How do you get over a woman who you've been married to for eleven years and she ups and divorces you for no re

Answer 1

she dont want u...i know it sucks but life is too short to dwell on it..so move on ..again hard to do..u want answers but she may not want to give them too u...so just let it go..its prolly another man..so just take some U time n then get back in the game

Answer 2

First of all, I am sure there was a reason. There is always a reason why people get a divorce. It may not be a "good" reason but it is a reason nonetheless.

You don't get over someone you love overnight. Allow yourself to grieve the loss, cry be sad or whatever. Then you move on, one step at a time. If someone doesn't want you, you can't force it on them.

Whatever you do, don't rush into another relationship. Take an inventory of yourself. Figure out what you are all about. Work on you for you can't change anyone but yourself. Without doing a whole lot of reflection on your previous relationship, you will get a revealation of what went wrong in the past and hopefully won't make the same mistake twice.

You might say, "I didn't do anything wrong". Maybe you made a wrong choice just by being with this person in the first place. Oftentimes during the honeymoon stage, we see the red flags but we are in the goo goo ga ga stage and can't see the real deal.

My ex said he didn't know why I wanted to divorce him either. I guess he thought it was normal to argue all of the time over nothing.

Answer 3

Well, that is a painful life lesson, hopefully one of the most painful you ever have to endure.

There is no magic to be found that will make the hurt go away. There is too little information in the question to hazard a guess as to the reason she left. Regardless of the validity or lack thereof in your opinion, or anyone else's opinion of her actions, it was apparently valid enough for her to leave, and if she has filed for divorce, she is not looking back.

As trite as it sounds, you must move on. The trick is how to get through this next year.

Some of the best advice I got is: Don't deny yourself the grief, go ahead and have your little "pitty party", but focus. When you are feeling sorry for yourself, do so, and do so fully and wholly. Turn off the television and media. Don't do anything else while you are feeling sorry for yourself. I never got beyond about 15 minutes. By that time, I was tired of it and went on to something more interesting.

It took about a year, and then one day, I realized that gradually and imperceptibly, I had gotten a better outlook, and things did not look so hopeless and grim. The following year, I also made a decision to sell the house and go back for a higher degree at college. Very therapeutic, but maybe not an option for everyone.

Best wishes, you have lots of grief work to do.

Answer 4

Unfortunately the reality is that NO woman leaves a man for just no reason, it could be a case in which she was telling you all the time what her frustrations were and you didn't think they were a big deal or she could have not shared them with you at all and kept them inside and decided one day that she couldn't take it anymore. The best advice I can offer you is to learn to listen carefully to what a woman says to you because a lot of times we are telling you what we are frustrated about but for some reason because men tend to discount our feelings -even to the point of telling us that we are ridiculous for feeling the way that we do - men end up alone and wondering why thier good thing is gone - as women everything stems from how well we are emotionally and how well we are cared for and cherished if anything is lacking in these areas chances are you will be dealing with an unhappy woman - when all of these areas are taken care of you can be guaranteed that you will be living your fantasy with a woman who doesn't mind you telling her some things and she doesn't mind "fellowshipping" with you in the bedroom either

Answer 5

OMG people..can we have some compassion here. Dont get drunk, he probably doesnt drive a better car, and you dont have to get over it ASAP. Geesh!!!! I'm so sorry and I know love can be blind. In time you might realize it was the best thing she did or she will realize how stupid and selfish she was. If you love her that much you dont get over it but time can heal and someone else might help you recover. Life is a learning process and we fall to learn to pick ourselves back up. Start doing something you've always wanted to do and do it. That hobby you wanted to do but didnt have the time...now you do and drown yourself in it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope I, myself never have to feel this type of pain and sorrow your going thru. Best wishes.

Answer 6

oh there is reasons
you failed to see them
but who cares
you got your freedom
if anything you should shake her hand and say thank you for liberating me
and then go out and date with a clear mind
trust me it will be a mental mind screw for her
she will not handle the fact that you can walk away so easily
this you MUST do
don't be a crying wimp of a man
be a man instead

Answer 7

One thing you don't want to hear: there is a reason even if you don't know it. But the reason doesn't matter even though you may feel you need to know it. It's irrelevant. What is important is that you know it takes time to grieve and let her go. You have to, not for her but for yourself. Get help, focus on your self-worth, reinforce the positive things about yourself to yourself. You probably don't want to hear this either but eventually you'll have to forgive her. That's not for her either, that too is for you.

Answer 8

Could it be that she is just not willing to open up and talk about it. .as far as you are concern, will you be willing to divorce her even for no reason at all? What God had join together, let no man separate asunder. For poorer or for richer, in sickness and in health, till death do you part.

Answer 9

I used to think it was time but the truth so I have just found up is to forgive her for all the reasons she hurt you not for her but for yourself and move on a man not bitter by the experience but richer.

Answer 10

realize you deserve better and start slowly moving on!
its hard ,been there,but you cant mope and beg the one who left to fix it,why did they leave etc...
go out and get a new outfit new hair cut,new cologne,and do something YOU enjoy,smile a little and realize you are alive and life can be worth living!good luck