Well, I am Black and this guy [ whom is white ] finally asked me out and i said yes. The problem is that both of our families don't like the idea of crossing the "ethnic barrier".We are determined to make this work out though. I am having a Family Reunion this coming up week and I was pondering whether to invite him but i have no idea how they are going to react [ my family members ] to him being "white" any suggestions//ideas//reccomendations are greatly appreciated
-Thank You,
"Yoyo :D"
2006-09-14 16:29:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
its a tricky situation..but i feel you should go with what is important to you..but i do suggest that you let them meet him before hand.. try to talk to them...first reaction I'm sure will be very rude and upsetting..that's how my family acted..saying that they didn't deserve to be treated like this and so forth..i told them that not once did they ask if i was happy..they are just concerned about what others will think..all i can say is too stand firm behind what ever decision you make and no matter what ..still be respectful to your family (even if they are not)..do not give them any reason to say you have changed or anything like that....good luck....
2006-09-14 16:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as their is no abuse from either of you, it should be no problem. I'm the kind of person who thinks as aparent and sibling, you hurt my family member, I'LL HURT YOU. look around at all the ethnic mixtures going on now without prejudism. I think it's good that some of the culture clashing and bashing is over.
2006-09-14 17:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by bopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Bring the young man along and show your family that you are proud to be seen with him. If they have any prejudices, well at least they will know your stance on the matter and that you are not going to back down.
If he is a nice guy, I am sure he will win them over.
Best of luck to you both
2006-09-14 16:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your family really does love you, they'll accept him for the sake of your happiness. Just give them a talk about being respectful before he actually meets them.
Interracial couples rock!
2006-09-14 16:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You konw... its only the older generations these days that really even care about ethnic backrounds... youth these days have completly melded together (except for those stupid racist assholes) but ne1 who is racist is now looked down upon in this age.... so you should be happy about your bf and if your parents can't except that then that's their problem and not yours.
2006-09-14 16:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tho Deep ught 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im tell u one the F your family members don't u ever let them control your happiness it doesn't matter if they are family
2006-09-14 16:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by ms fitness 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
bring him so your family can see that he is ok, and it is all good,,,,,,,,,
2006-09-14 16:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋