what should i do to build up my self confidence and b respected by others?

Answer 1

honey repect yourself first!!! then people will respect you!! And across always show respect most people that show repect get respected...its kinda like that old saying my mom usta say treat others the way u would want to be treated!!u are the most important!! sometimes just geting out and doing things helps with self-esteem!! join a fun class..maybe speech thats what i did across when i was in high school..

Answer 2

This is from myself's experience. First thing of all, you need to believe in yourself, love yourself, and respect yourself in order for others to do so. If you are a girl, your look is very important to your self-confidence. So invest more in your look, I'm sure that will make you more confident.
I think honesty and sincerity can help to be respected.

Answer 3

Make a NUMBERED list of all your good qualities; All the things you like; All your abilities; Your ethics; Your good relationships with others: parents, siblings, friends, school mates, work mates, acquaintances. This should be a VERY LONG LONG LIST. If you get stuck, ask someone you know what good things they think about you. Then once you have finished, you will be amazed at what a valuable person you are, truly. Then once you become aware of that, you will begin to respect yourself, and then automatically others will respect you.

Good luck

Answer 4

Believe in your own worth..treat yourself with respect...don't lower your standard of beliefs to appease or fit in with the crowd.
Treat others with the same respect asd you want to be shown...but don't be surprised at those who aren't respectful to you..that show you that they have little self-esteem...

Answer 5

Good question. I was asking myself the same thing not too long ago. You just have to take it one step at a time. I will share what I did and maybe that will give you some ideas...

I was totally low on self respect and confidence when I was 19. I didn't like what I saw when I looked at myself in the mirror or how I felt when I thought about the things I do with my time. It got to the point where I really didn't care if I lived or died. Then I was lucky enough to meet a man who turned my life around. No, he wasn't "Mr. Right." He was just what I needed when I needed it.

First of all, this guy didn't lie to me. Instead he let me face reality. I wasn't perfect, but he accepted me as I was. He actually turned out to be a real jerk, but that's a whole other story. What this guy did for me was to first get me to accept myself as I am, and then to give the world around me a chance to do the same. We ran off with the carnival. (Not something I would suggest to someone else, but it could be a good idea if you are grown to get away from everyone and find a 'new' you.) I admit, getting away wasn't easy. My whole family begged me to stay, but I knew that as much as they loved me - they were one of my biggest problems. I wasn't comfortable changing around them, but I needed to change.

Once I got away from everyone and everything that made me what I was, I broke the mold. It was hard, but I pretended to have self confidence and demanded respect from others. If they didn't show it, I simply pretended to ignore them. Slowly, this show started to become a reality. Once others started to treat me with respect, and I learned how good it felt, I started to really expect it. I started to see that I was indeed worth something.

My suggestion to you - first, try not to worry too much about the things you do not like about yourself. Instead, imagine who you want to be. (No, do not pretend that you are someone else, figure out who you want you to really become.) Then, decide if you would be better off going through some changes where you are now or away from those who know you. It can be scarey - When I left home all I had was a little over a hundred dollars, a lady saying she would pay me $200 a week if I was a good worker, some people I had just met telling me that it would be fun, and a couple of bags of clothes and stuff. But hey, sometimes taking a chance can be your first big step in the right direction.

Once you have decided who you want to be and where you want to become that person, just start playing the role. You want to be in better shape? Don't look in a mirror or anything. Just secretly tell yourself that you are in great shape and try to do what people who are in great shape do. You want to get over being shy? Tell yourself that you are a friendly, outgoing, and interesting person. Don't focus too much on yourself at first, instead focus on getting to know the good people around you. Show interest in their lives, let them talk your ear off, and if they still seem like a good person - see if you can go do something with them. You want to be respected by others? Tell yourself that you are a respectible person. Your past doesn't matter - focus on who you are and who you are becoming. If someone does not treat you with respect, then they probably aren't worth your time trying to impress them. Move on and they may or may not become interested. Just don't settle for less than what the new you will deserve.

Hopefully you get the idea :) I don't want to give you a whole novel on how to build up self confidence and be respected by others. I don't know much about your situation, but hopefully this will give you some good basic ideas on where to start. And remember, the best time to start turning your life around is right now.

Answer 6

Think about what you like to do -- and go do it.

Sounds simple, doesn't it?

If you like painting, take painting classes - become an expert at your field.

Answer 7

tell anyone that looks at you funny, or laughs at you to **** off and die, live your life your way, and dont let anyone push you around, dont just try to get respect, demand it. be brutally honest and even seem ruthless at some points, let yourself be cruel enough to show that you arent ******* around

Answer 8

bealive in yourself don't let nobody to put you down

Answer 9

be true to yourself