my son lives with his 38 year old father and we have not been together for five years and i was even married ( and divorced ) in that time - i see my son about once a week and my sons father told me yesterday that he wanted to give me some time to deal with my divorce before wanting to ask me out again ( big shocker for me )
he said that since before i got married he has wanted me back and feels horrible that he did not say anything before i got married. he also felt bad about some of the reasons why he decided it would be best for us to end things in the first place and that he has since changed his his mind about those things ( ie our age difference )
he mentioned going out on tuesday evening and that he wants to take me out for the night so i told him that i would seriously think about it
what do you all think i should do ?
2006-09-14 17:29:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know i said out for the night i did mean out for the evening - just to GO OUT
believe me i know better now :D
2006-09-15 04:09:35 · update #1
If you think he's really the guy for you, give it a shot. If not, don't let the son situation get in the way and let it go. Do, what's best for you and your son. But, if he is the guy for you, then you'll have your family back together again. Trust your instincts.
2006-09-14 17:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by KTL1315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I am the negative one out of this group. You seperated from this man for a reason. He is fantasizing, and its getting the best of the both of you. Think hard about whether you want to put yourself thru it. Also, think about your child and what it would do to him if you didnt work out. I would just let bye gones be bye gones and find someone else. I have never been able to turn back the clock and make it all right. Been there and done that and made a big mistake. For me, once the love and respect has been broken, its too late and its over.
2006-09-15 00:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, there is a reason you two didn't stay together in the first place. More then likely he is just lonely and since you are familiar and he already has a kid with you and you are single and lonely as well......he figures why not. He wants sex and companionship and doesn't have any other options right now. Leave the past in the past and move on.
2006-09-15 00:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK 4 a date that's OK. BUT 4 something deeper you need marriage counseling. YOU need to resolve the problems that departed you the first time around. OR i am afraid it will happen again. BEST wishes star
2006-09-15 00:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out for the EVENING, not the night. Don't rush into anything and just see how things work themselves out - or don't. It would really be neat if they did.
Don't be hopping in the sack right off the get-go... . that is so immature.
2006-09-15 00:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to see where this goes.....go out with him.
But I would treat him like any other guy....not your son's father.
He gets no special privledges.....even though you have a history with him....take it very slow.....because not only could this turn out badly you're son could get his hopes up about the two of you.
2006-09-15 00:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if there are no hard feelings and you all can be friends life is full of chance take that chance Love might be in the air.
2006-09-15 00:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about how you feel about him. Since you two are older, you should be more serious. So is this a person you make want to get serious about. Is this a person who will make you happy. Is he really for you, ask those things to yourself. Then make your choice!
2006-09-15 00:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. if you still have a place for him in your heart, why don't you give it a chance. by the way, he's your son's father. nothing to lose but everything to gain!
2006-09-15 04:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by immortal1983 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go but don't you dare give up that precious little patch between your legs to him for a long while. That will proove to you if he wants you or her!
2006-09-15 00:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋