A girl in my grade went to a wedding a few weeks ago with her family i from what she said someone put drugs in her drink so she couldnt remember anything from the night. So today she says she found out she was pregnant. With the exception of her best friends I was the first guy she told this to. She said that i was the only guy she knew who would have a practical understanding answer. She told her parents and they dont know who it might have been either. She also said when she has her baby she wants me to be the so called "Father Figure" for the time being. What should i do to help her and what is the best way to help her?
2006-09-14 16:31:37 · 15 answers · asked by saintssuck51 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You have asked the exact same question every day for the last 3 days...maybe more I didn't go back any further. This girl found out that she is pregnant everyday this week? I think that she should choose some one as the so called "father figure" that at least knows that when using i as a word referring to yourself it must be capitalized.
It would help to know how old this girl is. My other question is it takes quite a while for the date rape drug to wear off so did this girls parents not wonder where she was.
If this is in fact a real question the girl and her parents need to report this to the police. I'm not sure why the parents haven't done so already.
2006-09-14 16:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say also get a list and talk to as many people at the wedding as possible the dude is bound to have bragged to someone about what he did, he more than likely wouldn't mention the drugs but someone else has got to know. If you think you can and want to be the father figure go ahead and do that but just remember if she meets someone eventually down the road this kid may have trouble taking the other man into their life that might make it harder. So just weigh out all you options all your friends and all the babies and don't forget to look into the future. Sounds like you maybe a little young to be taking on such a heavy load.
2006-09-14 23:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by niknac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to doubt your "friend" or be overly skeptical but her story sounds extremely bizarre and unbelivable....if she thinks that she was raped then she should have definitely called the police and reported it. Her parents should have called the police as well....this is just a really strange story. If I were you I would have a lot more questions for her. Have you thought that maybe she does know who the father is but she just doesn't want that guy in her life? Don't let some pregnant chick sucker you into taking care of her baby for her. Maybe she just knows that you are a nice guy and she wants to take advantage of you by having you buy stuff for her and the baby. I know that if I were supposedly raped at a wedding my mom or dad would be freaked out and making a huge deal about it...they would definitely have called the police.....My advice to you is be on your guard and don't be gullible....meaning don't believe everything she tells you until you have done some investigating of your own. I know from life experience that desperate pregnant single teen moms will do almost anything to get a man to take care of their child for them.-----oh yeah, ask to see proof that she is pregnant. Buy her a home pregnancy test and make her take it. She may be lying about the whole thing just to get money and gifts out of you.
another thing....people typically don't bring date rape drugs to weddings ....LOL....unless you live in West Virginia I suppose.....haha....Weddings are normally filled with trusted friends and relatives....so the fact that she supposedly got raped at a wedding is too ridiculous to be true....don't trust her as far as you can throw her is my advice....she wants attention and I wouldn't indulge her if I were you.
2006-09-15 00:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is being entirely truthful with you, I am shocked that her parents would not go to the police immediately. This is rape, pure and simple and needs to be investigated.
Before you go out on a limb for this girl though, make sure she is being truthful with you. Try to find out when her period was supposed to be to see if the wedding date fits with when she supposedly got pregnant.
2006-09-14 23:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by I'm_Bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant understand why she chooses you to be the "father figure" when she has a father (grandpa of her child) who is more of a blood relative to her than you. Just be a friend to her and dont assume further "responsibilities" as the "father figure". Help her find out the real culprit of such crime.
2006-09-14 23:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by jet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get into some counseling to help her with all of this! If you want to be there for the kid you are a stand up guy! There are too many dads out there who do not take care of their business (My dad was absent) Good Luck To all of you! (just don't sign the birth certificate! that will only cause too many problems!)
2006-09-14 23:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by rye252000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to help her is to just be "there" Listen to her, have your shoulder ready for her to cry on, it's hard to know that she was drugged and raped. Don't force her to report it, support whatever decision she makes. I would suggest to her, that maybe she should go see a counselor to talk to also.
2006-09-14 23:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by melashell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she knows she's pregnant only a few weeks after the wedding, that's unusual, most women don't find out until they are 5-6 weeks along.
2006-09-14 23:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would get a list of everyone who attended the wedding and have the police investigate.
2006-09-14 23:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by awesome_chick2009 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be there and give her your endless suppport. tell you are proud of her for being so strong throughout everything, and that it will work out in the end. let her know she won't be alone (you, her parents, and friends etc.), and that she can count on you for anything. you could buy her an "i love mommy" bib.
2006-09-14 23:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋