2006-09-14 17:15:06 · 21 answers · asked by st 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your family should be very important. But... you have (I'm assuming) left the nest to make a life of your own. If you are involved in a serious relationship and want it to progress to marriage then I think you should step back and analyze your situation. When you marry someone they become your family and they should be of utmost importance. You should love, honor and respect them. If you put your families wishes above your girlfriend's or wife's wishes it can turn ugly. You need to find a balance. If your agree with your family on many issues and not your girlfriend then maybe you haven't found the right one yet. If you are simply leaning toward your family because that's all you've known and you don't know how to be your own person then you need to find yourself before you can be a partner to her. It's a hard process in life that many don't accomplish. For yourself, figure out what you want. She wouldn't be feeling that way if there wasn't a reason. Good luck to you and her and God bless!
2006-09-14 17:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has some unresolved issues here, your family is important to you and is part of your world that she is becoming part of and may become a bigger part of in the future, and she should respect that if she hopes to become part of the family in the future, as you should respect her closeness to her own family.
ask her about why SHE THINKS you care for your family more thatn you care for her.
you do have the right to spend time with them, and your girlfriend is just that your girlfriend there's no married commitment there.
If it's about doing things with your family, see if you can bring her along and maybe she can get in on the things she thinks shes missing out on, but make sure it's cool with your family about including her, or even doing things with her own family when they go do things, like vacations and holidays.
2006-09-15 00:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by default everyone loves their family so you explain to her that it's a mutual relationship between you and your family. It's been there since you were born. The love for her is something totally different and try to make her feel special.
2006-09-15 00:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by brown_man_co 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes not your wife so tell her to get over it if she wants to continue this relationship. Like hello...if you care that much for your family that should show to her that you have good character and morally in good standing. Is she a drama queen?
2006-09-15 00:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is freaking right!! Family is family and she is your girlfriend not your family and certainly not God. If you marry her, someday then she will be at the top of your family list. Yeah baby.
2006-09-15 00:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by hopkinsezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the girlfriend. She should realize that family is very improtant to you and if she was worth your time she would try to spend more time wiht your family as well. Sounds to me like she is selfish and possisive.
2006-09-15 00:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by azile_wehttam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does family need to be in compitition with her??? u should care about your family!!! family will be there when u need them!! i guess i dont understand why she wouldnt want a man that treats his family well..and if its his kids..they should always come first..i have debated this myself many times..im a firm believer that we shouldnt come in between the kids and the parent!!
2006-09-15 00:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by chas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is important to you. When I'm with my friends or with the guy I'm dating at the time, I make sure they understand how important family is to me. I might ditch 'em to babysit my nephew. When my brother wants to hang out with me and my friends I let him. When my little cousin wants me to take her to the store, I'll take her.
It doesn't mean that my friends or my bf means less to me, it just means that I'm very family oriented and they're welcome to join in on my family's activies like picnics, movies, shopping, whatever. So just invite your gf to hang out with your family. And from hereon, try spending more time with her to let her know that she's just as imortant.
2006-09-15 00:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh... You SHOULD care more for your family. Family should be a priority higher than she your girlfriend. If she doesn't understand that...wow. How self-centered.
2006-09-15 00:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by xxGlamROCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She a bit of a control freak? Or are you a mamas boy? Of course you are going to love your family more than your girl friend. If you loved her more, she would be your wife.
2006-09-15 00:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by rera1397 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋