I'm a pretty shy person around new people. It is nearly impossible for me to make new friends by myself. If I don't know anyone in a class, I'll basically just stay quiet the entire period. And, I'm really bad at starting conversations, but I can usally keep up if someone else starts one.
I have kinda low self esteem and I'm pretty self-conscious.
I normally don't like talking to random people, or making random comments in class. But, I always have thoughts going through my head, but never say them because I think that they might be to mean, stupid, or weird.
Any suggestions on being less shy, or more open with people?
2006-09-14 16:39:34 · 8 answers · asked by ohnoes82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Practice talking in front of the mirror. Before starting a conversation, you should smile at the opposite person and think that "I can do it". Joining a club is a good way to be more confident.
2006-09-14 16:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by fiona_rabbit2013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-09-15 17:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like my daughter, and her's the good news, she's growing out of it. Every teacher she had through elementary, and now high school has mentioned it. But everyone likes her, except the snobs (but I don't need them do I,) because she is such a good person who gets in no one's face. People really do like you, they may think u don't care or like them because you are quiet.
My little girl started breaking out by joining clubs, setting goals in extracurricular activities, and exercising (I know you hate it but it will fire you up. Just be sure to get proper training.) Whether you like it or not the world needs more people like you. It can be such a rat race out there, and I'm proud, like my daughter, not to be part of it. Don't worry, you'll do fine. Be patient and the rest will follow. Thank you for taking part in Q&A. Have a nice evening ok. And don't forget school work!:-)
2006-09-14 23:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That actually very good. You should be shy. Because most people usually do not like you nor want to be friends with you. I learned it the hard way. I talked to lots of people but they do not see me as friends.
2006-09-14 23:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be super shy. Not so much now. I suggest watching a lot of tv and acting. I guess Having a passion for acting and singing brought me out a little. really helps!
2006-09-14 23:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure go online and talk to people you don't know for practice. this will build your conversation skills to the point where your more confident starting live conversations
2006-09-14 23:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u just have to go ahead and say something without thinking about it for a while before hand. I've done that, and after thinking a lot about it, I'm like, "Now why would I say that?" You just have to go for it.
2006-09-14 23:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by saying hi whats your name introduceing your self as who you are and then see were it gos from there.
2006-09-14 23:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by ebony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋