I have been with my partner for two years now, and for the past 6mths or more I find it really hard to get (for want of a beter word) sex. I have tried talking to her but she blames the lack of enthusiasim on stress and uni. Any suggestions? Should I just move on (not that i want to, i just want to overcome this)?
2006-09-14 18:02:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try giving her a lot more attention and compliments. More romance like a warm oil massage, make her dinner, go on a date...etc. If that doesn't help you need to tell her how you feel, give her a chance before you just move on.
2006-09-14 18:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be a hopeless situation. How often did you two have sex before the marriage? Any number of things could be the problem. Your wife may be having a hard time fitting into the role of a married woman or fear of having to deal with her choices. I would hold off taking her actions and words personal right now until you see a counselor. Marriage can be a fearful, overwhelming thing and she may be lashing out at you PERSONALLY to get some space to deal but tell her that she really should try to talk to others about her "real problems". Believe it or not if it was your size, I don't think the marriage would've taken place. I knew someone like that and I CERTAINLY didn't marry him, believe me, I didn't do MUCH of anything with him again. I truly believe the problem is deeper than that.
2016-03-17 21:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am also a women and i can tell you from my own experience having stress,depression or anxiety can play a huge role in this sort of thing.i do not no if any of these things apply to your girlfriend or not. also some medications can be the culprit.if you feel your relationship other then this is solid then al you can do is try to support her offer to maybe see a counselor if you feel its necessary. maybe plan a little get away together a over night one i no that's a nice i dea women love that being taken away for the night or weekend. do little extra things like send her a email a sexy one inviting her to dinner. buy flowers for her. i wouldn't suggest moving on if you love her stand by her try to help her through this. if this hasn't always been a problem and you no she still loves you then help her figure this out try to be supportive. which obviously you care to be seeking help. good luck to you and i hope i was of some help to you.
2006-09-14 18:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your word choice is funny. Trying to overcome because you've been undercoming? Sorry, just amuses me. Seriously though, express to her that you have a serious need that needs to be satisfied. I explained it to my girl as like being hungry. It's a physical need that needs to be satisfied. Men depend on their partner to help them satisfy the need. Ask her how she would feel if she was hungry while you were driving 3000 miles and you refused to stop so that she could eat because you were too stressed out about having to drive so far. It's not about just you or just her. It's about caring for the other person. If she's not interested in stopping her car for you so that you can eat, then you know she doesn't care about you as much as you thought she did. Hopefully she'll come around for you, mine is still working on it but she's getting much better. Good luck!
2006-09-14 18:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left a boyfriend that was like that, only wanted sex once or twice a month.
Maybe its your approach, Try being romantic. Flowers, take her out to dinner, compliments, make her feel sexy.
Back massages.
And try talking to her about it, tell her if makes you feel unwanted and ask her if there is anything you can do to help.
Just dont pressure her, or get upset with her. I made that mistake with my boyfriend now, and it puts him off sex.
2006-09-14 19:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't surrender, by all means. If this girl is worth it to you, as you say she is, then work on it by telling her that you absolutely love her like crazy and want to 'make love' to her. Make it about LOVE. That way it isn't just SEX to her. Suprise her, too. We women can't get enough of a guy giving us a night away from everyday stessors. Well, really, we just don't get that enough from you guys. Run her a warm bath with relaxing music. Offer to wash her hair and then massage her scalp! That feels soooo good. When girls get their hair done the scalp massage is what feels the best. To have it come from you guys.....THAT hits the spot. When she feels nice and relaxed, clean and SPOILED by her love...........i bet she's singin a different tune. (Zach if you see this, I totally want this idea for you and I)
2006-09-14 18:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that sex has become routine to you. why not trying a different 'venue'. do you still act like you are still courting her? sex is NOT the only thing important in a relationship. court her again, i'm sure you did not do it before just for sex. rediscover each other. enjoy each others company once again. girls want their inner feelings carressed before they will show their sexual nature. again..... sex is NOT the #1 priority in a relationship
2006-09-14 18:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what masturbation is for... But in all seriousness, try and figure out if the sex is the number 1 priority in this relationship and from there your answer should be clear.
2006-09-14 18:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when there is lack of sex in a relationship it means that there are other problems. She doesnt feel close to you or connected or appreciated or something like that. So figure out that problem and fix it. Then you should have plenty of sex.
2006-09-14 18:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what uni is.
vacation would be nice. lso, is she on birth control pills?
that could do it.
Are you working to vget her in the mood (flowers, nice dinner out, bringing home a little something sexy to wear, sending her out for a massage or mani/pedi?
Good luck
2006-09-14 18:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by ladyalmalthea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋