I'm still in love with my ex husband and he still tells me he loves me too we still have a sexual relationship but he is living with someone and she's pregnant due nov. what should i do?
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2006-09-14 16:16:40 · 18 answers · asked by alew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are ex's cause we had no money and needed to separate
he is planning on moving back in with our daughter and I when i get my own place back
2006-09-14 16:27:35 · update #1
he is only living there cause he feel guilty that she got preg he's not even sleeping with her past the night she got preg he refuses too
2006-09-14 17:13:00 · update #2
What you ought to be doing is stay as far ....... far away as you can from your husband, cause clearly he' enjoying d both of you,
and of cause he'll keep telling you he loves you it's beneficial and profitable for him.
I can appreciate that you love him but sweetie,don't do this to yourself because you feel you love him. You need to accept he does not love you the way you need to be loved. So the first step to start loving yourself and learning to stop loving him by staying away from any sexual intimacy with him and this will give you space and time to think about what you are allowing to happen to you which equates to - abuse. Next is for you to appreciate that you still have feeling for him but you don't have to act on them.
Talk to friends and family and get them to help you whenever you feel yourself weakening to giving in to your need for him.
Finally , sweetie learn to love yourself and believe that you deserve better that what he's giving you.
2006-09-14 16:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible situation to be in. I know that emotions get in the way but maybe you should sit back and read what you just asked. I'm sure you already know the answer. He's your ex. Things didn't work out before so what makes you think they'll work out now? Especially since he's cheating on his current lover who's pregnant. That really doesn't reflect much moral capacity on both your parts.
Move on.
2006-09-14 23:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he is living with someone else who he got pregnant and is sleeping with you, he doesn't seem like a guy you should trust. He isn't respecting her unless she knows about the two of you. If you are a secret, I'd leave him alone until he splits with her. If you are not a secret, then maybe you should tell him you want a relationship. If he doesn't want one with you, maybe he is being a jerk and milking you for free. Not trying to be rude here. Be honest with him and yourself. Respect yourself first though. Don't ever be someone's secret playtoy. If he can be this way to her, could he do it to you too? Is he with you because he's not sexually attracted to his pregnant girl? Be careful in this situation. You deserve to be with a man who wants to be with you all the time and can be with you and wouldn't want to keep you a secret. Good luck.
2006-09-14 23:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by choppergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of "ex-husband" are you having trouble understanding? Why in the world would you even be with him?
Why do you let him live with one woman and have sex with you? Have you no self-respect? How can someone stoop so low?
2006-09-14 23:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a single man
2006-09-14 23:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus Christ get rid of the bastard before he ruins the rest of your life. Let me guess why he's your ex husband because he cheated on you.
2006-09-14 23:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP hurting your self. you know you are not going to get him back(and you want to). So just stop having sex with him. move on with your life. Remember there are reasons he's you EX.
2006-09-14 23:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and date for now to see if you can get over him and see what happens in his relationship with this pregnant gal. He has responsibilities to her...
2006-09-14 23:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that is only with you and doesn't feel like they are sooo great that they can string along two women.
2006-09-14 23:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by karicat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should back off he is with someone right now and he is ready to be a father you need to stop this becuase its stupid really go out there and find someone who isnt willing to use you for sex
2006-09-14 23:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋