I just started a new job about two weeks ago and there's these two other gay guys that work there. The're both polite but don't really treat me like they treat eachother or our gay customers. I'm not trying to get with either of them, but it's like they can't even tell I gay. That's kinda weird to me because I can always tell ya know. Any way, what's a way I could bond with the fellas so we could all be friends?
2006-09-14 16:36:32 · 15 answers · asked by Jeff 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why is this that important and borthered u alot? treat them the same way as they treated u. U can also be polite but don't be so kind to them. I don't think gay r always kind even if they met gay~ so who cares! think in a pro way! I always support u and your cruise line waiter job!!!
hope to hear from u!!!!!
2006-09-15 16:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Zac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps these two are just not very nice people, or maybe they feel threatened. There are many reasons for people to behave this way. It does not have to be a gay or straight issue. I've had the same thing happen to me in a couple of my jobs. I'm straight but that really shouldn't matter. People, no matter their sexual preference, their color, their culture have hangups. Maybe one of them has a "thing for the other" and you are a totally "HOT" guy. It brings out jealousy -- period. Just be yourself, be nice, but don't try to "make" them like you, sooner or later the ice will break and hopefully the three of you will become good friends.
I wish many blessings for you!
2006-09-14 23:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by fishergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen dude. U can try talk 2 dem. Say ur gay. If dey stil treat u **** screw dem. U cant b on ever1s good side. Ignore dem! ur special an dey dont even know it!!!!! (sorry bout abusing exclamation marks). I did read da ques, peeps who r polite dont have 2 like u! So plz understand, ur a person living, so life happens. Jst enjoy! hope dey will b frends wit u! Wish u luck etc. Yuove got my kisses
2006-09-15 08:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Imanobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue has nothing to do with gayness. It has to do with male bonding and friendship at work. Your two co-workers are already workplace friends who trust one another. They are also two males who trust one another and know one another. They are bonded to one another, as any others in their same positions are. You are the newcomer on the block. It doens't matter if you are gay, straight, bi or whatever. It will take time for them to accept you. Very few people bond right away at work with others and men (any men) take a much longer time to trust a stranger.
2006-09-15 03:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try too hard and just give it some time for you to break in your new position. When I stop trying , it seems people warm up easier. I have been at jobs where it took weeks or months for some people to warm up to me, especially the gay ones!
2006-09-15 02:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hint to them politely about things only gays would know about. Tell them about a club or bar you recently attended. Perhaps they are just cautious about letting to much information out, before knowing who you really are. It's work and not a social scene.
2006-09-15 11:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite them out after work for a drink at a local gay bar. That should break the ice.
2006-09-14 23:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have that one thing in common doesn't mean you have other things in common. Maybe your relationship style or fashion sense or idea of a fun weekend differs from them. You could always try talking about your boyfriend (if you have one), or whatever gay-related thing you did this weekend, or cute guys.
2006-09-15 00:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything small and subtle that you could wear like a rainbow pin, necklace (might be too obvious), or tie tack that only other gays might notice? Just a suggestion.
2006-09-15 14:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to let them now you are gay and talk about gay things to them and be more a part of their interests
2006-09-15 00:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋