he is then it will be no time at all before he starts showing you no respect too. Trust your parents on this one.
2006-09-14 18:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust your parents. They love you. So what you're really choosing between isn't parents and "love", it's the love of your parents and "some guy." Guy's come and go in your life. He won't be the last one, but your parents will always be there. They have wisdom that you might miss with your emotions involved.
2006-09-14 18:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wonder of life is that you can take chances, make mistakes and grow in the process. any relationship takes a lot of work to be successful. you may start out completely compatible and as you get older grow apart. if this guy is a mistake it is not the end of the world. i have always believed that no experience is a bad experience it you can learn from it. mom and dad won't always be there to guide you through life. if your decision is a mistake at least it will be your mistake. how can you learn to make good decisions if you are not allowed to decide for yourself. if possible have a sit down with your parents and ask them to allow you to grow up and leave the nest. tell them you love them and your relationship with this man can never change that. assure them that you are not doing this to rebel against them. however, if they are not willing to give him a chance or accept your decision to be with him that you will not bring him to their home. this will mean that they will see less of you. tell them you would rather they get to know him better and give him a chance. let them know how important this is to you and ask them to support you in your decision. but, you do not have to have their support or their permission. this way it leaves it up to them how this effects your relationship with them.
2006-09-14 18:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,just sit at a corner and meditate for a while and think about this question no need to ask any one is ur life and think ur self it will be better.
if u need the suggestion its in ur question it self,think urself very care fully, u said that he is not from a good family his father is a drunker and his friends r not good. just think we can judge a person by what kind of friends he have.a person make s friends of his nature,means he is acting toward u,be care full.
if u ask me i say follow ur parents at present,and if u get other guy in future whi is really good than u can follw him
2006-09-14 18:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by srinuicon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't break up with your parents. And if you do, then you probably have a messed up childhood.
In my case, I always disagreed with my parents. But each and every time...now I can admit...they were always right, and only wanted to make sure I made the right decisions.
Love or Parents? Don't you love your parents?
Your question should be...sex or parents? Remember, your parents can't get you pregnant.....if you don't have a sicko daddy, that is.
2006-09-14 18:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Dr_Phil_is_dead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your parent my dear. They know what is best for you.
All parent want their children to be happy so they want them to be with the right person to fall in love. Sometime when you think you love a person you tend to overlook their shortcoming but when the reality sets in than they will regret.
How can you trust a guy whom you know only in a short while. To say I LOVE YOU is very easy, but to prove takes a real love. If he really loves you he will encourage you to listen to your parent. That is true love cos LOVE mean SACRIFICE.
2006-09-14 18:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋