I am Scare and lose.?

Question

I have just break up with my boyfriend, and i can not foret him. then now i just forout that i got his baby, anh i tel him and he ask mi to AB it... as if i give birth we will all suffer....

But i really want the baby but i am very very scare... i dun know what to do.... how? is it the best if i and the baby end our life here? I feel like maybe i should end my life so i will have to worry anymore... How i am really scare not sure what to do...

How? should i keep the baby or Dun keep the baby or should i just end my life with the baby with mi?....

I am lost.... What should i do?

If i tell family, they willl ask mi to get out of the house. and my dad will not want mi, i am really scare and i really dun know what t do...

Answer 1

First of all, ending your life is not an option! Many woman spend thousands of dollars trying to get pregnant and never do. God has blessed you with a baby and now it's your responsibility to do what's right for you and your unborn child.

Your boyfriend at this point, is a concern that is way down at the bottom of your priorities.

Situations like this, shows a woman there boyfriends true side. If they'll leave you now, then they weren't worth keeping in the first place.

I was so scared when my wife told me that I was going to be a daddy. The idea was always something I wanted, but in reality, I was terrified.

Now after 3+ years, I'm the happiest, produst daddy of all. My 3 year old daughter is my world and my new 9 month old son is awesome. Children are deffinetly God's greatest gift to us. The last thing I would ever do is to abort a child for any reason, especially at the request of some deadbeat, looser ex-boyfriend.

I'm sure that the next 9 months or so will be very trying on you. so, you must stay close to your friends and family, especially considering the situation with the sad excuse for a father.

Once you see that baby, you'll realize you made the right decision. Even if you decided to give up the baby for adoption, in hopes that he or she may have a better life with a family that's more stable at the time. Your options are endless, but either way, you'll know you did the right thing.

Please don't let the situation with the father cloud your judgement. You must be strong for you and the baby.

Remember that there's been parents and grandparents within your family that have been faced with much more difficult problems and through prayer and determination they overcame their obsticles.

Now it's your turn to be strong and set an example for your grandchildren and their children.

Bless you and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 2

Depends. Some do prefer more experienced women, some really don't. What's more important is your attitude and self-knowledge. Sounds weird, doesn't it, but it will make sense in a minute. Most men are dumb in the bedroom no matter how many times they've been there. Haven't a clue. You have to take them by the hand SHOW them what you want, and then make them do it. If it was left up to them, all you'd have is a 3 minute session of hump-a-rump. Give them that, and they're happy. So you've got nothing to worry about sweetie, if all you're worried about is coming up to scratch. The bar there is very, very low. There is no more to "doing it right" except opening "home plate" for him, at least from a guy's perspective. As for the rest, there are two ways you can go about learning more. 1) Find yourself an experienced and skillful lover you can learn yourself from. or 2) wait for the right guy to come along that is probably "the one", then take the time to explore each other. Reminds me of the joke about what all a guy has to do on a date to make the lady happy. A whole long list of things. What does the lady have to do on a date to make the guy happy? Show up naked with cold beer. Yep, simple as that. Stock your fridge with beer, pick something flimsy at VS, and AFTER you visit with gyno, you're good to go. The Pill and a Hymenotomy would be a good idea first. But only if that's the way you want to go with this. Nothing wrong with waiting some more, either. .

Answer 3

Honey, don't be so scared. If you want the baby, keep the baby. It is after all a part of you and a gift from God. You are not alone with the matter. A lot of girls have gone through similar situations. Killing yourself and your baby will NOT be the end of everything. If you need someone to talk to, there are many, many, many counselors and other people who will be there for you and with you along the way. If your ex wants to be in the baby's life, fine, but if he wants you to abort it, he's not worth your time and energy. This baby could be a great thing for you. You just have to give it a little while to sink in that you are going to be a momma to a beautiful child. And babies do something to people, when the pregnancy is going along they dont think much of it, but as soon as everyone sees that beautiful baby, they melt. Do not worry about what your ex wants you to do. Do what you think is right. If you need someone to talk to, please email me lynn21_2002@yahoo or go to a counseling center. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Personally I feel that you should keep the baby and don't kill yourself. If you abort the baby now, you may regret your mistakes during the later stages of your life especially when you are at the later stages of your life. No matter how hard life can be after you give birth the support from your parents is very crucial. Talk to your familes member about this issue. I believe they are the best person to help you to overcome this problem. Listen to their advice and think carefully before you made a decision on this matter. I do hope that you consider carefully before making any decision

Answer 5

think about your self here you sound very unsure your age and fiances should come into this having a baby wont bring him back and it may halter your chance of finding the right guy for you latter on go see a doc for options and your mental health and If i were you I would probably not have the baby at this point in life and remember you can always have children latter when your in a sound relationship and ready for both of you to have kids its the best way

Answer 6

Don't kill yourself with the baby. It's okay to be scared, but not okay to make decisions based on it. You can keep the baby, or put the baby up for adoption after he/she is born. Then your baby might get adopted by a loving couple who wants children of your own while you don't have to worry about taking care of him/her.

Answer 7

Calm down, don't kill yourself about it. If he doesn't want the baby then let him go his own way, whatever you do,DON'T abort the baby.There are countless parents out there who will gladly take him/her.And no you are not lost, talk to your parents or close friend. Find a doctor who will help you find a support group for people like you.. Just please do yourself the favor and don't murder an innocent child who didn't choose to be there, it was two adults who chose this.And best of luck.

Answer 8

You need to talk to your parents. You have lots of options besides abortion. You don't tell us how old you are but if you chose to have the baby and keep it you will need help. Don't kill yourself just because you are in a tight spot. You need to remember killing yourself is forever with no options.

Answer 9

u cant end ur life. have ur baby and raise it alone. its hard but ull love that baby more than anything uve ever felt. talk to a family member or a friend about it and maybe they can help u take care of ur baby if u have it

Answer 10

please do not end your life. everyone is inportant especially you! take care of yourself and the baby. if you want that baby you should be able to have it. But think of your options you have choices. There are people out there just like you. just waiting to help.

there's welfare, free training, free insurance, help lines, and people who will help!!!

also look to churches. they're filled with good people.

we love you!

If you need any help please email my mom:

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she'll help you find ALL the resources. You have options.