Help, how come I cannot have intercourse with my husband?

Question

We're married last year but still has no one single intercourse. When i put my finger in, it seems the hymen and the muscle got tensed up and constrict my finger. But then after taking some deep breath, it opens up and let one finger in. I've checked with my gyn, she just said i'm fine and need to relax. In fact, i did not (or try not) to be tense up prior to his entering, but he feels it's obstructed. Is there any way that i can help myself to relax that part and let it less frustration?

thanks for your help.

Answer 1

1 word...accupuncture.
It's not a joke.
Otherwise, you need to try foreplay. As long as it takes. Getting horney is what makes your body ready for the actual intercourse. Sex is supposed to be fun.
Apparently you have never had sex before and are uneducated about it. It sounds like you're concentrating too hard. Sometimes, that can hinder rather than help. Have fun with it. Good luck!

Answer 2

Wow, you've been married a year and no sex? I think you are way too hung up on the size of the opening in your hymen. After all, it's designed for the man to bust right through it, not fit nicely into the hole. You really do just need to relax. I suspect you may have some other issue preventing you from allowing your hubby to break your hymen. Maybe talk to a counsellor instead. Really, it hurts for all of 2 minutes, and then you're off to pleasureville. Knock back a couple of brandies first...that'll relax you!

Answer 3

I've actually heard of this happening before so don't feel bad. I would look into things like yoga and Zen meditation. It is actually a muscle contraction thing and a state of deep relaxation helps. You might also want to look at using lubrication to start out with.

Answer 4

http://www.med-help.net/VaginalProblems.html

" Vaginismus "

* Vaginismus: involuntary spastic constriction of the lower vaginal muscles, usually from fear of vaginal penetration. If severe, this disorder may prevent intercourse ( a common cause of unconsummated marriages). Vaginismus affects females of all ages and backgrounds. Patients usually experience muscle spasm with constriction and pain on insertion of any object into the vagina, such as a vaginal tampon, speculum or diaphragm. * Note- Vaginismus usually has a psychological origins. It occurs usually after sexual trauma such as rape or incest. Please seek counseling and see your doctor.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus

Answer 5

Perhaps you can relax by having a couple of drinks of alcohol first.