He has knocked down at least 3 doors in the time we have been together and now he is pitting me against our 6 year old, telling me how much better she is than me. WTF??? Any advice is appreciated.
2006-09-14 16:39:04 · 42 answers · asked by aouija 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take the kid and run...short and sweet...as fast as you can. You are a fool if you stay.
2006-09-14 16:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
How can he be pitting you against your daughter?? If someone says to you that any child is better than you (at what for goodness sake!!) at anything and, they are serious, do you listen!? I would think that a reasonlable reaction would be to question the comment and then turn your back, not buy into it! I therefore have a question about your perception: because you are not really pitted against anyone, are you. In the end, the pitting is your choice. As is your choice to stay with this fruit loop or leave. For some reason I get this feeling you are looking for excuses to stay, unless we give you good enough reasons to leave him. Thats not good enough. You too are cought in the cycle. Only you can break it. Make your choice and care for that little girl by leaving or stay with the creep and put her at risk. Choose, stop looking for poor excuses not to make a decision.
2006-09-14 16:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by twerf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you gotta do to get away from this man until he gets into some serious counseling - if he refuses to do that LEAVE him alone PERIOD -the next step after verbal attacks are physical attacks - DO NOT allow your daughter to grow up thinking this is the way should she be treated in a relationship - If you can't find the strength to take a stand for yourself - think about her and the fact that you are setting an example and the things that are before her are shaping her outlook on her life and will ultimately affect her future
2006-09-14 16:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away as fast and as far as you can!!! Before YOU become one of the doors he knocks down. Saying your 6 yr old is better than you means he is comparing this child to a wife and may begin seeing her as a mate...that will be devastating. Help is available. You must get away from this situation
2006-09-14 16:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster. You need to get the hell out now. Staying with him isn't good for you or your daughter. There are many programs in your community that will help you leave him. Find the nearest Battered Womens' Shelter and take your daughter there. Don't tell your husband you're leaving, just go..before something terrible happens to you or her. I hope things work out for you.
2006-09-14 16:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl I know you are scared trust me I have been in an abusive relationship, You need to get out and get out now. If you stay he will see that you are weak and thing's will get worse. I got beat and trown down stairs. I don't want that to happen to you. Take your kid and go it's the best for you and your little one. You don't want to keep your kid in the danger of your angry husband. I know it will be hard for you to move on and trust again, but you will truly find yourself a good guy best of luck and god bless
2006-09-14 16:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Colie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived in a violent marriage for 4 years and he tried all he could to turn me against my friends and family. My oldest daughter has had bad nerves since she was 3 because of his tempers. She is now 29 and still surfers. PLEASE GET OUT NOW. SAVE YOURSELF AND CHILD...
I had to learn how to fist fight, and how to make sure no one in my family knew what he was doing. I was so ashamed of it all.
I had 2 daughters and had to protect them also.
Please, dear, get out before you or your 6 yr old is his next victim and not the door.
He needs anger management counseling and marriage counseling.
Please talk to someone about help before it gets completely out of hand.
You and your child don't have to stay in this. A lot of women and children are murdered because of things like this.
Stay safe...
2006-09-14 16:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mary D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father has knocked down at least 10 doors in my house, but I still love him. He's a great dad.
2006-09-14 17:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just as usual and leave without a word for this unworthy relationship.Let him understand that you are a human of limits,Let him regret ,Make a good plan before leaving.No choice for you to chose/think to stay back,plan ahead and be strong to be on your own feet .One day you may tell me that you have seen the freedom....how it looks like,
2006-09-14 17:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Borneo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the f... out of there. Run like the wind. He isn't "the one." No woman deserves this and you can make your own decisions no matter what he tells you. Go to friends, family or a shelter and get a restraining order, NOW
2006-09-14 16:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Chick with pets 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take your child and get out. If you are afraid for your safety contact social services who can get you in contact with a women's shelter who will help to protect you and to get you back on your feet and help with getting a restraining order.
What you are going through is emotional and physical abuse. You don't deserve to live in fear!! For the sake of your daughter get out. Is he sexually abusing her which is why he is putting her on a pedestle???
2006-09-14 16:49:04 · answer #11 · answered by tod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋