I am a man and it means a lot to me to have my partner or child to take my name, It is a sign of respect and I believe it shows commitment and trust
2006-09-14 17:28:39 · 12 answers · asked by tan2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im a firm believer in taking the husbands lat name....its respect, yes and its been that way for so long why change things?
2006-09-14 17:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by nawnndawn 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
So then if by your logic, having your child keep your name means
'It is a sign of respect and I believe it shows commitment and trust'
does that mean the same thing doesn't apply to women? Doesn't SHE deserve the same respect, commitment and trust as you do?
Why is it more important for YOU to feel those things than for her?
'Nawnndawn' said that since things used to be that way, why change them? Well we used to not allow women to vote, we owned slaves, and burned people at the stake. Does that mean we should keep doing those things because that's the way things used to be? You have a double standard.
2006-09-15 00:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be discussed and be mutual because while you think it is respectful, your partner may want to keep his/her last name for title purposes, such as Dr. So-and-so without disrespecting you. With a child, I think it depends on being married or not because people break up all the time after having kids and if the father is not in the picture, why should the kid have his name? Just my opinion.
2006-09-15 00:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by LovelyLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. These days it seems anything goes. I know couples where the wife kept her maiden name and then the couple combined parts of their last names to give their child an entirely new last name. People are so afraid that they will lose their individual identity, but they should embrace their husband or child as a part of their identity. Instead they are keeping everyone at arm's length. Whatever happened to "The two shall become one"?
2006-09-16 23:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by _me_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a professional person, then, depending on her career, it would be rather crazy for her to change her name - she loses the name recognition that she has developed.
I hyphenate my last name. I am not ashamed of my maiden name and see no reason to just drop it. By the same token, I am proud of my married name. Hyphenating the two just seemed logical. Our daughter has the same last name (unhyphenated) of her father.
If you marry a woman who has children by a different father, then why should they change their last names? That doesn't make sense to me.
Why don't men ever change their names? That would show commitment and trust, too.
2006-09-15 00:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the mother should take your last name, definately. But when it comes to the children it depends on how old they are and their contact with their biological father. If they have a relationship with their biological father you should let the child keep his last name, but if the child has no contact with him then I think its wonderful you would want the child to have your last name. When it comes to a teenager talk to them about it and help them understand what it is you want and let them decide for themselves.
2006-09-15 00:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Moneymaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My mom didn't take my dad's name b/c her father died and she wanted to keep her maiden name (her father's last name). When they adopted my two brothers, they kept their last names. It's kind of confusing for ppl when my brothers and I have different last names but it doesn't matter.
Eventually my mom just added my dad's last name onto her maiden name.
But I don't think it's necessary. I'd rather keep my maiden name. I like it too much. It's my father's last name and I'm proud of my heritage so I wanna keep it.
2006-09-15 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to the woman to make this decision for herself & you should respect her wishes.
Maybe her name means just as much to her as your name means to you.
2006-09-15 00:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup if u marry u should be willing to take that persons last name it is respectful..and it shows u are one!! when people marry they are family and most family members have the last name!!
2006-09-15 00:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. I am a female and I think it's pretentious and bitchy when women keep their maiden names, or worse, hyphenate their last name. It's just more of this modern day political correctness era we're in. There'll be women's libbers yelling at you, but I'm on YOUR side!
2006-09-15 00:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋