i met a guy 4yrs ago and he left me saying he loved another girl and never loved me. he then transferred to another city.wher after 3yrs he contacted me again saying he wanted to earlier but didnt hv my number.so he says he loves me and says he didnt want to hurt my feelings coz he was moving to another city.then he says that i love him or not and i replied no but he knows iam lying but now i feel cheated and dont want to go out with again but he keeps saying i do .now to forget him and leave behind i dont know wat to do .how is it possible when that guy keeps txting and buzzing me night and day and also meets or sees me once a week.wat do i do to forget him coz none of my friends want me to go out with him either and neither do my parents coz they know how hurt i was when he left me 4yrs ago.
2006-09-14 17:48:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you are better off without him! if he did that to you once what makes you think he won't do it again?build up your self esteem,hold your head up and move on. its never easy to forget who you care for but its not to easy to forget what they did to you either.i'd have to say listen to your parents and friends right now.are you willing to let it take up time that you need to move on and break your heart again.you don't need that. look out for yourself!
2006-09-14 18:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by wolfeydifantasygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ain't love darlin'! if he is truly "in love" with you then make him work a little harder and prove it. Block his # from your phone, delete the txts w/out looking at them, or better yet read them and be as full of poop to him as he was to you 4 years ago! You need to ask yourself why he is only meeting you 1x a week, and where is the girlfriend he left you for? Chances are very good he did not "just say that" there really was someone else. Think about it: If he truly did not want to hurt you he would have simply said I'm moving, not there is someone else!! I don't know about the last time you were together, but this time is starting out as mental and emotional abuse. Chances are very good he is using you and your emotions for him! History has a way of repeationg itself. DO NOT let this man or any other man put you through something like this. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! kick his tail to the curb and move on with your life!!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 18:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by missouriaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the guy lost all respect once he said he never loved you. Whether it was true or not, its a horrible thing to say after being with someone for a long time. And if he tried to protect you by saying it, he's a coward.
Secondly, yes, you need to forget him. You can call your wireless phone compnay have have texts blocked, yes blocked,from only his phone #. And stop meeting with him/seeing him.
Send the right, clear message. He messed up, and you deserve better.
2006-09-14 17:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Future Stenter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not clear what do you want!From your question it appears you want affirmative responce. It appears that you have not forgotten him, & if you are permitted, you'll continue again. try to find out whether he is really serious. Ask him straight way if again he gets transferred, is he going to give you similar excuse again?& are you ready to leave your city for him? It depends a lot on what you are doing now. If you are a student, you can't go! If you are in job situation either you can get transferred or change the job. If you have crossed legal age to marry, ask him to approach your parents. If he meets he is serious, if he is not ready to meet,( may be he feels threatened , his parents can approach your parents) but if you haven't crossed legal age to marry, better concentrate on your career & study.
2006-09-14 18:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh you poor girl. That feeling sucks soooo bad. The only thing that will help you get over him is time. I had a girl in a similar situation and it actually helped me feel better to make HER feel like sh!t for once. Next time he calls you act like you dont care about anything he has to say, no matter how hard it is. I know that it seems evil and deceptive, but maybe a taste of his own medicine is what he needs!
2006-09-14 17:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by anondewd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe things with that other girl didn't work out. And he realize after all that he does love you. But it's been so long. I say you just move on and tell him to stop bothering you.
2006-09-14 17:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by CaliforniaGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with your feelings. Stop seeing him and stop taking his calls. He sounds like a stalker. You may have to go to the police and swear out a peace bond to keep him away from you.
2006-09-14 17:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats depression hun it hurtsd insdie and out and all over.. i was that way too . my ex fiance cheated on me and married someone else w hile still engaged to me.. i am a women yes. sherly crow says " the first cut is the deepest baby you know the first cut is the deepest but wen it comes to being lucky he's cursed but when it comes to loving me he's worse"
2006-09-14 17:53:46 · answer #8 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definately think this is depression
you dont leave somebody for another girl that you loved
and staright out tell someone you dont love them
my guess is he got dumped and is on the rebound
and since you fell for him once he porllys think you will again
2006-09-14 17:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by jane doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy signs his checks, "Manipulating User Loser."
Cut him off/out. Hang up. Return to Sender. Run don't walk to nearest Safety Zone. You have a date every night - with yourself - and you don't need to with whom.
Oh yeah, this guy is a NO NO NO NO.
2006-09-14 17:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋