Hi All;) .. What would you do about a two-faced co-worker?;)?

Question

Someone at your office, is nice and appears to be your friend... You may have gone to lunch together, let him/her borrow your car, or just been a helping hand.... But behind your back he/she tries to sabotage your reputation, tell others things you have not said, or is just down right devious....
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How would you deal with,it?????
It can also be another place then the office..
This is just an example;D
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Thanks, for answering in advance!;D

Thanks, but this isn't about "me"....
This is a general question.....

Answer 1

I would totally avoid that person/place.

If all they do is bring you down by ruining your reputation and back-stabbing you/him/her, then I would suggest examining the environment and the people therein and ask yourself if this is truly worth your time and energy. That simple. I did just that. I was really tired of my negative workplace environment so I left, luckily I haven't been kicked out of my parent's house cause I'm still a student... So yeah, don't risk your reputation or health just because of a co-worker/supposed-friend. But I wonder why anyone would do such a thing, it makes no sense, after people find out the truth they look stupid themselves...just a word of wisdom...Hope this helps...
---By the way, either I'm really nastalgic or you remind me of someone I used to know?? (never mind my stupid idiotic ***)......

Answer 2

Well, it depends on the answer you're looking for - here's a sample - choose the one that you want lol:

1) Toughen up, kick their *** back in return.
2) Sabotage them back and become wily like a fox
3) Refocus your energies and let them simmer in their own sour
sauce
4) Take a hit out on the person - there's nothing like knowing the
job's been well done to help you feel better...
5) Let them borrow your car, and cut the brake lines... (what?
who said I could only provide one revenge answer?)
6) Think happy thoughts and remember that little thing we call
Karma.
7) Remember that their true colours will come out to those you
know and people will realise what they're really like.

But seriously. That last one. I know it's small comfort when you probably want to exact revenge especially when they're being so unprofessional.

Is it worth talking to this co-worker or are they the kind of person who would then turn your words against you or get suspicious that you're on to them and then try to turn others against you further?

People like that have trouble keeping their true self under wraps for long so whilst it's not much comfort to you right now, keep being ethical, keep doing the right thing and keep being the better person with dignity. Also make sure that you keep your head high and nose clean - no point being at that person's level and expecting to come away smelling like roses if you've been flinging your own poo!

Just keep hoping others will wise up to this person's antics and distance yourself. There's no point putting yourself out for a co-worker who is sabotaging you. So take better care of yourself.

Answer 3

What a great question! This happened w/ my hubby. His friend had just come back to town, started working at the same place as my hubby and he needed a place to stay for awhile. So he stayed w/ us. Well, he was talking all kinds of crap about my hubby thinking people would find him funny or whatever. I totally called him on it while we were around several other people. And I told him if that's the kind of friend he is going to be to my hubby and his family then he's not welcome in our house. Not only did he lose the roof over his head, but all the "friends" at work when they found out that the stories he was saying were false.

Answer 4

Here you go, darlin'. Say this:

Can we chat for a sec? Thanks. It doesn't matter how I got this information, but I've recently learned that you've been saying things about me that aren't true.

I know that sometimes I have a hard time expressing myself, so in order to keep anything I say to you from being misunderstood and repeated incorrectly to others, I'm going to have to stop being your friend.

From now on, unless it is absolutely necessary during the course of business, I will not speak to you. This is my problem, and this is how I've chosen to solve it. It's something I need to do to safeguard my professional reputation, which I take very seriously.

I'm sorry if my decision hurts your feelings, but I intend to make it known that any information you choose to share about me from this point forward will be of your own creation. Thanks for listening. Good-bye.

Answer 5

I think that if this is occuring you need to distance yourself from that person. Concentrate on the job at hand. If it still continues even after you havent had contact with them then i would report them to management for harrassment. You just need to be sure that someone will back you up.

Answer 6

You will find, throughout your journey through life, that there will be people like that in every place you'll ever work. You just learn to ignore them after a time, and hope they fade into the sunset.

Answer 7

It's time to not be so giving, and then they can't be so taking advantage of you and playing you for a sucker. Start putting some distance between you two with every excuse you can.

Answer 8

don't go eat with them
tell them you are busy
don't lend them your car any more
after a few time they will get the message
those kind of people do this all the time and
when they can't get any else out of you they will go on to some one else.
and that's the way they work

Answer 9

Tell me where you work, I'll take her out back and kick the s*** out of her for ya, or if you prefer something less dramatic, let me know what works for ya!
Hope you smiled if not a little laugh.

Answer 10

See now me..i would confront the co-worker with evidence from others that he or she has been running his or her mouth about me, so he or she couldn't lie without ruining there reputaion in the process and becoming known as a liar. and then i would end my relationship with that person......simple as that