My daughter is 15. She is upset because she has to get tutored after school. She only struggles in math. Everything else she does really well at. But, she's embarrassed more than anything, and doesn't want anyone to know. And, to add insult to injury, no one has asked her to the dance that is coming up. How do I alleviate the stress right now?
2006-09-14 16:22:40 · 14 answers · asked by lester 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ohhhh, I feel for her. Just explain to her that everybody has something that they aren't good at. Remind her that she has so many other things that she does well, that this isn't such a big deal. Einstein himself couldn't pass a math class!
As for the dance....well if nobody asks her, don't make her sit home alone that day. You two should leave town for the day and go do something fun "just us girls". This way she doesn't have to watch everyone around town getting dressed up for this dance and she doesn't sit around wishing she'd been invited.
(on a fun note, I too wasn't asked to very many dances but I was great with hair and makeup. So, my mom helped me put together a kit and I did all my friend's hair and makeup on dance days that I didn't have a date, making a nice bundle of money. I got to go shopping that night with my mom. It's a fun memory for me! Turning lemons into lemonade!)
2006-09-14 16:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one asked her to the dance she can go with a couple friends if she would feel comfortable doing that, a lot of girls and guys end up doing that anyway. About getting tutored thats nothing to be embarrassed about tell her that math just isn't her best subject and she is smart in everything else so why even be embarrassed, other kids are probably getting tutored too but just hiding it like her.
2006-09-14 16:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not doing to badly than. At least she is still going to school.
So don't say anything about private tutor.I'd be proud of a daugther who is taking the time and effort to improve on her maths. Certainly nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.
Mum do your daugther a favour.
Does she have other good friends Male pref of course that you could ask for her to take to the Prom.
I'll let you in on a secret. My son also same age, too shy to ask a girl to his formal, So I rang an old girlfriend of his one week before the formal,she was absolutly delighted.
He always kept in contact with her, she was public school my son Private, but alovely girl.
Because they were at different schools, he wasn't sure if it was allowed. But mother knew best and asked anyway.
He was over the moon, alittle embarrassed at first but total neat.
Had a wonderful evening, spent next day with friends and got a hug for my intevention.
Still has that shyness even to this day, wouldn't have it anyway.
Unfortunatly he never married her But to this day still keep in contact
2006-09-14 16:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know... this is tough but you have to let her deal. This is reality and sometimes (many times) reality is not what we would like to be. It is a hard fact of life. Just help her through, support her through her tutoring and remind her that she does not need to be asked to a dance to be a beautiful person. In fact, alleviating this stress for her does not teach her to deal with life, it teaches her to run. Just be there for her, take her to a movie, dinner, play a silly board game... Teaching her to deal with these small (in the big scheme of adulthood) issues now will allow her to deal with big things later and she will thank you.
2006-09-14 16:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Maths is not really a girl thing, she sounds really smart. Find a few stories to tell her of people who were very successful after failing how many times. (there are plenty) help her with her Math. And get her someone for the dance. Please be sneaky about it. Get her a lovely dress, hair done etc.,
2006-09-14 16:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaww I have been there I suck really bad at math, but I didnt let that stop me, Im in a really good college, and im doing great so far, still not good in math at all, but I did not let that one obstacle keep me from going after what I wanted which is a college education, also, tell your daughter to invite some girlfriends of hers to the dance, boys that age are really dorky and nervous around girls so she should not worry.Im 19 so not too long ago I was in her shoes
2006-09-14 16:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by goldieluxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 08:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need help somewhere down the line of life's highway and it could be possible she is SO DROP DEAD GEORGEOUS that guys are intimidated by her looks that she is unattainable( Guys are worried about being rejected by her as I and My friends were when it came to pretty girls being asked out ,so let her take the first step and ask a guy to the dance
2006-09-14 16:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. That is tough. But relax. Millions of people struggle in at least one subject...especially math. I know...I do. It's nothing to be embarressed of. I even yell to my friends, "I suck at math. I draw horrible.." But just talk to her and make her feel better. Take her to a special place, make her favorite dish...But being a teenager is one of the most stressing times of your life. Even to parents, when their kids have a lot of troubles. Just talk to her. She's not the only one who's struggling in math. Believe me.
2006-09-14 16:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Carrot Cake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter to say "so what?" to any of the tauntings she might receive, since it defuses their arguments. Or, she could just say, "I asked my mother to hire a math tutor for me, because I want to go to college, when I graduate."
There have been several girls on this site that have not been asked yet. If there's a particular boy she's attracted to, and whom she feels is interested in her, tell her to say to him... "I've already picked out my dress for the homecoming." When he asks her who she is going with, have her say, "Well, with you, silly, if you ever get up the nerve to ask me." : )
2006-09-14 16:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋